MonWedFri Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 Hey everyone. I had a great first date with a girl at my college. The very nice outdoor cafe we met up at was packed, so we went on a walk through campus through the nature-y parts to a nice bench and talked for ~1 hr. Laughter, equal amount of sharing, the whole shabang. She even took a route back with me that I later found out was out of her way (to spend more time?). We had to part ways because we both had committments. Texted her about 7 hours later that day. My text had three parts, the first of which was that I had a good time and we should hang out again soon. She responded immediately, and included a smiley face to the other two points, but didn't address the first point i.e. that she too had a good time or that she too wanted to do it again. She was to get back from her trip Sunday early afternoon, after leaving right after our date on Friday morning. Texted her on Sunday evening? Still no response. How to proceed if she doesn't respond to the text? Could she not be into it?
cessna Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 From experience a girl that dodges a question about meeting up again isn't interested. You've done your bit but don't expect much, she doesn't sound interested in you romantically.
Ami1uwant Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 Ball is in her court..not much you can do here.
seekingluck Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 We should meet soon isn't all that specific. I wouldn't reply with "let's hang out on Tuesday." She might be waiting for you to be more specific. So pong her and say "I was thinking of doing blah blah blah thing on Friday." Or ask her if she is free for dinner or whatever you like to do on a day in the next few days. But be specific about a date and approximate time. See what she says, if she doesn't reply you've got your answer. 2
Author MonWedFri Posted October 6, 2015 Author Posted October 6, 2015 We should meet soon isn't all that specific. I wouldn't reply with "let's hang out on Tuesday." She might be waiting for you to be more specific. So pong her and say "I was thinking of doing blah blah blah thing on Friday." Or ask her if she is free for dinner or whatever you like to do on a day in the next few days. But be specific about a date and approximate time. See what she says, if she doesn't reply you've got your answer. I should clarify that I texted her on Sunday night asking, jokingly, if she made it back in one piece from her camping trip. She has yet to respond though. I obviously want to make it more specific, so maybe I should give her a couple days and then text?
seekingluck Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 I should clarify that I texted her on Sunday night asking, jokingly, if she made it back in one piece from her camping trip. She has yet to respond though. I obviously want to make it more specific, so maybe I should give her a couple days and then text? Ok let's see. I am not a big texter. So I don't necessarily text without a question to answer. If we already have a jokey relationship then I would reply to your text. But if I was my insecure younger self, I might hold until you ask me out to not come off as too eager. You'll never be sure unless you make a firm date request. It is an easy way to close the loop on the situation. People who want to see you when you make an effort to create plans. If the plans sound vague it is neither here nor there - if you are like me. I've got a lot going on, so I want something definitive to see if I should bother.
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