new2dating123 Posted October 8, 2015 Posted October 8, 2015 Hi i just met a nice girl age 48 . she has been single for 6 years . she is a pretty social gal that lives by herself . She picked me up by surprize one day . I have been single for 11 years and have not dated till now . We hit it off huge and get along like best friends . We have been dating for about 6 weeks . we both decided that we are girlfriend / boyfriend . During the 6 years she has formed 2 circles of friends that she gets together with at random at night clubs or for pizza . The first circle is 3 girls . This is normal and she needs to do that . The second group is 4 guys . I have no idea how frequent she meets . I think i know the answer but would like opinions from those whe know dating stuff better than i Now that we are an item BF/GF should she still meet up with the 4 guys without me there ? I have other questions later on . One at a time . Thanks
CarrieT Posted October 8, 2015 Posted October 8, 2015 I was single for most of 40s and, frankly, had a LOT of male friends I hung out with. I was fortunate that - also at the age of 48 - I met someone I was serious about who understood that I had male friends. My first question would be, "Is there a reason you can't meet these guys?" I introduced all my male friends to the guy I eventually married and he knows that the friendships are important to me. Because I am open and honest about them, there is no issue.
chapter44 Posted October 8, 2015 Posted October 8, 2015 Hello New: We are close to the same age so I can relate to your situation. Given the fact that you have only been dating for a short time I wouldn't say much about her group of male friends at this point. If I were you I'd be supportive of this group of friends and be confident and secure with who you are. I would guess if things continue to progress and she views you as secure confident partner she will likely include you in this group eventually. As you said you have both been single for awhile and I would guess fairly comfortable with your lives when she is out with her friends use that time to foster your relationships and/or hobbies outside of her, it's always nice to have time to yourself.
Author new2dating123 Posted October 8, 2015 Author Posted October 8, 2015 I knew this was the right place to come to . Thanks . We both are very good at communicating . Thats why its going so well . Her X husband used to not let her have friends and made her stay home . She has asked me some 3 or 4 times if its ok to have my friends . This was my exact response ... I told her YES that i think its very important for you to have your friends . This was before i knew about the guys . As for meeting them , i dont think in the last few weeks she has met with them as she seems to be directing her attention toward me quite a bit . To add more possible usefull information for you guys/gals here . We live about an hour apart . We have spent most of every weekend together doing fun stuff around town . She has a hard time when i have to leave . This week she made the drive just to spend 4 hours with me .
d0nnivain Posted October 8, 2015 Posted October 8, 2015 these 4 guys are her pre-existing friends. They came before you & if you try to tell her what she can & cannot do & who she can socialize with they will be around long after you are gone. Do meet them. Make sure they know you exist, mark your territory if you will but trust her to behave in a responsible manner.
chapter44 Posted October 8, 2015 Posted October 8, 2015 I knew this was the right place to come to . Thanks . We both are very good at communicating . Thats why its going so well . Her X husband used to not let her have friends and made her stay home . She has asked me some 3 or 4 times if its ok to have my friends . This was my exact response ... I told her YES that i think its very important for you to have your friends . This was before i knew about the guys . As for meeting them , i dont think in the last few weeks she has met with them as she seems to be directing her attention toward me quite a bit . To add more possible usefull information for you guys/gals here . We live about an hour apart . We have spent most of every weekend together doing fun stuff around town . She has a hard time when i have to leave . This week she made the drive just to spend 4 hours with me . That is awesome - you two seem to be onto something. It's a refreshing change to hear of something working out on this site. Congratulations
xcupid Posted October 8, 2015 Posted October 8, 2015 (edited) Why shouldn't she continue to meet up with the group of 4 guys without you there? Edited October 8, 2015 by xcupid
Author new2dating123 Posted October 8, 2015 Author Posted October 8, 2015 Thank you again everyone for your input . Like i said i'm new at this and you helped me not make a big mistake .
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