Marshbear Posted May 19, 2005 Posted May 19, 2005 Saw the ex today for the first time in about 3 weeks. We have not been speaking for over a year now but she still cannot let go of her bitterness against me. When she saw me I saw the look of vileness in her eyes. I had heard through the grapevine that she is now seeing someone so I thought her interest in him would moderate her anger at me. I guess it hasn't so far. What do you think? Isn't it time for her to move on and stop this game? Can someone be that sore at someone forever? Comments welcome.
Author Marshbear Posted May 19, 2005 Author Posted May 19, 2005 I agree it doesn't matter and I shouldn't let it even bother me but I guess the fact that someone has such a disgust for you does upset me. I don't dwell on it and I have moved on but I wish she could... Oh well.....
Naive Posted May 19, 2005 Posted May 19, 2005 Originally posted by Marshbear I agree it doesn't matter and I shouldn't let it even bother me but I guess the fact that someone has such a disgust for you does upset me. I don't dwell on it and I have moved on but I wish she could... Oh well..... Yeah it's hard but you can ONLy control what you do and think and by trying to control or hoping to change something you are just stressing yourself out.
XNemesisX Posted May 19, 2005 Posted May 19, 2005 Did you dump her? Did you do something wretched to her? I definitely think that some bitterness can last forever. Some things you just can't forget and just can't forgive. Also, some people are better than others at hiding their true feelings. Mom always told me I wear my feelings on my sleeve so it's EXTREMELY hard for me to act like nothing is wrong or act like I don't have a problem when I have a serious disliking for someone.
Author Marshbear Posted May 19, 2005 Author Posted May 19, 2005 Originally posted by XNemesisX Did you dump her? Did you do something wretched to her? I definitely think that some bitterness can last forever. Some things you just can't forget and just can't forgive. Also, some people are better than others at hiding their true feelings. Mom always told me I wear my feelings on my sleeve so it's EXTREMELY hard for me to act like nothing is wrong or act like I don't have a problem when I have a serious disliking for someone. I broke up with her because she did not want to commit. After I ended it she was so mad she told me that she never liked me and that if I didn't leave her alone she would file stalking charges against me. I never stalked her or any of the like. I told her I would speak to her if I saw her and I wished her the best. She just flipped and I think she wanted to kill me. No, I did nothing wretched to her. I just could not continue with her and told her why I needed to break away. She will not speak to me and hates it if she has to pass me and will even leave a room if I am in it. She has such childish behaviors ( a reason why I broke up ) but I still like her as a person and I don't hate her. I have never seen someone who can harbor such bitterness for so long. I don't know why you would want to. I guess she gets some pleasure out of it or you would not continue. I just give up...
XNemesisX Posted May 19, 2005 Posted May 19, 2005 Ok...she sounds pretty psycho! Don't even worry with her! She sounds like a big baby...and off kilter too.
magda Posted May 20, 2005 Posted May 20, 2005 Well, if you did something nasty to her it might be nice to apologize. But you say you didn't, so you really don't have any unfinished business. She'll probably be sore until she grows up a little. Surely she's a very angry person - you couldn't have caused all that anger if the situation went as you describe - she had that negativity from the beginning and found a convenient place in you to focus it. Nothing to be done but pick better adjusted, healthy & mature people to associate with in the future.
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