edenoak1979 Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 (edited) I started dating this Taurus guy who was super sweet. On our first date we went for drinks and dessert at this local restaurant and i though we hit it off great. Our second date he came over to my place and we watch a sports game together. Our third date he came over and we watched a movie and we were intimate with each other. after that he came over a few more times and we hung out which was great. My birthday came around and he messaged me say he wanted to see me even though I was out with some friends so I left early and went home to meet him. He took me out for some drinks and a slice of cake and then we went back to my place. After that night I hesitated but sent him a message telling him I was missing him and then he message me back with " I'm have been a bit distant because I don't want to star anything serious and since we were intimate detaching become difficult after being intimate". I was hurt but could only message back "Ok. I understand" and then I just stopped messaging him. He started messaging me again after a few days asking me how I was and has been messaging me every few days or so. He used to message me a lot and now less. After this was going on for a few weeks I had to ask him If he wasn't interested why he would message me still and he said "while I am not interested in starting something serious I still am attracted to you. He doesnt try to come over for sex or anything he just messages me, so I feel good that he's not being an jerk and trying to sleep with me but still interested in having conversation with me. I never text him I let him initiate it but I always respond. He's working on getting his business up and running so I try to respect his space with that and I don't message him unless he messages me but I don't want him to think I'm not interested. I really like him .... can anyone help me figure out how to get him back interested.. Edited October 7, 2015 by edenoak1979 1
Terry8889 Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 He might have another girl line up and he is taking his time to decide. Your expectations are different from his and there is nothing you can do to change that. I think if you keep contact with him you will only get yourself strung along until he decides whether or not get serious. Keep in mind that he might or he might NOT. He clearly stated already that he DOESN'T want anything serious. So if I were you I would slowly pull away but because at the end you only gonna get hurt. He already put his cards on the table, he told what he wants and what he doesn't. You should see other guys in the mean time, but do NOT by any means keep your hopes up with this guy.
jam.over.jelly Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 He likes you, I don't think he's lost interest but he was honest about not wanting anything serious with you, you re just not listening to him it seems. If you're ok with how things are then proceed but if u want something more this is not the guy for you
glynnroy Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 I started dating this Taurus guy who was super sweet. On our first date we went for drinks and dessert at this local restaurant and i though we hit it off great. Our second date he came over to my place and we watch a sports game together. Our third date he came over and we watched a movie and we were intimate with each other. after that he came over a few more times and we hung out which was great. My birthday came around and he messaged me say he wanted to see me even though I was out with some friends so I left early and went home to meet him. He took me out for some drinks and a slice of cake and then we went back to my place. After that night I hesitated but sent him a message telling him I was missing him and then he message me back with " I'm have been a bit distant because I don't want to star anything serious and since we were intimate detaching become difficult after being intimate". I was hurt but could only message back "Ok. I understand" and then I just stopped messaging him. He started messaging me again after a few days asking me how I was and has been messaging me every few days or so. He used to message me a lot and now less. After this was going on for a few weeks I had to ask him If he wasn't interested why he would message me still and he said "while I am not interested in starting something serious I still am attracted to you. He doesnt try to come over for sex or anything he just messages me, so I feel good that he's not being an jerk and trying to sleep with me but still interested in having conversation with me. I never text him I let him initiate it but I always respond. He's working on getting his business up and running so I try to respect his space with that and I don't message him unless he messages me but I don't want him to think I'm not interested. I really like him .... can anyone help me figure out how to get him back interested.. Some one who is into you , no matter how busy they are , will make time for you.. I've done this myself , after 6 years Of dating I can see what's happening ! It looks like to me , that he's keeping his options open , not committing to you , but just giving you enough ! You had sex so his master plan might be compete ! The only way to know is pull back completely , it will be hard , let him come to you , if he doesn't then you know ! Don't keep texting , you will come across as needy , take control of thr situation ! I'd make him sweat and make yourself busy for a bit ! Don't let him play you
Author edenoak1979 Posted October 8, 2015 Author Posted October 8, 2015 Thank you for the feed back it is all good and I appreciate all of it..
angel.eyes Posted October 8, 2015 Posted October 8, 2015 Sorry, I don't see this going anywhere. You're essentially FWB, with "dates" consisting of him showing up at your place. No effort. No consistency. And of course, the discussion where he made it clear not to expect anything serious out of this. If you're looking for a boyfriend, find someone else.
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