TheBathWater Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 (edited) I have typically cleaned up well online, despite being only 5'7" (okay, 5'6.5", but on a very confident day I swear I'm 5'7"). My profile has always received recognition as being "different" and charming, and my photos can't get any better. Not to boast, but I'm very good looking, athletic/fit, successful, confident, talented, financially comfortable, refined taste in culture and arts, great communication skills, FUNNY, and looking for an LTR...basically everything but the height... Suddenly, no women respond to my emails. I am not sending one-liners, thoughtless messages, copy/paste jobs, or anything like that. I've also had several women not long ago either flake out on meeting up at the last minute or go cold once I ask to meet up. Again, very unusual for me. I've also had fewer (as in zero) women initiating contact with me. Normally, I get at least a handful of emails a week. Nothing. I have tried posting new photos/rearranging the order, and altering the text in my profile. But that hasn't worked either. By the way, I'm on multiple sites (Match, OKC, Tinder, PoF) and this is happening ubiquitously! So, I'm beginning to get frustrated and wonder a few things: 1. What can I do differently, if anything? 2. Should I give up on OLD for a while? 3. What tips do guys have for dealing with approach anxiety if I go back to 'real life' approaching? I have noticed more women flirting with me in person lately but have gotten so used to OLD that I feel rusty...but I am strongly considering disabling my OLD accounts and just talking to any woman I get eyes for. I think OLD is wearing off for me, and is not the best place to meet partners anyway. Edited October 6, 2015 by TunaInTheBrine
seekingluck Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 You sound potentially awesome on paper. And maybe instead of putting all of your eggs in the OLD basket, you should start doing stuff to meet people organically via the activities you like and interests you have. I personally found that works a lot better for me, since I have the sort of stats that are commonly filtered our in OLD, and I shine in person.
Author TheBathWater Posted October 6, 2015 Author Posted October 6, 2015 You sound potentially awesome on paper. And maybe instead of putting all of your eggs in the OLD basket, you should start doing stuff to meet people organically via the activities you like and interests you have. I personally found that works a lot better for me, since I have the sort of stats that are commonly filtered our in OLD, and I shine in person. Yeah, what stops me though is this: In OLD, I get some context for a person: their interests, education background, relationship goals, and of course the fact that they're single. In real life, I only have their looks to go off of, and I guess I feel exhausted at the thought of wasting time/effort to talk to 'hot' women who wind up not interesting me. On the other hand, I think you have a point, because OLD has sucked up a lot of my time as is and I really DO want to start living life more and having fun. And yes, I am awesome on paper and in person. Many friends/coworkers cannot believe I am single.
casey.lives Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 move on. it's over. seriously.. don't care about fleeting fake feelings. it's a 100% BAD!!
Zippy2000 Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 Im the same as you my friend. Im on OLD and its difficult as its mainly the women who get messages. I dont get replies from women and any response I do get is replied with crickets or tumbleweed. You just have to keep trying with newer members and hope theyre genuine enough to reply. It happens. OLD is like a lottery. What I find interesting is why the same attractibe women are STILL on Match or POF for months or even years! Why?
jam.over.jelly Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 Im the same as you my friend. Im on OLD and its difficult as its mainly the women who get messages. I dont get replies from women and any response I do get is replied with crickets or tumbleweed. You just have to keep trying with newer members and hope theyre genuine enough to reply. It happens. OLD is like a lottery. What I find interesting is why the same attractibe women are STILL on Match or POF for months or even years! Why? Because OLD sucks, attractive people don't necessarily have it easier. Guys ask me the same question you do, lol, "why on earth are you still on here, I thought you would already be taken by now". Well, I just got out of a relationship so there's that.
StocksnBlondes Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 (edited) So OP ...have you met anyone you actually decided to date from your experience online? Or just a lot of one off dates? I've used match for about 10 months but I've only actually used it for a few months. I've been single about a year ...dated someone for 4 months and another person 3 months with a few month break in between. I usually unhide my profile for a few weeks and set up a bunch of dates and usually meet someone with mutual compatibility/attraction and decide to just date each other pretty quickly. So I'm single right now again and thinking about going on again ...you could technically say I'm on there again but my profile has been visible for maybe a few months total in less than a years timeframe. That's how it works for me. I do see a lot of the same guys on there and think they must be crazy picky to be on there for so long or maybe just players or maybe they just like to date and not wanting a LTR. I avoid them like the plague. If women are seeing you as a constant presence on a site they start to wonder. Just sayin' Edited October 6, 2015 by StocksnBlondes
Guyouthere Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 You should research some of those sites you mention. They have been reported to be a scam.
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