!!! Part 2 of the Saga....she stops over after breakup

[Confusioncreepsin]

So backstory is that I caught her, confirmed that this dude was coming over a random times to her house. I told her never contact me again, and I wished her and new thing the best. Two days go by and she shows up at my house....jeez. She has a key, so not knowing what to do I let her in.

 

She tells me that she loves me, misses me (we have had extended breakups), and says that she is sorry for the trouble she made. She wants the pain to end for her. I ask "What can be done to stop the pain?" she says she does not know. She wants me to visit her kids tomorrow at a restaurant?? What?? We talk for a long while and she confesses her undying love and tells me SOME of the backstory of this mystery guy, but not everything. He is a "friend" that comforts her and does **** around her house for her....****ing orbiter. Anyway, things still don't add up....like I asked why she didn't answer the door when I saw his car and hers in a dark house....she said she was standing behind that door. Then later states when I ask the question a different way, that she never heard the bell or knock.

 

Just inconsistencies like that...all the time. This morning she called my work phone and started saying she just ate a huge breakfast and then I hear her ordering breakfast through a drive thru??? What is going on....why does she want me to meet the kids in a restaurant? She said they miss me (since I have not been able to see much of them over the last time period). She will tell me loves me on the phone, but never in text???

 

I feel like a fool, I was working on NC and she bombs me and STILL the inconsistencies. Please advise!!! I am going nuts with this....

[PaperCrane]

No contact means NO CONTACT.

AT ALL.

 

Stick to it, she's playing games. She doesn't respect you man.

[Shock148]

So backstory is that I caught her, confirmed that this dude was coming over a random times to her house. I told her never contact me again, and I wished her and new thing the best. Two days go by and she shows up at my house....jeez. She has a key, so not knowing what to do I let her in.

 

She tells me that she loves me, misses me (we have had extended breakups), and says that she is sorry for the trouble she made. She wants the pain to end for her. I ask "What can be done to stop the pain?" she says she does not know. She wants me to visit her kids tomorrow at a restaurant?? What?? We talk for a long while and she confesses her undying love and tells me SOME of the backstory of this mystery guy, but not everything. He is a "friend" that comforts her and does **** around her house for her....****ing orbiter. Anyway, things still don't add up....like I asked why she didn't answer the door when I saw his car and hers in a dark house....she said she was standing behind that door. Then later states when I ask the question a different way, that she never heard the bell or knock.

 

Just inconsistencies like that...all the time. This morning she called my work phone and started saying she just ate a huge breakfast and then I hear her ordering breakfast through a drive thru??? What is going on....why does she want me to meet the kids in a restaurant? She said they miss me (since I have not been able to see much of them over the last time period). She will tell me loves me on the phone, but never in text???

 

I feel like a fool, I was working on NC and she bombs me and STILL the inconsistencies. Please advise!!! I am going nuts with this....

 

And she is STILL TELLING LIES! Dude just ignore her from now on you can NEVER regain her trust and things will end up badly really shortly if you give her yet another try. You have given her too many chances and she still effs it up. Even now when she is suppose to SHOW YOU not tell you that she loves you, she cannot even do that. Break it off, it's her loss, let her grieve and be in guilt over losing you. Tell her it's over and thats the final decision and you would respect her if she stopped contacting you because you will go NC on her. I know it will hurt and you will miss her, but she is no good for you at all. I don't even know her or everything that happened but so many inconsistencies and that breakfast scenario? Cmon, she thinks her sweet talk can let her get away with everything with you. No more, NC her today.

[pidgeon1010]

She's lying. You know it. If it looks like a duck and walks like a duck...

 

Get your key. Cut her off completely.

[Shock148]

I wouldn't be surprised either that she is telling you all of this but still having sex with that mysterious guy in the meantime. She's playing you like a fiddle.

[ScienceGal]

I realize this is one side of the story, but taken at face value, I say EFF HER!!

 

I'm so tired of reading all of these infidelity stories where one partner is an inconsiderate liar and/or cheat. I've never cheated on anyone, yet can't seem to find a good partner.

 

Makes me mad.

 

Bad day for me, sorry.

[Confusioncreepsin]

I know...I know.... I couldn't help the house thing BUT i did get my key back...locks will be changed today.

 

It has always been like that...says one thing and then another since I know to ask a different way. It's like she forgets her lie and I will sit there dumbfounded. If I try to make a point of it, she will say **** like "YOU ARE NOT THE BOSS OF ME" or "HUSH YOURSELF". I really think she is also trying to use the kids as a way to reel me in again? She was crying and so deeply depressed when she came over. She was telling me everything I wanted to hear. I started to choke up simply because somewhere I knew that it was all a show. She brought up everytime I hurt her and just kept on with it, but when I brought up one (of the many) things she did, she would just go quiet....nothing then "YOU DONT KNOW ME" It's like she forgets or something but gets way angered if I point out any of her flaws.... Is she mental or something?

 

How is she playing me in this regard? She wants this pain to go away but when we talked I asked her what she wanted to do, She didn't know....which tells me that she doesn't want to get back or she is conflicted. I was looking for the sorry which I got, but nothing on the US part except to come meet her kids...What are your thoughts?

Edited October 5, 2015 by Confusioncreepsin

[kgcolonel]

She is playing you with her "pain". She knows this is her leverage....you, mistakenly care and she is using this to play you. "Is she Mental or something", you've answered your self here in your own question but I'll assist, YES to both. Possibly a sociopath but not a very good liar as when caught, has no answer, gets quiet to think of how to turn the table. Your best bet is to back away from the trainwreck that is already in process. NO CONTACT what so ever. No calls, no texts no visits with her children nothing. She will stop at nothing to keep you on the hook. If you want out, it is your choice to leave the room.

[Shock148]

It sounds to me like she just wants you around because you are great with her kids and can take care of them. Really nothing more than just that. Just like in the last thread when she basically used you as a babysitter while she went out, most likely with that mysterious guy, and had a great time and stayed overnight while you like a schmuck stood home taking care of her kids not being able to contact her. Most likely she was in bed after a good f*ck and saw your text but ignored it until it was time for her to return home, while you took care of her kids. So long story short, she does not love you or miss you for you, she loves the fact that you can be a free babysitter for her kids and misses that she hasnt been able to use that out of you recently.