Author Xiomn Posted October 7, 2015 Author Posted October 7, 2015 I guess everyone is different. I, personally, would feel the guy I had gone out on 4 dates with was not very interested in me if I didn't hear something from him everyday...even if it was a "good morning" and a "I hope you had a great day". I'm not big on phone calls, and I don't like marathon texting all day. But, I do like reminders that he's thinking of me (funny picture, joke, comment about his day, telling me he's looking forward to seeing me, etc.). Everyday? Seems clingy to me, If we were an official couple then yes maybe but wouldn't think of texting every day in the dating stage. Everyone is different though so if you like that.
hippychick3 Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 Everyday? Seems clingy to me, If we were an official couple then yes maybe but wouldn't think of texting every day in the dating stage. Everyone is different though so if you like that. Yes, everyday...and that is at the beginning stages. Most guys I have dated did text daily, and I interpreted that as a sign of interest. The guys who were clingy were the ones who would text constantly and expect immediate replies. Now being in an established relationship, I would expect a lot more that just a few texts a day. But, that is me. 3
Author Xiomn Posted October 7, 2015 Author Posted October 7, 2015 Texted her a funny picture I found yesterday just randomly scrolling through Facebook, not only was it funny but it was good because it related to an interest we both share. I casually put it across that we should do this sometime without prompting her as to when she is free or anything. On her own initiative she said I don't get back til Monday (as she's leaving to go back home for a few days tomorrow) but we can do it tonight if you want? which is great because she essentially asked me without prompting her all that much and it means there won't be that dreaded 12 days between dates anymore, it will only be 8 days which sounds a lot more reasonable. 1
Miss Peach Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 I dated a guy that would schedule the dates far apart and not text/call in between. It made me feel that his intentions were casual and it had me question his intentions and slow things down a lot more than if he had kept in contact between the dates - especially with them so far apart. OP - I like your idea of the picture and a comment. I really dislike the How are you texts as I don't really know how to answer them without the conversation going into lame-ville. 1
hippychick3 Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 I have to say that I love the good morning texts. Even 2 years into the relationship, I look forward to those every morning. It may sound silly, but those daily good mornings from my bf actually mean a lot to me. And, just fyi...I have never told a guy I wanted a good morning text. So, just because a girl doesn't say she wants it or expects it, doesn't mean she doesn't. Girls can be quite complicated! 1
Author Xiomn Posted October 7, 2015 Author Posted October 7, 2015 I have to say that I love the good morning texts. Even 2 years into the relationship, I look forward to those every morning. It may sound silly, but those daily good mornings from my bf actually mean a lot to me. And, just fyi...I have never told a guy I wanted a good morning text. So, just because a girl doesn't say she wants it or expects it, doesn't mean she doesn't. Girls can be quite complicated! I think the problem with me though is i'm worried I might come across as a bit clingy if I start messaging her in the morning like "Good morning, hope you had a nice sleep :)" or something like that, I can imagine doing it when we're officially a couple but again it's just one of those things that I think comes off as a bit weird when you're only in the dating stage. Maybe I'm just too insecure about these kind of things.
Author Xiomn Posted October 8, 2015 Author Posted October 8, 2015 (edited) I need to ask her on our dinner date next Thursday what she thinks about me or "us" because I'm confused as to how much she actually likes me as she never seems to initiate anything. Anyone know why this might be? It will be our 6th date, slept together 3 times, had several sleepovers, spent full days together and plenty of time to get to know each other. My only problem is she hasn't initiated anything as of yet. I'm always the one to initiate text and to set up dates. I'm always the one to initiate cuddling and kissing, and when I do put my arm around her while laying in bed going for a cuddle she has never put her arm around me in return (and I've done it several times) but she doesn't object. I'm always the one to initiate having sex. When I start touching her getting ready to have sex I always ask her if I'm coming off too strong and she always says that I'm not. Before our first kiss on our second date I asked her if I could kiss her and she said yes, so she obviously seems comfortable with me, so why doesn't she initiate anything? We've had sex 3 times now and not once has she took her top off. The first time we had sex I asked if I could take her top off but she wanted to keep it on so I haven't bothered her about it since, meanwhile i'm naked, and usually stay naked for quite some time after sex to express how comfortable I am around her. Edited October 8, 2015 by Xiomn
SSM3 Posted October 8, 2015 Posted October 8, 2015 You definetely need to text between dates! Out of sight, out of mind! 1
Author Xiomn Posted October 8, 2015 Author Posted October 8, 2015 (edited) Getting bored of trying to text her to be honest, noticed over the past 2 weeks she has a pattern of taking many hours to text back, and I know there could be some explanation but she's an unemployed student so it's not like she's working or anything and it takes 5 seconds to text back so I don't really buy the "she could be busy" rubbish. I've also been over to her place several times now and she uses her phone a lot and always has her phone right beside her. Still, she keeps agreeing to go out on dates so I don't know what's up with her. Edited October 8, 2015 by Xiomn
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