glynnroy Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 (edited) I've was seeing a girl who I really liked , it was only for a week, but it was going really well ! Over a 7 day period , she stopped at my house 3 times ! On Friday , I got a text saying " due to her moving house and busy tweaking her business , she's going to be really busy the next 3-4 weeks and can we just be casual , as she said she can't make me my priority ! She also said I can date other girls if I wanted to. She said it wasn't her making excuse s but she was trying to be honest ! Alarm bells starting ringing , but she also send me a birthday gift and a card ! Saturday morning she rung me and said she thought she rung me as she was going to be busy Saturday night ! I texted her around 9 o'clock just to say hi and nothing back ! I then texted her Sunday morning and she said she would ring me later ! Then around 2 she said can I rung you tomorrow! Again Alarm bells were ringing ! I then sent her a text and basically said " are you wanting to call it a day as it seems your even too busy to call me ! The text came back with " ok sorry " and she blocked me ! I rung her on my lads phone and she hung up and blocked me ! End of communication Would I be a good guessed if I thought some one else had come on the scene , as she had basically gone from red hot to cold . Edited October 6, 2015 by glynnroy
Gaeta Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 Of course someone else came along. You should have dropped her at the moment she said you can date other women. 5
Redhead14 Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 I've was seeing a girl who I really liked , it was only for a week, but it was going really well ! Over a 7 day period , she stopped at my house 3 times ! On Friday , I got a text saying " due to her moving house and busy tweaking her business , she's going to be really busy the next 3-4 weeks and can we just be casual , as she said she can't make me my priority ! She also said I can date other girls if I wanted to. Alarm bells starting ringing , but she also send me a birthday gift and a card ! Saturday morning she rung me and said she thought she rung me as she was going to be busy Saturday night ! I texted her around 9 o'clock just to say hi and nothing back ! I then texted her Sunday morning and she said she would ring me later ! Then around 2 she said can I rung you tomorrow! Again Alarm bells were ringing ! I then sent her a text and basically said " are you wanting to call it a day as it seems your even too busy to call me ! The text came back with " ok sorry " and she blocked me ! I rung her on my lads phone and she hung up and blocked me ! End of communication Would I be a good guessed if I thought some one else had come on the scene , as she had basically gone from red hot to cold . Yes, she sounds like she either doesn't know what she wants or she's just super busy as she said. You sent her a text basically reading her mind and telling her what may be in her head by suggesting she wants call it a day. Never do that to anyone. You wait for her call if she says she'll call you tomorrow. She may have done just that, but you pre-empted that. No one likes to be told what they are thinking. she said she can't make me my priority -- And, she wasn't. And, then, after she blocked you, you used someone else's phone to call her!!!! Wow. And, sure, maybe there is someone else, so be it. 2
Author glynnroy Posted October 6, 2015 Author Posted October 6, 2015 Of course someone else came along. You should have dropped her at the moment she said you can date other women. Yes that's what I thought ! Didn't sound good TBH ! Thanks
Author glynnroy Posted October 6, 2015 Author Posted October 6, 2015 Yes, she sounds like she either doesn't know what she wants or she's just super busy as she said. You sent her a text basically reading her mind and telling her what may be in her head by suggesting she wants call it a day. Never do that to anyone. You wait for her call if she says she'll call you tomorrow. She may have done just that, but you pre-empted that. No one likes to be told what they are thinking. she said she can't make me my priority -- And, she wasn't. And, then, after she blocked you, you used someone else's phone to call her!!!! Wow. And, sure, maybe there is someone else, so be it. Thanks for that ! I here you , I suppose I will Never know , hanging on for three to four weeks and saying you can date other girls , kind of giving me the impression that she was going to do it ! Maybe maybe not I rung her on my lads phone yes maybe not the right thing to do but hey ho
ExpatInItaly Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 Yes, it sounds to me like there's another guy in the picture. Sorry, but a woman who is really interested in you would never encourage you to date others. I'd just cut the cord on this one. 4
Redhead14 Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 Thanks for that ! I here you , I suppose I will Never know , hanging on for three to four weeks and saying you can date other girls , kind of giving me the impression that she was going to do it ! Maybe maybe not I rung her on my lads phone yes maybe not the right thing to do but hey ho Never rest your hat on maybes. It's always "maybe" until they show you. 2
Author glynnroy Posted October 6, 2015 Author Posted October 6, 2015 Yes, it sounds to me like there's another guy in the picture. Sorry, but a woman who is really interested in you would never encourage you to date others. I'd just cut the cord on this one. Totally agree ! Also she went off the radar Saturday night and quick text Sunday morning ! Not sure why she sent me birthday present and card Friday , I'm guessing as she wasnt 100 % sure about how this new guy was gonna be ! Agree with all your comments so thanks , I've been on the dating scene for a while but it's nice to get opinions ! Y guess as well when she blocked me which pritty brutal is that she didn't want the guy finding out and blocked me as he was probably there !
PogoStick Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 The only thing you know for sure is she is crazy and flaky. So move on.
Author glynnroy Posted October 12, 2015 Author Posted October 12, 2015 Quick update 8 days later which is this morning , she's unblocked me and sent me a what's app message , saying " hey you how you doing " Now I've not opened it up , as I can see what it says on the notification ! Got a couple of options here ! Answer and get the Truth , am I gonna get it or a excuse Leave it and be done Curios , but is it actually worth the effort , as what's she's done was definitely not girlfriend material ! Could I trust her again ! More girls out there it's not as if I'm desperate, just curious Your thoughts guys n girls
CaliGypsy Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 She blew you off then blocked you for over a week. Is this person really someone you think you could trust? If it were me, I'd call it a day with her. 3
lchf Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 She blew you off then blocked you for over a week. Is this person really someone you think you could trust? If it were me, I'd call it a day with her. Agreed OP. Don't bother replying. 1
xcupid Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Quick update 8 days later which is this morning , she's unblocked me and sent me a what's app message , saying " hey you how you doing " Now I've not opened it up , as I can see what it says on the notification ! Got a couple of options here ! Answer and get the Truth , am I gonna get it or a excuse Leave it and be done Curios , but is it actually worth the effort , as what's she's done was definitely not girlfriend material ! Could I trust her again ! More girls out there it's not as if I'm desperate, just curious Your thoughts guys n girls Ignore her message and don't reply. You're being played. And if you're not being played you're being toyed with. Move on.
kendahke Posted October 12, 2015 Posted October 12, 2015 Quick update 8 days later which is this morning , she's unblocked me and sent me a what's app message , saying " hey you how you doing " Now I've not opened it up , as I can see what it says on the notification ! Got a couple of options here ! Answer and get the Truth , am I gonna get it or a excuse Leave it and be done Curios , but is it actually worth the effort , as what's she's done was definitely not girlfriend material ! Could I trust her again ! More girls out there it's not as if I'm desperate, just curious Your thoughts guys n girls Dude didn't turn out to be what she thought he would be... that's why she unblocked you. She's gaslighting you by even showing up and saying "how you doin'?" What about her blocking you on both your phone and your son's? Why does she want you now? No, I wouldn't dignify that post with a response. Let her twist on the line. Go into your whatsapp settings and change it to it not notifying when you signed on last. That way, no one will see when you sign on, just that the grey double check marks turn blue when their message has been read. Dump her, block her, move on. She had her chance and totally blew it. Let her be with who she had to be with. 1
Author glynnroy Posted October 12, 2015 Author Posted October 12, 2015 One of my favourite sayings ever Gaslighting Very true thanks dude
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