SSM3 Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 If the guy drops the girl a quick text to say 'I've missed you.....' Do women like it when their partner/person they are dating says things like this? Or can it be abit cringe-worthy? I said this to my new date person and kind of wished I hadn't. I think she liked it though but don't want her to know this as it gives them the upper hand.
d0nnivain Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 I think it's sweet if we haven't seen each other in at least 24 hours. If I get that text a few minutes after he gets home from dropping me off, I think he needs a life. 3
hippychick3 Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 If we've had several dates and I'm really into the guy, I would be flattered. If we had one or two dates and hadn't been talking excessively, it might be a little weird.
Ami1uwant Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 Saying s9mething like that when you actually haven't seen her means something. Saying it an hr after a date is wrird. 8f you were dating 2-3 times a week then couldn't see each other fow a week when one was traveling is fine.
Toodaloo Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 If its someone I have seen a few times then great. Its really sweet. A positive thing and would make me feel more enamored. If its someone I have only just met or haven't met yet its not at all good and likely to result in my silence...
Author SSM3 Posted October 7, 2015 Author Posted October 7, 2015 Thanks people I am really into this woman but don't want to come across to needy, judging by your responses I am far from being needy. I would never send a message an hour after a date....I'm talking like 3 to 5 days after!
Grumpybutfun Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 Just be yourself...if she doesn't like who you really are or how you act, better to know it on date twoor three rather than ten years down the line with three kids. Stop worrying about being too needy or anyone having the upper hand and just have fun and try to establish a connection with someone who doesn't make you jump through hoops to be with her due to her fragility or ego. Best, G 1
LilaMarie Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 I think needy/clingy if I've barely known the guy. Then I tell myself - run!!!
Redhead14 Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 If the guy drops the girl a quick text to say 'I've missed you.....' Do women like it when their partner/person they are dating says things like this? Or can it be abit cringe-worthy? I said this to my new date person and kind of wished I hadn't. I think she liked it though but don't want her to know this as it gives them the upper hand. I'd be put off a little if he did that early in the dating scenario, like a few dates. And, if he did it an hour after the last time we saw each other. But, down the road, if we'd been apart for a while, I'd love it. And, what do you mean by upper hand?
Author SSM3 Posted October 7, 2015 Author Posted October 7, 2015 Just be yourself...if she doesn't like who you really are or how you act, better to know it on date twoor three rather than ten years down the line with three kids. Stop worrying about being too needy or anyone having the upper hand and just have fun and try to establish a connection with someone who doesn't make you jump through hoops to be with her due to her fragility or ego. Best, G Cool........We are on about date no. 15 or something like that I guess....not sure!! I'm new to this dating thing after a 13 year LTR. We have a great connection too
Author SSM3 Posted October 7, 2015 Author Posted October 7, 2015 I'd be put off a little if he did that early in the dating scenario, like a few dates. And, if he did it an hour after the last time we saw each other. But, down the road, if we'd been apart for a while, I'd love it. And, what do you mean by upper hand? 15 dates I guess...and been seeing each other for 6 weeks. I messaged the woman after 5 days of not seeing her.
Redhead14 Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 15 dates I guess...and been seeing each other for 6 weeks. I messaged the woman after 5 days of not seeing her. Ok. What are the circumstances surrounding not seeing her for 5 days? Was there a falling out? Traveling?
GemmaUK Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 15 dates I guess...and been seeing each other for 6 weeks. I messaged the woman after 5 days of not seeing her. Now you have given this info..yeah, I'd like it. It's not clingy or needy at all in this context. Having said that though now you are at around 6 weeks just bear in mind what I posted about texting in your 'after an LTR' thread. She may be reaching the point where texting might slacken off a little (and I am guessing schedules is maybe why you haven't seen her for 5 days?). It's natural and not to be concerned about if she (and you too) need a little more time back to yourselves each day to get on with the normal stuff you have to get on with. 1
Author SSM3 Posted October 7, 2015 Author Posted October 7, 2015 Now you have given this info..yeah, I'd like it. It's not clingy or needy at all in this context. Having said that though now you are at around 6 weeks just bear in mind what I posted about texting in your 'after an LTR' thread. She may be reaching the point where texting might slacken off a little (and I am guessing schedules is maybe why you haven't seen her for 5 days?). It's natural and not to be concerned about if she (and you too) need a little more time back to yourselves each day to get on with the normal stuff you have to get on with. Hi Gemma Yeah schedules and personal commitments meaning there has been gaps. The texting has dropped a little bit but morning and last thing at night texts haven't. Sometimes though we message heavily during an evening if we are talking about music, clothes, food etc...general chit chat. It's part of the process I guess from initial meet to being more settled I guess. 1
TunaCat Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 If the guy drops the girl a quick text to say 'I've missed you.....' Do women like it when their partner/person they are dating says things like this? Or can it be abit cringe-worthy? I said this to my new date person and kind of wished I hadn't. I think she liked it though but don't want her to know this as it gives them the upper hand. It depends on how long you've been dating this girl. After the first date or second date, I'd be cringing. If it's someone you're in a relationship with and you haven't seen each other in a few days, it's fine.
RightThere Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 I said this to my new date person and kind of wished I hadn't. I think she liked it though but don't want her to know this as it gives them the upper hand. If you keep worrying about who has the "upper hand" then you're just playing games. If you miss a woman and you tell her, that is good. If she responds negatively, then she's no good. 1
Author SSM3 Posted October 7, 2015 Author Posted October 7, 2015 If you keep worrying about who has the "upper hand" then you're just playing games. If you miss a woman and you tell her, that is good. If she responds negatively, then she's no good. Haha...I am not playing games. I just want to remain cool, not seem to needy and appear 'in to' her to too much, even though I am. It's still early days and I don't want her to lose interest. I Thanks for your input everyone.....you do help
GemmaUK Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 It's still early days and I don't want her to lose interest. Follow her lead a little bit along with taking your own too. Thing is, when you first meet it's a communication super-highway at rush hour! Sometimes a person needs an opportunity to miss their partner. Not days, nor even a day (as I know you two are in contact more than that) but a few hours to reply back because you're busy is fine - and it gives her a break. It gives you both a break and then all back to fine when you're both free again. Another thing. This is maybe more personal to me but I am not a fan of the good morning/good night/how was your day texts. I would rather get a text with a funny thing that happened mid morning or lunchtime if text conversation is part of the communication. The subject is more spontaneous and less 'hey, how are you....' Like I posted in your other thread though I think texting is worth a conversation these days simply because it can end up making or breaking a relationship - sad as that sounds but it's true.
Author SSM3 Posted October 7, 2015 Author Posted October 7, 2015 Follow her lead a little bit along with taking your own too. Thing is, when you first meet it's a communication super-highway at rush hour! Sometimes a person needs an opportunity to miss their partner. Not days, nor even a day (as I know you two are in contact more than that) but a few hours to reply back because you're busy is fine - and it gives her a break. It gives you both a break and then all back to fine when you're both free again. Another thing. This is maybe more personal to me but I am not a fan of the good morning/good night/how was your day texts. I would rather get a text with a funny thing that happened mid morning or lunchtime if text conversation is part of the communication. The subject is more spontaneous and less 'hey, how are you....' Like I posted in your other thread though I think texting is worth a conversation these days simply because it can end up making or breaking a relationship - sad as that sounds but it's true. I always leave a couple of hours before replying, so does she now. This is much better. I kind of like the morning and night texts it means she is thinking of me
Buddhist Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 If the guy drops the girl a quick text to say 'I've missed you.....' Do women like it when their partner/person they are dating says things like this? Or can it be abit cringe-worthy? I said this to my new date person and kind of wished I hadn't. I think she liked it though but don't want her to know this as it gives them the upper hand. If you're worried about giving people the upper-hand then you're too busy scheming to actually care about them. Please go away and mature a bit before dating. Unless of course you're 14 and this is about texting across the school yard.
Author SSM3 Posted October 7, 2015 Author Posted October 7, 2015 If you're worried about giving people the upper-hand then you're too busy scheming to actually care about them. Please go away and mature a bit before dating. Unless of course you're 14 and this is about texting across the school yard. Get over yourself!
Frank2thepoint Posted October 8, 2015 Posted October 8, 2015 Don't be afraid to put your feelings out there. Just be prudent with the timing. If the woman doesn't appreciate the sentiment, then it's a clear sign she doesn't, nor will ever, appreciate you.
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