Kylemopar Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 I'm in love with a girl who doesn't want to be loved. She's one of those apathetic types that likes Halloween and b*tchy quotes. She has gave me so many reasons to believe that she likes me. From calling me a perfect Prince Charming, a precious soul, and a treasure to worrying about me whenever I go out drinking and asking to come to my house one night when she wasn't feeling good at home (which she never went through with). Her situation is this, she has a 5 year old daughter, no job, no car, and lives with her ex (and his parents) who treats her like **** (only to be close to her daughter). There are times when she doesn't give a damn about him and others where she is depressed over wanting him back, he cheated on her. We used to talk every day all day laughing and talking about deep things and how our future could look like if we were together. It was amazing. But ever since I told her how I felt about her she started to be a bit withdrawn with only single word sentences and not replying most of the time. I asked her why and she said that's it's because of the way I feel. That she doesn't want a relationship with anyone, and she doesn't want to think about the future when her present isn't even great. She hates expressing her feelings and she has told me that she doesn't like having friends or having someone else's feelings to worry about. All she cares about is her daughter. She has unfriended and unfollowed me countless times, just to give me to to get over my feelings for her, I never will. She's worth it, she sounds horrible but I've seen her sweet caring side. She likes to compare herself to Wednesday Addams, but she really isn't from what I know. She has said that I made her laugh, smile, and even blush during times she didn't want to, she hates smiling. People say that the best girls aren't the easiest and if she's difficult it means she's worth it...and if I give up it means I'm not worthy. Each time I ask to meet up with her she always says maybe or I don't know. Her daughters bday was last week and I bought her a ninja turtle through Amazon which she loved, so it's not like I don't care about her daughter because I truly do and I would take her in as my own if given the chance. But all she says that she just doesn't want to give me hope. During the first month I started talking to her even her sister noticed that she's been acting weird and girly. Posting stuff about marrying someone who makes you laugh because humor never ages, and things about wanting another another kid, and just pretty much adorable stuff about finally finding true love. But now she's more apathetic than she was before, all because I told her how I felt. She just says that she doesn't want anyone to be in love with her, not even her ex. She says that all she wants is stability. I asked her if she would ever trust me not to break her hear and she said that she would, and if I did that she would physically torture me lol. I know exactly what most of you would say. Let her go. She's not worth it. What you guys don't understand that I just don't want to let go, I want her more than anything. People say that they only like you if they make an effort...does coming back after saying a bye multiple times considered making an effort? Tell me anything to win her over, not to lose her. She's not the type of girl to ever go look for someone even if she loves them to death, so if I walk away that's just sealing my own fate with her.
acrosstheuniverse Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 You sound really creepy. She told you she's not interested. She doesn't want a relationship, especially with you. What exactly is it about her you want to attain so badly? You already said she has no job, no car, no home. A kid already, still entangled with the ex. Honestly the only reason I can imagine you going SO nuts over this girl would be that you struggle to meet girls and she's the only one available or something. I genuinely don't see why you keep pursuing her when she's made it clear she isn't interested. What are you hoping, that she might be lying to you about her feelings and if you just pursue that little bit harder she'll suddenly want to run away with you and her kid into the sunset? Do you have a bit of a 'Captain Save-A-Ho' mentality? 3
normal person Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 But ever since I told her how I felt about her she started to be a bit withdrawn with only single word sentences and not replying most of the time. I asked her why and she said that's it's because of the way I feel. That she doesn't want a relationship with anyone, and she doesn't want to think about the future when her present isn't even great. All she cares about is her daughter. She has unfriended and unfollowed me countless times Each time I ask to meet up with her she always says maybe or I don't know. But all she says that she just doesn't want to give me hope. She just says that she doesn't want anyone to be in love with her, not even her ex. Maybe it's time to take the hint. I know exactly what most of you would say. Let her go. She's not worth it. What you guys don't understand that I just don't want to let go, I want her more than anything. People say that they only like you if they make an effort...does coming back after saying a bye multiple times considered making an effort? Tell me anything to win her over, not to lose her. She's not the type of girl to ever go look for someone even if she loves them to death, so if I walk away that's just sealing my own fate with her. Don't let your judgment be clouded. Your refusal to let her go does not grant you some right to her affection. She's made it perfectly clear that she doesn't want your attention in that way, you have to respect it whether you like it or not. It's your problem, not hers. People say that the best girls aren't the easiest and if she's difficult it means she's worth it...and if I give up it means I'm not worthy. Most people are idiots. Why are you taking the sentiment of some stranger as gospel? People say "practice makes perfect." People also say "nobody's perfect." See what I mean? When someone says "a difficult girl is worth it" it usually implies the girl is difficult because she has high standards, knows what she wants, doesn't value a man's attention above her personal successes, she's career-oriented, that sort of thing. This particular girl is difficult towards you because she's got tons of issues and she doesn't like you. There's a gigantic difference and you're lying to yourself if you see otherwise. I know it's tough, but you've got to let this girl go and move on. She clearly doesn't want the same things you do. Stop pretending she does.
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