What's The Male Equivalent of an Attractive Woman?

[SymphonyX7]

An attractive woman basically has life on a silver platter - she gets hit on by 2350325820582 men the second she steps outside of her house and generally has a line of admirers wherever she goes. No dating rules really apply to her - men everywhere want her

 

 

Is there a male equivalent of this outside of maybe being very famous? Obviously there are way way way more attractive women than rich and famous men so the analogy wouldn't be valid.

[madjac74]

An attractive woman basically has life on a silver platter - she gets hit on by 2350325820582 men the second she steps outside of her house and generally has a line of admirers wherever she goes. No dating rules really apply to her - men everywhere want her

 

 

says who?.......

[Buddhist]

An attractive woman basically has life on a silver platter - she gets hit on by 2350325820582 men the second she steps outside of her house and generally has a line of admirers wherever she goes. No dating rules really apply to her - men everywhere want her

 

I think you have a very skewed idea of what being an attractive person is like. For a start people don't hit on you the instant you step outside your front door, nor do they constantly sprinkle you with gifts and affection. Mostly what happens is that people feel unable to pay you a compliment for fear of your ego being inflated and instead find it necessary to take you down a notch on every meeting with negging. The ones who decide they have no chance at all talk **** behind your back because they are bitter about their lack of chances and think that they may as well channel it into deciding you are vain and narcissistic. The ones that do think they have a chance will spend the whole time with you pretending they're not really into you because they don't want to seem too keen in case they lose you. Some of them will turn manipulative and try and bring your self esteem low enough that you will never leave them. They feel the need to control with a power struggle.

 

In between all of this you then have the stalker class who just get obsessed with you and whatever fantasy they have in their head and they are creepy as all get out.

 

And if you are very lucky, you will meet someone else in your boat who neither fears nor worships you and you have a chance at normal relating. This is the life of highly attractive people. It's not at all the fairytale that average people think it is. They don't have the pick of literally anyone because 95% of people they meet are too insecure to actually relate to them on any kind of normal level. They are stuck with dating the other 5% who also experience the same phenonmenon.

 

So to answer your question, it's all a giant myth. I know this because I know people in this boat and it's hideous to watch the circus that constantly surrounds their life.

[SymphonyX7]

I think you have a very skewed idea of what being an attractive person is like. For a start people don't hit on you the instant you step outside your front door, nor do they constantly sprinkle you with gifts and affection. Mostly what happens is that people feel unable to pay you a compliment for fear of your ego being inflated and instead find it necessary to take you down a notch on every meeting with negging. The ones who decide they have no chance at all talk **** behind your back because they are bitter about their lack of chances and think that they may as well channel it into deciding you are vain and narcissistic. The ones that do think they have a chance will spend the whole time with you pretending they're not really into you because they don't want to seem too keen in case they lose you. Some of them will turn manipulative and try and bring your self esteem low enough that you will never leave them. They feel the need to control with a power struggle.

 

In between all of this you then have the stalker class who just get obsessed with you and whatever fantasy they have in their head and they are creepy as all get out.

 

And if you are very lucky, you will meet someone else in your boat who neither fears nor worships you and you have a chance at normal relating. This is the life of highly attractive people. It's not at all the fairytale that average people think it is. They don't have the pick of literally anyone because 95% of people they meet are too insecure to actually relate to them on any kind of normal level. They are stuck with dating the other 5% who also experience the same phenonmenon.

 

So to answer your question, it's all a giant myth. I know this because I know people in this boat and it's hideous to watch the circus that constantly surrounds their life.

 

 

 

You need to limit this discussion to attractive women only

 

 

Attractive men have it slightly easier than average men but it's not that much of a difference. I'm a pretty good looking male, stocky/athletic build, impeccably well dressed and I couldn't get a date if the entire fate of the universe depended on it.

 

 

My sister, whose maybe just a tad big more attractive female version of me, had more dating options at 15 than I'll have in my entire life combined and multiplied by a 100.

 

 

Among my male friends who are good looking and buff, they mostly have the same success as my average friends - some get dates, while others are permanently single

[Rejected Rosebud]

No there is no male equivalent. Attractive women are gods.

[SymphonyX7]

says who?.......

 

 

says reality, I grew up with 2 good looking sisters who were absolutely worshiped by the time they were 15.

 

 

My sister was getting hit on by attractive and very successful men in their 30s when she was 20

[casey.lives]

Good body.pretty face. has something going in her life. friendly and easy to be around. someone who finds him attractive.. and someone who make him feel happy.

 

.. what i gather..

[madjac74]

says reality, I grew up with 2 good looking sisters who were absolutely worshiped by the time they were 15.

 

 

My sister was getting hit on by attractive and very successful men in their 30s when she was 20

 

So what? I don't get this. Do you have a crush on your sisters? Guys attracted to younger girls...shocker!

[Buddhist]

You need to limit this discussion to attractive women only

 

 

Attractive men have it slightly easier than average men but it's not that much of a difference. I'm a pretty good looking male, stocky/athletic build, impeccably well dressed and I couldn't get a date if the entire fate of the universe depended on it.

 

No I don't actually. When you rate yourself as attractive, I don't think you're rating yourself in the very small percentage of highly attractive people. These are people whom make others go weak in the knees just being in proximity. They are leagues away from the regular joe, even the regular good looking joes. I know some people like this. Your OP implied this is what you meant.

 

Not to diss you or your sister, I'm sure you are more attractive than average. But your post kind of painted the picture of those very rare individuals who

inspire stupidity in the general populace because they are the one in a million, stop traffic kind of people. It's actually a hell of a lot easier being good looking average, those people get easy dates and are never single. Because they are both admired but still seen as regular people and others can relate without finding them to be surreal. They are simply in demand average people.

 

If that is what we are talking about then the male equivalent of that would be a guy rating about 8-9. Easy enough to do, workout, get some fashion sense, hope you have good bone structure, get a decent haircut. But don't expect women to flock to you off street corners.

[Rejected Rosebud]

So what? I don't get this. Do you have a crush on your sisters? Guys attracted to younger girls...shocker!

Not to mention what is so great about a whole bunch of people wanting to have sex with you when you are a 15 year old child?? :confused: I get that a young frustrated man might be projecting that HE'D love this, but it's not a good experience for alot of girls because no matter what they looked like, they had other things about themselves that they wanted others to think were more important.

[SymphonyX7]

So what? I don't get this. Do you have a crush on your sisters? Guys attracted to younger girls...shocker!

 

 

just the difference in dating success between men and women

 

 

Me at 26 - good looking, fit (pro football fullback kind of build), incredibly successful/established (especially for my age), college degree, great social circle - couldn't get a date if my life depended on it

 

 

My sisters at 20 - good looking, decently fit (more just thin, never worked out), nothing accomplished whatsoever - have 2598032532058320582305283028 dating options

 

 

 

This is why I'm saying we need to narrow this discussion to attractive women only. Attractive men play the dating game with similar rules to everyone else.

[Buddhist]

So what? I don't get this. Do you have a crush on your sisters? Guys attracted to younger girls...shocker!

 

He has vagina envy.

[SymphonyX7]

No I don't actually. When you rate yourself as attractive, I don't think you're rating yourself in the very small percentage of highly attractive people. These are people whom make others go weak in the knees just being in proximity. They are leagues away from the regular joe, even the regular good looking joes. I know some people like this. Your OP implied this is what you meant.

 

I'm not talking about true 10s - which is what you're talking about seemingly.

 

I'm talking about regular average female 7s and 8s - they too get worshiped. You don't have to be a 10/10 female to be hit on everywhere you go.

[SymphonyX7]

He has vagina envy.

 

 

Never, I love being a man - I love football, baseball, I love bodybuilding, cars, videogames, action movies etc... I would never want to replace that with hobbies of makeup and hair

[jam.over.jelly]

I feel like it is just easier for women because of the traditional gender roles assumption: guys have to be the one who asks the girls out, guys should approach girls first, guys should follow up after first date if they wanna see girls again, etc. I personally think guys have more control over dating than girls, while me personally I would love the role to reverse. The rules are that girls should wait for guys to ask for a second date, for exclusitivity, for a commitment. Not that it's not OK for a woman to take on this role of men, but I find that rare, and usually I would assume only beta males would be attracted to women that take the lead in everything. Funny how I actually think it's the other way around: attractive guys have it easier than attractive girls.

[JustGettingBy]

Wouldn't the male equivalent of an attractive woman simply be an attractive man?

[madjac74]

It's tougher being a confident man rather than a confident woman. A man will come off as being a player and avoidable while a confident attractive woman is still....Hot!

[SymphonyX7]

I feel like it is just easier for women because of the traditional gender roles assumption: guys have to be the one who asks the girls out, guys should approach girls first, guys should follow up after first date if they wanna see girls again, etc. I personally think guys have more control over dating than girls, while me personally I would love the role to reverse. The rules are that girls should wait for guys to ask for a second date, for exclusitivity, for a commitment. Not that it's not OK for a woman to take on this role of men, but I find that rare, and usually I would assume only beta males would be attracted to women that take the lead in everything. Funny how I actually think it's the other way around: attractive guys have it easier than attractive girls.

 

 

what are you talking about? Women have the best of both worlds nowadays - they can approach and ask men out or wait back and have 5032580258 men ask them out.

 

 

I have maybe a 100 male friends and acquaintances, I don't know a single guy who has a problem with being approached or a woman making moves if she's decent looking. Most of my friends are bodybuilders, football players, etc... I don't hang out with many effeminate males

 

 

Anyways, you say this but I'm pretty sure you would be horrified if you had the dating life of a male. Most women have a shattered ego if they get rejected once - imagine getting rejected 10 or 15 times (or more) every week

[Oregon_Dude]

A male celebrity.

[SymphonyX7]

A male celebrity.

 

 

I agree but how can we compare men who are 1 in a million to women who are 1 in 10 (if not 1 in 5)? It seems like a very unfair analogy

[jam.over.jelly]

what are you talking about? Women have the best of both worlds nowadays - they can approach and ask men out or wait back and have 5032580258 men ask them out.

 

 

I have maybe a 100 male friends and acquaintances, I don't know a single guy who has a problem with being approached or a woman making moves if she's decent looking. Most of my friends are bodybuilders, football players, etc... I don't hang out with many effeminate males

 

 

Anyways, you say this but I'm pretty sure you would be horrified if you had the dating life of a male. Most women have a shattered ego if they get rejected once - imagine getting rejected 10 or 15 times (or more) every week

 

I find it hard to believe that you would get rejected 10-15 times ore more every week if you are like what u said, good looking, athletic, well rounded etc. I'd imagine u would get hit on all the time and girls would try to get with you. unless you are just completely boring and insecure ( we can sense it if you are)

[madjac74]

what are you talking about? Women have the best of both worlds nowadays - they can approach and ask men out or wait back and have 5032580258 men ask them out.

 

What women are you talking about? I have a lot of women in my life who struggle with dating as much as men!

[madjac74]

I agree but how can we compare men who are 1 in a million to women who are 1 in 10 (if not 1 in 5)? It seems like a very unfair analogy

 

I'm decent at math but.....huh?

[lollipopspot]

I agree but how can we compare men who are 1 in a million to women who are 1 in 10 (if not 1 in 5)? It seems like a very unfair analogy

 

Wait, 1 in 5 or 1 in 10 women are so attractive that they "have life on a silver platter?"

[SymphonyX7]

I'd imagine u would get hit on all the time and girls would try to get with you.

 

lol no

 

I've had one woman show any interest in me in the last year - she's a chain smoker with bad acne, pretty trashy, always sick because she's unhealthy as hell.

 

I'm a fitness/health fanatic so I'm not interested in that at all.

 

 

unless you are just completely boring and insecure ( we can sense it if you are)

 

 

not at all, I make friends everywhere I go