I figured out how to get girlfriends back.

[niceguy69]

This is the method I used to get my gf that dumped me back. Ok so everyone says NC, NC, NC but there's a better way. Relationships are a game from day one and if you just do NC you lose the game, and the dumper wins. Nobody ever won a chess match by avoiding all contact with the other player. Your exgf just turned this into a battle, and the only way to win is with extensive planning and strategy. After you have sex with someone for many months or years, they have to at least have SOME interest in you still.

 

Ok the first step is after you get dumped is to send roses the next day saying you understand why she did it. Then keep sending emails and texts, once a day max, saying how you understand why she broke up with you and you guess it was the best idea and that you feel so much better and wiser now about relationships. She will probably not respond to these at all, maybe one or two. Then, after a week after you got dumped, send an email about how you matured so much and how you learned so much about yourself after the break up. And say you learned you will never make the same mistakes with another girl. Finally in the email say you met this really nice pretty girl, who looks really similar to your exgf, at the gym and you've gone out on some dates with her. Say she is really outgoing and smart and you want to introduce her to your parents soon. And say you are so happy with life now, even though in reality you prob feel like you're still living in hell and not sleeping much.

 

Now she will definitely reply to this email!

 

When she calls crying or ims just play it cool, like youre doing great and feel so good. Now, more than likely, she will say her new rebound guy that she dumped you for isnt really that cool. Say youre sorry to hear that and wish her luck. Now, do NC for about 3-5 days straight, and do not answer any calls. Then after 3-5 days send an email asking her if she wants to eat dinner, "as friends". She will probably say yes. If she says no, wait a few more days and try again. Then at dinner say your new rebound girl(which is a total lie, because there isnt one) is not working out and that you miss your exgf. She will say she misses you.......then you'll both bang and before you know it, youll be dating again.

 

Also, type in a random 800 number in your cell phone and save it as "Anna" or some girl's name. And call it like 50 times just so it will stay in your recent calls in your cell. So when the exgf looks at you phone she will believe you had another girl for a while.

 

Just remember there is always hope, dont give up. Maybe NC works with some girls, but my gf like many other girls are way too stuborn to make the effort to come crying back. You have to give them the push they need to start crying, then they will come back. Let's face it, they put you through hell, you might as well make them cry some too. Remember this is war be tough. Good luck!

 

I would think this would work for girls that get dumped by guys too.

[Marshbear]

What if you don't want them back? If their was a break-up then there must have been a problem in the first place. You might get them to come back with your scheme but the odds of a second chance lasting for long is slim. It is not a game to see if you can get your ex back. It is to find someone who their is mutual respect and love.

[lindya]

Originally posted by niceguy69

This is the method I used to get my gf that dumped me back. Ok so everyone says NC, NC, NC but there's a better way. Relationships are a game from day one and if you just do NC you lose the game, and the dumper wins. Nobody ever won a chess match by avoiding all contact with the other player. Your exgf just turned this into a battle, and the only way to win is with extensive planning and strategy. After you have sex with someone for many months or years, they have to at least have SOME interest in you still.

 

Ok the first step is after you get dumped is to send roses the next day saying you understand why she did it. Then keep sending emails and texts, once a day max, saying how you understand why she broke up with you and you guess it was the best idea and that you feel so much better and wiser now about relationships. She will probably not respond to these at all, maybe one or two. Then, after a week after you got dumped, send an email about how you matured so much and how you learned so much about yourself after the break up. And say you learned you will never make the same mistakes with another girl. Finally in the email say you met this really nice pretty girl, who looks really similar to your exgf, at the gym and you've gone out on some dates with her. Say she is really outgoing and smart and you want to introduce her to your parents soon. And say you are so happy with life now, even though in reality you prob feel like you're still living in hell and not sleeping much.

 

Now she will definitely reply to this email!

 

When she calls crying or ims just play it cool, like youre doing great and feel so good. Now, more than likely, she will say her new rebound guy that she dumped you for isnt really that cool. Say youre sorry to hear that and wish her luck. Now, do NC for about 3-5 days straight, and do not answer any calls. Then after 3-5 days send an email asking her if she wants to eat dinner, "as friends". She will probably say yes. If she says no, wait a few more days and try again. Then at dinner say your new rebound girl(which is a total lie, because there isnt one) is not working out and that you miss your exgf. She will say she misses you.......then you'll both bang and before you know it, youll be dating again.

 

Also, type in a random 800 number in your cell phone and save it as "Anna" or some girl's name. And call it like 50 times just so it will stay in your recent calls in your cell. So when the exgf looks at you phone she will believe you had another girl for a while.

 

Just remember there is always hope, dont give up. Maybe NC works with some girls, but my gf like many other girls are way too stuborn to make the effort to come crying back. You have to give them the push they need to start crying, then they will come back. Let's face it, they put you through hell, you might as well make them cry some too. Remember this is war be tough. Good luck!

 

I would think this would work for girls that get dumped by guys too.

 

Call me lazy, but it sounds far too much like hard work.

[SexKitten]

Originally posted by niceguy69

 

 

Ok the first step is after you get dumped is to send roses the next day saying you understand why she did it. Then keep sending emails and texts, once a day max, saying how you understand why she broke up with you and you guess it was the best idea and that you feel so much better and wiser now about relationships. She will probably not respond to these at all, maybe one or two. Then, after a week after you got dumped, send an email about how you matured so much and how you learned so much about yourself after the break up. And say you learned you will never make the same mistakes with another girl. Finally in the email say you met this really nice pretty girl, who looks really similar to your exgf, at the gym and you've gone out on some dates with her. Say she is really outgoing and smart and you want to introduce her to your parents soon. And say you are so happy with life now, even though in reality you prob feel like you're still living in hell and not sleeping much.

 

 

this would never work for me. it would only reaffirm why i don't want to be with that person.

 

i would see right through their attempts at trying to bait me with the thought of another girl.

 

i would find it annoying and pathetic to get texts/emails everyday, and then instead of having pleasant memories about the time i shared with them, i would start to resent the time they were taking out of my life after we broke up, very obviously trying to get me back, rather than respecting my decision to break up.

 

then i would probably block my email and get a new phone number.

[XNemesisX]

Well....there is probably some truth in what you are saying niceguy69...but I'm with the others at it being too much work for someone who dumped you....bleh @ them!

 

Now...I did do similar tactics the last time my ex and I broke up. I wouldn't take no for an answer and pretty soon he came back to me wanting me back SO bad!

 

Bad side of this is - usually these reconciliations don't last long. In my case, we broke up again 6 months later and this time around I was just not about to work as hard as I did before for him. He had broke up with me twice and no way in Hell was I going to do what I did last time to get him back (altho I'm sure he probably expected me to do that crap again).

 

NC should be for people who got dumped for no reason. You can do the tactics that you described if you f***ed up so badly that the dumper was left with no choice but to dump you. (i.e. you cheated on them, lied to them, or something similarly horrendous).

[sanne]

what's the point of getting them back if it won't last long? your "method" may work for you now, but a few months down the road what is to say that she won't have those same feelings she had when you guys broke up?

 

Often times we just miss physical contact and the emotional comfort more than anything else. Both people are incredibly vulnerable after a breakup, and if you think you need to play games to win a girl's heart back then your love was never strong to begin with.

[tanbark813]

Then she finds your post on LoveShack, discovers "Anna" is made up, and drops your ass. Be careful, man.

[magda]

The thing about no contact is that it is a way to bow out with self-respect. It's not really supposed to be a way to win someone back. It's a very narrowly possible side-effect of acting like a self-respecting individual, but winning back the ex should not be the ultimate goal of NC.

You're cheating yourself with your way.. because you "won" back a relationship where games, manipulation and dishonesty rule. Congratulations though, I guess.

[Treasa]

Wow. No offense, but your strategy would send me running in the opposite direction. I would NEVER want to get back together with someone who acts like that. It comes across as manipulative, desperate, selfish, and a total mind game.

[moon]

NiceGuy,

 

That's all very true. I bet that would win somebody back. I bet it would. That was a good read.

 

Of course the key is that you presented this new ficticious person to them and they are jealous. So true.

 

I guess once you don't try to do any of this stuff is when you know the break up was for the best and you'd rather suffer than call or try to convince them that there is another person or that you should get back together. You sound like maybe you are in one of those on and off relationships. I was in one of those for years. I did know all the tricks to getting him back. I could ignore him or mention my new good male friend.....whatever it had my ex eating out of the palm of my hands. He always knew how to push my buttons to talk to him or make me jealous. But when my last relationship ended, down deep I knew it was the end of the line and I tried nothing--probably much to his amazement. So I guess you have to really weigh out if you want that person back or not. But many times these attempts backfire not necessarily is them not getting back together with you, but slowly the relationship deteriates into lies and breaks ups and in the end (like me) you've really got no business being with that other person any more...because the relationship just gets unecessary and maybe a bit unhealthy.

 

But good on you. It is nice to hear of two people getting back together who want to. Good luck.

[ConfusedInOC]

NiceGuy, what if you were dumped for someone else. The ex, in my case, couldn't care less about me. She now has someone to keep her occupied and stave off lonliness. Even if he's just a rebound person, it will get her by until she finds someone else.

 

For MY ex to want me back, she has to be touched by GOD to realize what she let go. And I can't see that happening anytime in the next 10 years....

[outdated]

Don't you guys respect the nostalgia of having all the answers? I miss those days....

[Jadey]

Hmm, interesting read. But the thing is everyone is different, it would take different things to maybe win are ex back. Some of them want games, some of them want comfort and reassurance, some of them just need spac, and sadly some of them just really aren interested anymore. You have to workl out wot is the most likely to work for your ex depending on wot kind of person they are, which you obv shiuld know. I think im fnally working out wot buttons to push with my ex and i think i might slowly be getting there. We were talking by text for hours last night. And i mentiond my "new boyfriend" he dodged the comment about him but later on in the convo i mentioned soemthing that would hint me and my "bf" would be having sex and that he wos with me at the time. Im guessing that hit a nerve. I got no reply after that. Now some people might say thats not the right way to go. But honestly in MY situation i think he needs to be hit and realise "oh **** maybe she isnt ging to be there waiting for me if i want her back" Cos thats wot he thought, rightly. Now thinking ive got a new boyfriend (as lons as i dont make it to sound TOO serious) is probably making him think just that. I think with him i need to play games at first, making him think i like him sometimes, but then other times showing no interest.

 

Actualluy thats the bit of advice i think people who want their exes and have a chance should try out. Think about it, im sure weve all been there, maybe were there now with the exes. Someone seems interested in you sometimes, then other times they dont. They seem interested but then they do soemthing that makes you wonder. And they are the people that keeps you wondering and thinking about them. And normally wanting them. Its all a thing of giving abit but then taking away. Confuse them. One day when you see them go up to them smile and say hello , keep looking at them, do major eye contact. Then text them later on then when they text back dont answer. It leaves them thinking "but hang on a minute today they were all over me and then text me, now they aint texting back". They are confused. They are wondering why, they are wondering wot you think of them, and hey they will probably be frustrated all night wondering why you ahent text back and wot they mean to you. There are THINKING ABOUT YOU ALL NIGHT. And more than likely memories of you two toegther will creep up and they will hopefully think "why am i so worried? why am i thinking about them? I must still like them"

 

Then the next time maybe give them a smile and eye contact but then go off and look busy. Just keep giving them mixed signals and leave them thinking about you, cos mixed signals most deffiently will kleave them thinking about you. But remember when youre being "off" to not be too nasty cos that will prob put them off for good, just be off. Like you havent got time for them today or wotever. Oh and its always good to mention a "new partner" just dont talk about them too much.

 

Honestly i think that this has started to work on my ex..

[LucreziaBorgia]

That would work for some people, I guess. It would entirely depend on whether or not she still had feelings for you when she left. If there were still some feelings, then yeah - I could see how she would come back. If not, then it wouldn't work at all - unless she was coming back to you out of desperation (couldn't find anyone else and uses you as the 'back burner' guy until she finds someone she really wants to date) or convenience (using you for money, etc).

[fundamental]

If it was genuine, it could work. Say you truly did learn something from the break up, you emailed because you respect what you had with her, then you actually find someone to make you happy. Maybe your ex would want you back. But then, if that is all true, wouldn't you be happy with the new girl?

 

As a tactic to win you ex back, it could work but the same problems will come up unless you actually talk through them.

 

I could care less for NC. I think it truly depends on the individual. NC works for some people but not for everything, just as your technique will work for some and not others.

[superfabulous]

I think that doesnt work!

[rmo2380]

how could ya do something like that because its dishonest. my ex for two yrs broke up with me because she didnt know if i was right or not with her. she talks to me every once and awhile and she intiates the conversation. i let her have her space. but if you love someone how can you be dishonest to them in the first place is what i dont understand. i think no contact is good because it heals our wounds and lets us know we can live life without someone. i think it makes the opposite person think about the person they were with more and makes think of memories. the idea is try to move on with your life through honesty and integrity. it doesnt matter if people were dumped its part of life. i still love my ex and i probably will always. but ya cant force someone to be with you, that my friend is what i have learned. i was desperate at first doing everything in my power to get her back but let me tell ya something it jus pushed her away farther. good luck with yall

[Jadey]

rmo, sometimes when you love someone so much youll do ANYTHING to get them back. Even being dishonest. It may sound conjadicting but when youre head over heels sometimes it seems the only way to win them back, its hards ya kno.

[rmo2380]

yes i agree jadey but and it might sound like people have good intentions because a month ago i would of agreed with this post. because i was so hurt, but part of loving someone is understanding the person and what they need and want. my ex wanted space and i didnt want to give it to her and at first i didnt. i text her everyday, and worte her emails all the time. telling her how i felt. and i pushed her away farther. i am not saying this is the right way to go, because each person is different. it has worked for me. i still think about her a lot and would do anything for her, but part of me loving her is understanding i cant make her be with me. only they can answer whether they want to or not. good luck

[Jadey]

I understand that. And honestly youre doing the right thing. I think there comes a time when if youre getting nowhere nomatter how much you love someone you leave it. But at the moment in my case NC is not the way to go, not in this situation. In others yeah but i truely believe NC isnt for everyone. At the end of the day its all about games, sadly. Untill you win them back (if you win them back) , untill youre all settled and happy, its about games. My guy friend always says its about winning points. Sad but true..

[LeggyFun]

When guys try to make me jealous or brag about other women - that's a death wish on their part. I dump them for good and don't look back. Nothing is more of a turn off than a guy bragging about dating other women or intentionally trying to make a girl jealous.

 

I divorced my exhusband because he did this! Turned me off and made me despise him.

[Treasa]

Originally posted by LeggyFun

When guys try to make me jealous or brag about other women - that's a death wish on their part. I dump them for good and don't look back. Nothing is more of a turn off than a guy bragging about dating other women or intentionally trying to make a girl jealous.

 

I divorced my exhusband because he did this! Turned me off and made me despise him.

 

Word. And a lot of people can sense farce and manipulation. I know I can, and I know my current boyfriend can. And if my ex DOES find someone else, for some reason I won't want him anymore. Something about him wanting someone else over me shuts off the attraction switch completely for me.

 

I don't have a problem with the original poster saying that his method got HIS girlfriend back, but I really don't think it'd work in the majority of cases. I also got my ex back (and we've been back for seven months now, so I'm pretty sure that it worked fairly long-term), and if I had used his methods, my current/ex wouldn't even have anything to do with me right now.

[Jadey]

Originally posted by Treasa

Word. And a lot of people can sense farce and manipulation. I know I can, and I know my current boyfriend can. And if my ex DOES find someone else, for some reason I won't want him anymore. Something about him wanting someone else over me shuts off the attraction switch completely for me.

 

I don't have a problem with the original poster saying that his method got HIS girlfriend back, but I really don't think it'd work in the majority of cases. I also got my ex back (and we've been back for seven months now, so I'm pretty sure that it worked fairly long-term), and if I had used his methods, my current/ex wouldn't even have anything to do with me right now.

 

How did you get your ex back??

[XNemesisX]

Originally posted by Treasa

Word. And a lot of people can sense farce and manipulation. I know I can, and I know my current boyfriend can. And if my ex DOES find someone else, for some reason I won't want him anymore. Something about him wanting someone else over me shuts off the attraction switch completely for me.

 

I don't have a problem with the original poster saying that his method got HIS girlfriend back, but I really don't think it'd work in the majority of cases. I also got my ex back (and we've been back for seven months now, so I'm pretty sure that it worked fairly long-term), and if I had used his methods, my current/ex wouldn't even have anything to do with me right now.

 

I got my ex back April 2004 after he broke up with me in March '04. We lasted for 6 months...he acted like he was crazy about me again after we got back together and we even moved in with eachother. Yeah, we lasted 6 months after reconciliation. I didn't think we would break up again after we made it that long but boy was I wrong. I'm not saying this will happen to you, Treasa...I hope it doesn't.

 

During times that I would break up wtih him over something because he screwed up, I would have been PISSED if he hadn't tried to get me back. Actually, if he never fought for me and tried realy hard we would have stayed broken up long ago. Problem with him is, when I do the same tactics on him that he would do on me when I broke up with HIM, it didn't work. Well one time it did...but this last time I wasn't about to go all out like I did last time. I think I realized that I didn't want to put myself through another rollercoaster hell of a nightmare again and just get dumped again later down the road....

[niceguy69]

Well, it looks like you guys were right, it didn't work! I think this method would have worked better if she hadn't dumped me for her "dream guy."

 

Now she says she doesn't want to talk to me for a year. She says she has only been physically attracted to me for the past few months and hasn't loved me. She says if it wasn't for sex she would have dumped me a lot sooner.

 

NICE!!!, now the feelings of extreme loneliness I felt right after the break up came flooding back into my head all over again! My ego was slowing getting better after she dumped me, but now that we banged again it's totally destroyed again. Well f me. I hate all girls and their damn emotions.

 

I'm really looking forward to how miserable I'm going to be for the next few weeks. Now is a good time to order a bride from russia on the internet I think, have any guys tried this? Or are there any girls out there that got dumped and want to rebound with a hot guy from North Carolina?