cookiemonster26 Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 Although I plan to take a break from dating, just curious for future reference. Would you date someone who you were compatible with and had alot in common and they were super nice and respectful, but you had no attraction to them at all? No desire to be physical with them no excitement or butterflies when you see them but everything else is was perfect ?
acrosstheuniverse Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 No. I tried once, with a friend. Everything was great on paper. Good lucking guy. No spark but I tried to date, kiss him, go places with him. But I just could not feel it. I couldn't imagine being excited to come home to him, being proud to introduce him to friends, being able to fill a week away just with him. Relationships are hard enough at the best of times even when you are totally drawn to one another and can't get enough of each other's company or stop wanting to kiss them. When you don't feel that spark with someone, it's hopeless.
LilaMarie Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 I have in the past and still would. I've fallen in love over time with people I wasn't initially attracted to. If they sweet and nice, I think they become the most attractive man in my eyes. Guys have asked me straight out if I found them attractive or stated that I don't find them attractive... I know everyone is different so just do what feels is right for you 1
LilaMarie Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 Just need to add...I would never date someone I found repulsive. I will not torture myself 1
ScienceGal Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 Not if it's a "I can't imagine kissing that" level of attraction. I've been with men that didn't initially wow me with their looks, but over time their personality won me over and they became much more attractive overall. After that, they were a 10 in my eyes. 1
d0nnivain Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 No. I tried that once. It was awful. If I have no attraction they become my friends. If they don't want to be friend zoned they leave, hopefully still on speaking terms.
Author cookiemonster26 Posted October 7, 2015 Author Posted October 7, 2015 Isn't that called friendship? Haha probably. I know people say attraction grows over time but what if they ate quite repulsive in your eyes?
Author cookiemonster26 Posted October 7, 2015 Author Posted October 7, 2015 Not if it's a "I can't imagine kissing that" level of attraction. I've been with men that didn't initially wow me with their looks, but over time their personality won me over and they became much more attractive overall. After that, they were a 10 in my eyes. So if you need a few drinks to kiss them they probably are a no ? Haha 2
chapter44 Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 I would not. To me attraction is either there or it isn't so I wouldn't want to waste another's time or energy. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 Haha probably. I know people say attraction grows over time but what if they ate quite repulsive in your eyes? Repulsive? No. Why the odd question OP? 1
autumnnight Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 No. I don't need instant fireworks, but if a spark is not there pretty soon, it is probably not going to be, and to me, a relationship without spark and attraction is NOT a romantic relationship.
losangelena Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 Repulsive? No. Why the odd question OP? Color me curious as well. 1
JasmineJones Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 Plenty of women date and marry wealthy older men they find repulsive. It's called an investment in your future.
LilaMarie Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 Plenty of women date and marry wealthy older men they find repulsive. It's called an investment in your future. Hahaha I don't know how those women do it! 1
casey.lives Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 physical attraction is not the only kind but it is the instant kind. other attractions can unveil as you get to know someone. Butterflies and excitement come from becoming attracted and from the desire to see them. 1
JasmineJones Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 after all, women date and marry Donald Trump.
Gaeta Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 If I find something interesting in him I will give him 3 dates to see if attraction will follow. No more than 3 dates. If it's not there after 3 dates then it'll never be there. I don't believe in dating someone for months in the hope you'll grow attracted towards them. 1
chapter44 Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 Plenty of women date and marry wealthy older men they find repulsive. It's called an investment in your future. Yep I know plenty of both men and women like that unfortunately I don't know of a single relationship that worked out.
kismetkismet Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 It depends a bit.. I have definitely grown more attracted to guys as i fall in love with them. I wasn't super attracted to a couple of guys at first that i ended up being deeply in love with and attracted to. However, it depends on how much and for how long you want them in your life. My best male friend and I are extremely compatible and he's a great guy. However, there's no chemistry there.. I'm not going to try to push that boundary 'just to see' and ruin a friendship that I hope will be lifelong.
joseb Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 No. Never. Honestly, I can't even begin to get my head around doing that. But I see a fair few women here who say they would, which is interesting.
JasmineJones Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 If I find something interesting in him I will give him 3 dates to see if attraction will follow. No more than 3 dates. If it's not there after 3 dates then it'll never be there. I don't believe in dating someone for months in the hope you'll grow attracted towards them. Will you kiss him or have full intercourse with him during that time?
Gaeta Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 Will you kiss him or have full intercourse with him during that time? Sometimes I need to kiss a man to confirm if I am attracted or not. I will always remember G. During our first coffee my little voice inside said 'nope I don't like him'. When we left the coffee shop and said good bye he caught me off guard and kissed me on the lips BOOM! My legs went numb lol, a switch went on and I wanted to see him again. Sleep with a man that doesn't turn me on? never ever. 1
Celeste.Carol Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 Yep I know plenty of both men and women like that unfortunately I don't know of a single relationship that worked out. I know quite a few, more than quite a few, close to 30 couples like this and they do work out. A few were traded in for a younger trophy, but for the most part many have lasted long term. I do believe the women love their husbands ~ in their own way. I know when I was married some may have thought this because of remarks they did not find him attractive, from very close friends and a nanny who ended up becoming a best friend, esp. when we were having troubles, but I did love him and there were others who did find him attractive.
JasmineJones Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 Sometimes I need to kiss a man to confirm if I am attracted or not. I will always remember G. During our first coffee my little voice inside said 'nope I don't like him'. When we left the coffee shop and said good bye he caught me off guard and kissed me on the lips BOOM! My legs went numb lol, a switch went on and I wanted to see him again. Sleep with a man that doesn't turn me on? never ever. Did you end up having a relationship with him?
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