sjclsnb Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 So I've met someone new and things have been going great. We have been on 4 great dates and I find myself putting in the effort for this girl I have never before felt comfortable with. We get along great, share a lot of the same ideals and have been through some of the same struggles when it comes to dating and family. She is extremely straight forward and very blunt which is great for a guy like me that is very much controlled by his head and thoughts. As you could have guessed there is a but coming. She is scheduled for a second major surgery soon. She had explained to me that if it seems she is trying to keep me at arms distance it's because she is. She says she needs to deal with these emotions on her own and doesn't want to put any of that pressure on me because during the first surgery she was with someone and he didn't quit know what he wanted and things fell apart. Now I think she has a perfectly good reason for doing this. This is a frightening thing but my question to any of you is how do I approach this? I'm ok with keeping things out of the full on relationship mode, after the year I've had I knew I wanted to take my time with this, but I'm finding that I'm taking a liking to her and even though she has a reason to keep some distance I think by the time the surgery comes Im going to care enough to be bothered by the fact that I may still be out of the loop on what's going on and I am going to worry about her. I also think she may be struggling with trying to keep that distance. I guess I can tell, even when she tries to make it apparent that she is keeping distance, by the way she looks at me, talks to me, kisses me and gets touchy freely. I believe she is digging me just as much as I am her, just trying to keep it that way and not upsetting her during this time.
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