Should I dump her??

[Sports123]

Sports said this doesn't bother her, her response when he mentioned it was cool, which is good in a way, but she did not seem at all concerned about it.

 

 

I was thinking if that were me and my boyfriend brought the subject up, I would probably ask him if it bothered him or turned him off.

 

 

At which point, knowing my bf, he would say it did, at which point I WOULD become concerned about it and want to do something about removing it permanently.

 

 

But I am guessing, at such a young age (23), she has not had to face any serious consequences (like a guy she likes breaking up with her), but if Sports were to break up with her, and tell her why (which he should if he goes that route), perhaps she might change her tune about that, and begin thinking about permanent or longer lasting removal.

 

 

Like I and the above poster said, shaving is the WORST thing to do!!

 

 

The absolute worst!

 

Again, it's not that she wasn't concerned about her facial hair, just seemed like she wasn't dwelling on it.

 

She said she has tried laser, but she got headaches from it and she tried a lot of other stuff, but she had problems with them.

 

I am sure if she could get it smoother she would. The only permanent solution is electrolysis, but the pain factor seemed to make her hesitant.

[Sports123]

Depilatory creams do NOT remove the dark super coarse hair on a woman's chin or neck. None of them are strong enough. I've tried quite a few myself. I WISH I could afford laser, but I just cannot. Plus, there's NO WAY I would be able to grow the hair long enough for those treatments outside of my home. I'm just stuck with this curse. I hate it, hate, hate, hate it. It's ruined me as a person cause I feel like Cinderella having to be back home after 8hrs due to my "shadow" showing under my makeup.

 

Reading about men's opinions about it is just making me feel worse.

 

I'm sorry I'm making you feel bad; I don't mean to.

 

I understand how embarrassing this must be to struggle with.

 

I never really knew any women who grew it before I met my gf.

I don't really like shaving either, I get bad ingrown hairs and my face breaks out. However, I can choose to just let it grow out, which I do sometimes.

 

I just wish there were better products out there to help women with this problem.

 

Are there any medicines that work?

My gf said she didn't want to go on meds, but if she did they would be natural supplements.

[Sports123]

Electrolysis was painful and tedious, but worked. I finished most of the rest off with laser. Anything that pops up now and then gets tweezed (one or two isolated hairs here and there).

 

I thought you said you got scars from it. So, now instead of hairs you have scars?

[MidwestUSA]

I thought you said you got scars from it. So, now instead of hairs you have scars?

 

A few. Where the power was set too high. They've faded and I have freckles anyway, so it's all good.

 

You mentioned meds. I'd forgotten all about this one: Vaniqa. And if indeed she has PCOS (did you ask?), spironolactone can help.

[Sports123]

A few. Where the power was set too high. They've faded and I have freckles anyway, so it's all good.

 

You mentioned meds. I'd forgotten all about this one: Vaniqa. And if indeed she has PCOS (did you ask?), spironolactone can help.

 

That's good they faded. Any other issues you had withe electrolysis besides the pain and how painful was it? I don't want my gf to have to go through all this pain just for me. I mean I would feel guilty.

 

What's spironolactone and do you take it?

 

I didn't ask if she had PCOS.

[StocksnBlondes]

I thought you said you got scars from it. So, now instead of hairs you have scars?

 

OP I've been very objective with you ...and even ventured into cheering you on ...but you're obsessive! Stop already! You're nitpicking in this thread and I believe you're nitpicking this girl ... I do not want to go as far as saying you do not deserve her but dude! Stop it! Her facial hair has nothing on your anal retentive nature. Do you see who you are?

[Sports123]

OP I've been very objective with you ...and even ventured into cheering you on ...but you're obsessive! Stop already! You're nitpicking in this thread and I believe you're nitpicking this girl ... I do not want to go as far as saying you do not deserve her but dude! Stop it! Her facial hair has nothing on your anal retentive nature. Do you see who you are?

 

I know, I just want to see if I can help my gf. I don't want to be eventually repulsed and have to dump her. I will eventually see her without make up and I have no clue what i'll do.

[MidwestUSA]

That's good they faded. Any other issues you had withe electrolysis besides the pain and how painful was it? I don't want my gf to have to go through all this pain just for me. I mean I would feel guilty.

 

What's spironolactone and do you take it?

 

I didn't ask if she had PCOS.

 

I'd have to read up on spironolactone to explain it. But Vaniqa is for anyone with excessive hair, not just those caused by hormones. I'm sure it's costly, but if you google it, you'll find coupons.

 

I got excess hair from my German mom. I take plenty of meds to keep my sanity, but none for reducing hair.

 

The electrolysis is just so tedious, as they treat one hair at a time. It takes a lot of sessions. It wasn't comfortable; they are sticking a fine needle in each and every hair follicle, then zapping it. It burns. The area will be red for a while afterward. I tried my best to get Saturday appointments so I had a day to recover before work.

 

Laser is really the best option. Perhaps she needs to check into a different laser center/operator. I'm not sure why it would give her a headache. Maybe she could take a pain reliever in advance?

 

Oh, what color is the hair? Can you tell? What's her skin tone?

[StocksnBlondes]

I know, I just want to see if I can help my gf. I don't want to be eventually repulsed and have to dump her. I will eventually see her without make up and I have no clue what i'll do.

 

OP are you an educated person? Like uni. I'm just going to throw this out there ...if you are ...I'm repulsed my our education system. Let the girl you're dating do her own research ...you're going to decimate her self esteem as a means to your own end

 

Please stop using the nomenclature "dump her" like she's trash

[Sports123]

I'd have to read up on spironolactone to explain it. But Vaniqa is for anyone with excessive hair, not just those caused by hormones. I'm sure it's costly, but if you google it, you'll find coupons.

 

I got excess hair from my German mom. I take plenty of meds to keep my sanity, but none for reducing hair.

 

The electrolysis is just so tedious, as they treat one hair at a time. It takes a lot of sessions. It wasn't comfortable; they are sticking a fine needle in each and every hair follicle, then zapping it. It burns. The area will be red for a while afterward. I tried my best to get Saturday appointments so I had a day to recover before work.

 

Laser is really the best option. Perhaps she needs to check into a different laser center/operator. I'm not sure why it would give her a headache. Maybe she could take a pain reliever in advance?

 

Oh, what color is the hair? Can you tell? What's her skin tone?

 

Thanks for the advice. When I feel more comfortable I will pass it on to my gf.

 

I frankly think electrolysis sounds awful lol

She also said laser only lasted maybe a month and then the hair returned anyway.

She has brown hair and she is a white female.

[Sports123]

OP are you an educated person? Like uni. I'm just going to throw this out there ...if you are ...I'm repulsed my our education system. Let the girl you're dating do her own research ...you're going to decimate her self esteem as a means to your own end

 

Please stop using the nomenclature "dump her" like she's trash

 

I am a web developer. I spend a lot of time on the computer and have free time at work, that's why I can spend all this time on these boards.

 

I just am concerned about the future with her. I also will stop saying dump, that does sound cold. Instead I will say break up with.

[MidwestUSA]

Thanks for the advice. When I feel more comfortable I will pass it on to my gf.

 

I frankly think electrolysis sounds awful lol

She also said laser only lasted maybe a month and then the hair returned anyway.

She has brown hair and she is a white female.

 

Laser takes a few sessions. The hair that 'came back' was just in a different part of the growth cycle. It took about six sessions to get my lower legs clear. You have to commit and keep going back.

 

Dark hair with light skin gets the best results. It really is her best option.

 

Yes, electrolysis is barbaric compared to the laser. At least the laser zap hits many hairs at once.

 

This is close to home, because I really wish I had opened up a laser/permanent cosmetics business. If you want to feel squeamish, think about getting tattooed eyeliner.

[martaldn]

this thread is getting longer than her hair..

 

it is definitely an issue with you so just break up with her.what is the point in asking people around if it is clear that you have a problem with it.

[MidwestUSA]

Quite coincidentally, this just popped up on my Facebook feed. Self confidence goes a long way.

 

 

I Wish Everybody Had This Much Self-Confidence. This Girl Is Amazing.

[JasmineJones]

OP I've been very objective with you ...and even ventured into cheering you on ...but you're obsessive! Stop already! You're nitpicking in this thread and I believe you're nitpicking this girl ... I do not want to go as far as saying you do not deserve her but dude! Stop it! Her facial hair has nothing on your anal retentive nature. Do you see who you are?

 

I agree. This girl's facial hair is positively gorgeous compared with the OP's attitude.

[craw]

I just went and got wolverined [waxed] yesterday - the lady did something wrong and now I have a gigantic burning red mark on my face! yay!

 

I am reading up on electrolysis now, it seems painful and important to find the right professional otherwise you can have scarring??

 

I will be a guinea pig next year.

[Sports123]

Well I am still dating her. We have a lot of fun together and she is a great person. I did see her without her makeup when we went to NYC for my friends wedding. She had shadow and stubble all over her jawline/neck. I didn't even know she had all that because she does cover it well. I did ask her again about waxing and she told me that since the hair is all over, it just would be too hard. Also she believes since she has a hormonal imbalance the hair may come back worse. I told her I am still attracted to her, just wish there was more that could be done because it is a turn off.

Then she replied saying my back acne is unattractive too and started asking if there was more I could do for that.

 

She told me today she is going for electrolysis this week. I am really happy and excited. She is worried about the pain though and we are hoping it works.

[meeji]

I wouldn't dump someone because of that.

 

I dated a guy with a pretty bad skin condition. It was very visible and his skin was scaly.

He was a hardworker.

He had integrity.

We had things in common.

 

He was honest, attractive, funny, confident and all the other things that I was looking for in a guy.

 

You sound kind of shallow. If she can't help her hormonal embalance it's outside of her control and if you can't accept her as she is then you should move out of her way so she can find a guy who will love all of her.

 

When people get married they sometimes gain wait, grow moles, grow hair in places they didn't have before, get sick, get fired... things happen and when two people really care about each other none of that matters.

 

It doesn't sound like you are so into her.

 

Do her a favor and dump her so she can find the right guy..

[kpl]

Well I am still dating her. We have a lot of fun together and she is a great person. I did see her without her makeup when we went to NYC for my friends wedding. She had shadow and stubble all over her jawline/neck. I didn't even know she had all that because she does cover it well. I did ask her again about waxing and she told me that since the hair is all over, it just would be too hard. Also she believes since she has a hormonal imbalance the hair may come back worse. I told her I am still attracted to her, just wish there was more that could be done because it is a turn off.

Then she replied saying my back acne is unattractive too and started asking if there was more I could do for that.

 

She told me today she is going for electrolysis this week. I am really happy and excited. She is worried about the pain though and we are hoping it works.

 

Every time you have said anything about her she just sounds more and more like a keeper. She's feisty and seems really happy with herself. Be careful how you handle, she's a catch and knows it.