Jesse101 Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 Hello all! I'm new to this forum so not sure if this is the correct place to post my question. Anyway, I think I messed up pretty bad with a girl I have really heavy feelings for. It all started when I decided to text her. I didnt get her number from her but from a friend. I thought it would be fine because me and her knew eachother. I didn't really start anything through the the text. Just told her how I got her number and what was up. She replied when I first texted her and she said it was all good but when I texted her what's up, I got no reply. Did I come off In a bad way? She thought I was cute and thats why I texted her in the first place which is confusing because she did t reply I texted her the next day the same thing. I just want to know if this is fixable between us. Or did I screw up to the point where there is no hope.
Mrin Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 Naw man. At least not yet. So this may not hold true for all age ranges but one of the things I hear a lot from women is that open ended small talk can be annoying. So a "what's up?" isn't exactly thrilling text conversation. I think you might have better luck with more substantive and direct texting. "What's up?" vs. "Have you seen The Martian?"... which do you think is more likely to elicit a response? Good luck!
glynnroy Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 Hello all! I'm new to this forum so not sure if this is the correct place to post my question. Anyway, I think I messed up pretty bad with a girl I have really heavy feelings for. It all started when I decided to text her. I didnt get her number from her but from a friend. I thought it would be fine because me and her knew eachother. I didn't really start anything through the the text. Just told her how I got her number and what was up. She replied when I first texted her and she said it was all good but when I texted her what's up, I got no reply. Did I come off In a bad way? She thought I was cute and thats why I texted her in the first place which is confusing because she did t reply I texted her the next day the same thing. I just want to know if this is fixable between us. Or did I screw up to the point where there is no hope. What I do is speak to her face to face , grab her on her own ! Be upfront and strap a pair on Just say , I got your phone number from a friend , sorry if it came across all wrong , just liked you and wondered if you fancied going out for a drink chat ect Dude do not do this again ! It comes across bit freaky , I would approach her and be a man ! Don't go getting numbers off people have the balls to get it yourself ! It shows you a confident
Author Jesse101 Posted October 7, 2015 Author Posted October 7, 2015 Naw man. At least not yet. So this may not hold true for all age ranges but one of the things I hear a lot from women is that open ended small talk can be annoying. So a "what's up?" isn't exactly thrilling text conversation. I think you might have better luck with more substantive and direct texting. "What's up?" vs. "Have you seen The Martian?"... which do you think is more likely to elicit a response? Good luck! So how should I go about approaching her now? I kinda blew it with the text thing I think. But I'm to embarrassed to say anything in person because all I will think about is her not replying to me.
d0nnivain Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 You didn't blow anything but you are about to. Ignore the fact that she didn't respond to your text. Speak to her normally the next time you see her. When you see her in person, ask her to hang out with you one on one. If she says yes to that then you can determine if it's safe to ask her on a date. If you continue to text her you will be pestering her. If you go on about apologizing you will come across as sniveling & weak. Be confident. Simply talk to her in person.
Redhead14 Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 Hello all! I'm new to this forum so not sure if this is the correct place to post my question. Anyway, I think I messed up pretty bad with a girl I have really heavy feelings for. It all started when I decided to text her. I didnt get her number from her but from a friend. I thought it would be fine because me and her knew eachother. I didn't really start anything through the the text. Just told her how I got her number and what was up. She replied when I first texted her and she said it was all good but when I texted her what's up, I got no reply. Did I come off In a bad way? She thought I was cute and thats why I texted her in the first place which is confusing because she did t reply I texted her the next day the same thing. I just want to know if this is fixable between us. Or did I screw up to the point where there is no hope. I don't think you messed up necessarily but it's not cool for friends to give another friend's number to anyone. They should ask the person first. Nevertheless, texting her "what's up" is kinda lukewarm at best. The first time you texted her and she replied, you should have asked her if you could call her and then ask for a date. Since you've already texted a couple of times without a response, I'd let this be. If she finally does reach out to you, get on a phone call with her and ask her out and not a last minute thing. Schedule a date for a specific day and time and place. Have your ducks in a row. If she doesn't reach out to you at all, let her go.
EricaH329 Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 I'm assuming this is the same girl that you work with? The one that you don't really know, but would like to? As I previously stated in another one of your threads, I don't think getting her number from someone else was a good idea. People give their numbers to those who they want to have it. Regardless, what's done is done. I don't think you should do anything at this point. How much time have you actually spent with her? How does she react to you while at work? Is she stand-off-ish? Has she included you in any plans outside of work? I'd gauge how she acts around you at work, then proceed accordingly.
Gaeta Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 Hello all! I'm new to this forum so not sure if this is the correct place to post my question. Anyway, I think I messed up pretty bad with a girl I have really heavy feelings for. It all started when I decided to text her. I didnt get her number from her but from a friend. I thought it would be fine because me and her knew eachother. I didn't really start anything through the the text. Just told her how I got her number and what was up. She replied when I first texted her and she said it was all good but when I texted her what's up, I got no reply. Did I come off In a bad way? She thought I was cute and thats why I texted her in the first place which is confusing because she did t reply I texted her the next day the same thing. I just want to know if this is fixable between us. Or did I screw up to the point where there is no hope. You didn't mess up anything because there was nothing to mess up. She never felt interested by you. She thought it was cute you got her number, she felt flattered but nothing more. She does not wish to engage with you. If she was interested she would have been thrilled of your text no matter what was in it. She will not magically become interested because next time you'll text a full sentence or you'll call her. She is just not into you.
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