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Regaining Confidence After a Relationship?


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I'm a man in my mid-30s. I had recently been in a relationship. Besides the self-blame, the self-hate and the repeated "Should haves" and "Could haves" that I keep telling myself, I find myself hesitating over small decisions.

 

I get nervous over the slightest of problems. Sometimes I hesitate between A or B to the point that I end up making no decision at all and by then it's too late to enjoy an evening with friends or go to this or do that. I also get extremely nervous over things that I write to people or text people. After I send a message I think, "Crap, I shouldn't have said this or that...What will he/she think? If I wrote this, it would have sounded better...."

 

I feel confused, fragile and making decisions seems like a complex task.

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Life is short. It will end sooner than you think. And even if it takes longer, it will be with you being a weak old man unable to experience new things in life.

 

You are in your mid 30s, i am 32. Now is our time. This night, next night, a finite number of days and nights to experience new things and create new memories to reminisce when we will be weak old men.

 

So stop hesitating. Go out and make thousands of mistakes. After a few years or decades, no one will care and most who were witness to those mistakes will be dead anyway.

 

We are dust in the wind my friend. Make the most of your time. Mistakes will happen. But only those who never attempt anything, never fail.

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