Kouemaha Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 So here is the deal. I have a GF for 2.5 years now. We recently started living together after being through a LDR. We are living together a few months and everything is going great…except.. the sex. Actually, the problem is not the sex, but my dick. Our sex used to be great, and is still, when we have. But recently I just can’t perform. I have been trying to figure out what is going out, but over the last weeks every time we are about to have sex my dick is not responding AT ALL. I am very very attracted to her. My mind wants to have sex with her BADLY, but my dick isn’t following.. Over the last 10 years or so I have been checking porn almost daily. Sometimes I tried to slow it down, but still I was checking porn 3 to 4 times a week. When I used to have sex, my mind was always focused on superficial thoughts; this could be thinking about scenarios where I’m banging a slut I just picked up, thinking about a porn scene, thoughts of degrading my GF to a hooker, etc… bottom line: when having sex, this was always purely focused on the superficial “act”, without really being “intimiate”, and give myself over to her. I don’t know if this is a normal thing to happen, and I suspect it as being one of the reasons I can’t perform anymore right now. I have quit watching porn for some weeks now, and it feels like I am totally not stimulated anymore. If I see my GF, I am attracted to her, but I do not want “sex”, it doesn’t get me horny. She is a beautiful girl… I want to touch her, kiss her, hug her, but not really **** her. She doesn’t have the huge boobs or the super ass as the porn-girls or the model-girls have. And those girls make me ****ing horny right away.. those I want to bang. Now that I’m not checking out the porn/models anymore, it’s like my dick is not having what it really wants in order to get hard. And as a consequence, I can’t have sex. Although my body is craving for sex (I didn’t even cum for 5 days now) Any advice? Thanks
joseb Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 It sounds like you may have porn induced Ed. How old are you? How long ago did you stop using porn? How old were you when you started using porn? If may take a few months to retune your brain.
Author Kouemaha Posted October 6, 2015 Author Posted October 6, 2015 It sounds like you may have porn induced Ed. How old are you? How long ago did you stop using porn? How old were you when you started using porn? If may take a few months to retune your brain. I am 29. I started watching porn when i was about 18-19 years old. I stopped watching porn some weeks ago. Over the last years, i tried quitting porn multiple times. I would always be able to hold it for some weeks, but then couldn't resist anymore. But i didn't had a GF living with me. So nothing would stop me.
JasmineJones Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 this really illustrates how destructive our porn culture can be
joseb Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 I stopped using porn three months ago. It wasn't that hard for me to do really and I saw the benefits almost immediately, probably because there wasn't much porn when I was younger, and I wasn't really addicted or anything. Just a bit of an over reliance. So you started watching young, but not very young. I would expect you should be recovering after a month or so. What made you decide to quit?
kendahke Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 You've become addicted to porn and would rather avoid emotional intimacy with your girlfriend to have hand sex to images where no intimacy is conveyed. The fear of intimacy is the problem. 1
Lois_Griffin Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 Were you raised in the wild? Have a little dammed couth when you're posting on a message board and show a little respect. Your post sounds like some horny teenaged boy who has yet to learn that a little tact goes a long way. This is the DATING section - you might want to post the ongoing trials and tribulations of your 'dick' on the SEX board here on LS. Jesus. 1
mystikmind2005 Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 Well i think your dick needs to learn it is not going to get what it wants unless it gives you what you want. You know, your foolish dick has got a bad attitude, doesn't want to pull its weight, wants an easy ride, well f--k him - he needs to learn you two are in this together, so if he is not going to pull his weight, you need to starve that little bugger .... eventually somethings gotta give, time is on your side, not his. And if that doesn't work, i will send 'Major Pain' to give him some 'attitudinal adjustment', ... he has to learn who's the boss. 1
Author Kouemaha Posted October 6, 2015 Author Posted October 6, 2015 You've become addicted to porn and would rather avoid emotional intimacy with your girlfriend to have hand sex to images where no intimacy is conveyed. The fear of intimacy is the problem. I think you are right.
Author Kouemaha Posted October 6, 2015 Author Posted October 6, 2015 I stopped using porn three months ago. It wasn't that hard for me to do really and I saw the benefits almost immediately, probably because there wasn't much porn when I was younger, and I wasn't really addicted or anything. Just a bit of an over reliance. So you started watching young, but not very young. I would expect you should be recovering after a month or so. What made you decide to quit? I decided to quit when i saw there is a negative effect on my relationship. I want to have passionate sex and have intimacy with my GF. She deserves the best version of myself, not a porn-addicted dude. I hope this situation will get resolved soon. I will do all I can to resist the porn. But not only the porn; also the masturbation on the perfect hot girls/models.
glynnroy Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 So here is the deal. I have a GF for 2.5 years now. We recently started living together after being through a LDR. We are living together a few months and everything is going great…except.. the sex. Actually, the problem is not the sex, but my dick. Our sex used to be great, and is still, when we have. But recently I just can’t perform. I have been trying to figure out what is going out, but over the last weeks every time we are about to have sex my dick is not responding AT ALL. I am very very attracted to her. My mind wants to have sex with her BADLY, but my dick isn’t following.. Over the last 10 years or so I have been checking porn almost daily. Sometimes I tried to slow it down, but still I was checking porn 3 to 4 times a week. When I used to have sex, my mind was always focused on superficial thoughts; this could be thinking about scenarios where I’m banging a slut I just picked up, thinking about a porn scene, thoughts of degrading my GF to a hooker, etc… bottom line: when having sex, this was always purely focused on the superficial “act”, without really being “intimiate”, and give myself over to her. I don’t know if this is a normal thing to happen, and I suspect it as being one of the reasons I can’t perform anymore right now. I have quit watching porn for some weeks now, and it feels like I am totally not stimulated anymore. If I see my GF, I am attracted to her, but I do not want “sex”, it doesn’t get me horny. She is a beautiful girl… I want to touch her, kiss her, hug her, but not really **** her. She doesn’t have the huge boobs or the super ass as the porn-girls or the model-girls have. And those girls make me ****ing horny right away.. those I want to bang. Now that I’m not checking out the porn/models anymore, it’s like my dick is not having what it really wants in order to get hard. And as a consequence, I can’t have sex. Although my body is craving for sex (I didn’t even cum for 5 days now) Any advice? Thanks Is far as kinky as the porn films , it might be that you need stimulating more ! Maybe try suffer be try different things and talk to her about your needs. If your sexually frustrated it will only get worse ! Come off the sites and communicate with your girlfriend
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