faithfully Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 I just need help and advice. Met this 21 year old off a networking site, I'm 28 and I never ever chat to guys younger than me like that, I've always dated older men or guys older than me. Anyways we started talking and thought nothing of it but just friends, the more I started chatting to this guy the more he sounded mature for his age, he had big dreams, ambition and goal in life and I was attracted and wantedto know him more. Whilst chatting to know, I learnt he was going to Poland for 2 weeks alone as he does Motocross and makes a living outof it. Whilst in Poland for 2 weeks, we have been texting, talking, texting, talking every single day. Fast forward to when he returned, we met up and been inseparable since that for nearly 4 weeks. Hanging out, chilling, going on dates, sleeping together. 4 days before he was going to Poland, I went London to visit my family, so didn't get to see him off but things then changed. He is in Poland now, whilst traveling to Poland, he has rang me but since he's here, he has completely changed, doesn't hardly message anymore and if he did takes 6hrs or sometimes nothing, never rings anymore, he's on Facebook online and when i send him messages I get no reply. Since he's been to PPoland he has added many girls and seen pics he's even taken with them on a night out. We even spoke bout me coming to see him in Poland in 6 weeks but doubt I will be, I've told him i missed him and never once repeated it back. I know he is probably busy and obviously living his life but why acting weird, my guts telling me something and to cut this little boy off my life. Yesterday after sending him a msg and no interest shownin the message, I've decided to cut him off, unfriended him, deleted his number and blocked it, I'm too old to be chasing a 21 year old boy but feel **** as I can't stop thinking about him. Would like some thoughts, am I over reacting?? Thank you
ExpatInItaly Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 I don't think you're over-reacting. I just don't think he's as interested as you are. I wouldn't bother keeping it going either.
lilacparkle Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 I don't think you are overreacting. He sounds like he wanted you to believe he was more mature when you were around so he could be with you but when he left he just wanted to pursue other interests and be who he really is. He's young, this is the exact reason I also don't date younger guys, it's usually a waste of time. Let him go. If he really wants to be with you, he will show it. Be open to the next MAN that comes along that will really treat you right and not play games, don't waste your time. Good luck
Buddhist Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 He's 21.....end of story. That's practically a teenager.
Zippy2000 Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 I know he is probably busy and obviously living his life but why acting weird, my guts telling me something and to cut this little boy off my life. I wish people would stop using "he`s probably busy". How many times have I said no one is too busy to call, to write, make smoke signals, or use carrier pigeon. Its easy to send a text or an email. He`s done it when he first met you. He can do it again. He`s just lost interest in you or he was faking a relationship with you to get you into bed. Im from the UK too. You mentioned he goes to Poland. Is he Polish?
Author faithfully Posted October 7, 2015 Author Posted October 7, 2015 I wish people would stop using "he`s probably busy". How many times have I said no one is too busy to call, to write, make smoke signals, or use carrier pigeon. Its easy to send a text or an email. He`s done it when he first met you. He can do it again. He`s just lost interest in you or he was faking a relationship with you to get you into bed. Im from the UK too. You mentioned he goes to Poland. Is he Polish? Noo he's not polish, he's British, he's in Poland as he does motorcross for a living so earning money out there. Yeah you are probably right and this is what I wanted to hear just so I know its not in my head or I'm not being paranoid. Like I said I'm 28, not a silly little girl thats why I've cut lose and can't be bothered chasing people who shows no interest
d0nnivain Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 It was one of those things that it was fun while it lasted but now it's over. Let him go. Think of the experience fondly but there is no need to dwell & certainly no reason to chase. 1
CalvinM Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 I went for a 27 year old when I was 21 and for the most part, for me at least, it was about sex. It was a huge confidence boost to be able to tell friends I'd bedded an older woman. And while she was ready to settle down and have kids, I still was one. The emotional disparity gap is far too wide. Enjoy the moments you shared and look back fondly on them, as I'm sure you will, but expecting any more to come from this is unlikely.
Author faithfully Posted October 7, 2015 Author Posted October 7, 2015 I went for a 27 year old when I was 21 and for the most part, for me at least, it was about sex. It was a huge confidence boost to be able to tell friends I'd bedded an older woman. And while she was ready to settle down and have kids, I still was one. The emotional disparity gap is far too wide. Enjoy the moments you shared and look back fondly on them, as I'm sure you will, but expecting any more to come from this is unlikely. Think you hit the nail on the head there, like I said I'm not stupid or naive, just wanted check I'm not being paranoid or over reacting, I've blocked him and can't be bothered with his crap or mind games. Thanks to those who have took time to reply, really appreciate ,onwards and upwards from now on, but 1 thing I know is he will be back but he can sling his hook
Zippy2000 Posted October 8, 2015 Posted October 8, 2015 Noo he's not polish, he's British, he's in Poland as he does motorcross for a living so earning money out there. Yeah you are probably right and this is what I wanted to hear just so I know its not in my head or I'm not being paranoid. Like I said I'm 28, not a silly little girl thats why I've cut lose and can't be bothered chasing people who shows no interest Whoa! No one ever said you were a silly little girl. Don`t under estimate yourself.....ever! I admire people who can cut people off on a whim. Good for you but I do feel sorry for you as that means hes out of sight, out of mind. Er, no. It doesn`t work like that. Since you have no idea what he`s doing. Your mind will work overtime to fill in the gaps. I hope you move on from him and the reason why we meet people like these is to learn from them and not to repeat making the same mistake again.
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