Gretzky99 Posted October 8, 2015 Posted October 8, 2015 I want to word this carefully because I don't want people to misinterpret what I'm asking but do you guys think it's true that the last step in getting over an ex is finding a new partner? When I say "get over", I mean not even thinking about them whatsoever. Obviously, I am NOT implying a rebound scenario. I'm also NOT implying that I'm not happy with myself either. I just am curious what others' opinions are. I'm taking about after a significant amount of time has passed and you've fully gone through the mourning, acceptance and self-improvement stages. I'm only bringing this up because I feel as though the last hurdle when you completely stop even thinking about your ex is so hard to accomplish even when you've let go. I'm only going off of my experiences in the past, where for me I've only accomplished this when I've met someone new.
Bo34 Posted October 8, 2015 Posted October 8, 2015 I can't speak for others, but for me, whenever I have been dumped that has definitely been true. That's not to say months after the breakup I was still heartbroken and down, but the thought of them still persisted in my head in some way, shape or form. It had a sort of dull lingering effect and the only way it fully went away was when I met someone new. 2
casey.lives Posted October 8, 2015 Posted October 8, 2015 (edited) If you still want it- sure. I don't want to procreate anymore so.. i have no interest in sharing an empty life with a guy. Edited October 8, 2015 by casey.lives
mightycpa Posted October 8, 2015 Posted October 8, 2015 No. The second time and third times, I was able to do it while I was still dating, uncommitted and not emotionally attached. For the second one, I woke up one morning and it was over. Never wanted to see her again... no hate, but no interest either. For the third one, I just woke up one morning and I knew without a shadow of a doubt. I called her and took her to lunch that day, just to make 100% sure. Nothing was left. After I walked her to her car and said goodbye, I went back into the restaurant to meet this girl I noticed inside. Life was good that day! You don't need other people to help you feel normal again. It can help, but it's not necessary. 2
Christos Posted October 8, 2015 Posted October 8, 2015 If you still want it- sure. I don't want to procreate anymore so.. i have no interest in sharing an empty life with a guy. I am so sorry to read that... I hope you change your mind. A life with a man does not have to be "empty", and leaving alone will be much worse in the long run. There are good men out there. Keep trying! 2
Author Gretzky99 Posted October 8, 2015 Author Posted October 8, 2015 I am so sorry to read that... I hope you change your mind. A life with a man does not have to be "empty", and leaving alone will be much worse in the long run. There are good men out there. Keep trying! I sorta gotta agree with Christos here...That's a very, veryyy sad statement.
Protec Posted October 8, 2015 Posted October 8, 2015 To me, finding a new partner is not the key of "finally moving on". When i can imagine my ex with a new man, and not get sad or mad about it, then i have finally moved on
Meli22 Posted October 8, 2015 Posted October 8, 2015 I was with a guy for 3 years and I got over him just fine without anyone else. So I do believe it can be done. I wouldn't want to get into a new relationship whilst there are still feelings for my ex, I don't think I could give myself fully as Id have a guard up.
d0nnivain Posted October 8, 2015 Posted October 8, 2015 There is a cliché that the best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody else but that is more of a rebound scenario. To me, the best new relationships came when I was already fully over my past relationship & fully open to new possibilities. The new relationship cannot be the last step in ended the old one because if it is you aren't fully healed yet, imo. That said, if you are ready to date again, go for it. 1
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