kpl Posted October 5, 2015 Posted October 5, 2015 I would be sure of her if it wasn't for her facial hair. She is pretty, nice, smart and we have a great time together. I could see myself falling for her. I just don't know if I can handle this issue. on the grand scheme of things this is not really a big issue. I get it is upsetting for you but there are solutions. If you really want to have a real relationship just discuss it with her. It will be awkward but be kind and sincere. Emphasize it isn't a huge deal but it just kind of bugs you. If you have been complimenting her all along and letting her know how attracted you are to her she won't think it now means you find her disgusting. I think having that conversation will get you in the habit of having other conversations and make it easier for you to deal with tougher issues in the future.
Stage5Clinger Posted October 5, 2015 Posted October 5, 2015 There is probably a hundred ways to remove facial hair these days for women if you can broach the topic with her appropriately.
Maxtor Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 Brah, please tell her then. For instance, if I am with someone, even a friend or an acquaintance that has bad breath, I will take them aside and tell them. I would love if someone did the same for me. If i dont know the problem, i cant fix it. Then its up to her to decide if it is a problem for her. If it isnt, then you decide if it still is for you.
Author Sports123 Posted October 6, 2015 Author Posted October 6, 2015 How do you know it's a hormonal imbalance? Well, I have researched it and if a girl has more then a little peach fuzz it probably is hormonal.
Author Sports123 Posted October 6, 2015 Author Posted October 6, 2015 on the grand scheme of things this is not really a big issue. I get it is upsetting for you but there are solutions. If you really want to have a real relationship just discuss it with her. It will be awkward but be kind and sincere. Emphasize it isn't a huge deal but it just kind of bugs you. If you have been complimenting her all along and letting her know how attracted you are to her she won't think it now means you find her disgusting. I think having that conversation will get you in the habit of having other conversations and make it easier for you to deal with tougher issues in the future. Yea, I know in the grand scheme of things it seems silly to be upset about it. I mean she is amazing. She does take care of it and it's not noticeable unless your close to her. She does handle it and keeps up with it already. I'm not ready to mention it to her
Author Sports123 Posted October 6, 2015 Author Posted October 6, 2015 There is probably a hundred ways to remove facial hair these days for women if you can broach the topic with her appropriately. Well, she does remove it, maybe shaving is what works for her, I just don't like the roughness. I can't tell her it bothers me
neowulf Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 So should I dump her or still be with her?? I would love more feedback on this. I just go back and forth. I just think it's a turn off even if she covers it well. Would the roughness bother anyone else? Dump or keep? The fact you're on a forum asking for feedback on whether or not you should "Dump or Keep her" speaks pretty loudly of how you feel about her. Face it man, you're not that into her. Let her go find someone who only see's the beauty in her. 2
Author Sports123 Posted October 6, 2015 Author Posted October 6, 2015 Brah, please tell her then. For instance, if I am with someone, even a friend or an acquaintance that has bad breath, I will take them aside and tell them. I would love if someone did the same for me. If i dont know the problem, i cant fix it. Then its up to her to decide if it is a problem for her. If it isnt, then you decide if it still is for you. Well she knows she has facial hair since she shaves and wears make up to cover it. If this is the best she can do, then would you dump her? I don't want her to become self conscience of it because it doesn't look bad. I just don't like the roughness
Author Sports123 Posted October 6, 2015 Author Posted October 6, 2015 The fact you're on a forum asking for feedback on whether or not you should "Dump or Keep her" speaks pretty loudly of how you feel about her. Face it man, you're not that into her. Let her go find someone who only see's the beauty in her. I'm crazy about her, she is someone special. My family loves her too. I just think the facial hair is a concern. Like if I see her without doing it one day I could freak. She is really sweet and when I had a cold two weeks ago she brought me soup. Doesn't anyone see where I am coming from?
neowulf Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 I'm crazy about her, she is someone special. My family loves her too. I just think the facial hair is a concern. Like if I see her without doing it one day I could freak. She is really sweet and when I had a cold two weeks ago she brought me soup. Doesn't anyone see where I am coming from? I see you trying to rationalize the problem away. I'm not saying she's a poor catch. I'm saying you don't like an aspect of her that she has next to no control of. She may *always* have a facial hair problem. Hell, once she goes through menopause, it'll probably become worse. Consider this; I'm into big boobs right. I've dated girls with small boobs, yet in the end, it ends up becoming an issue, because despite my best efforts, *big boobs turn me on*. So either I accept my preferences and only date girls with large breasts, or I continue to try and talk myself out of my personal preferences. I'm just saying man, there's a lot of fish in the sea. If this is bothering you now, after 5 weeks, it's going to go on to bug you down the road.
SugarLips72 Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 Laser will remove the hair, It kills the follicle after a few treatments. horomones have nothing to do with it. How old is she? PCOS is actually common. Most women that have it have irregular periods, are overweight (esp around mid section). the facial hair can be easily treated. There really is no polite way to ask her about it without embarassing her. BTW all women have hair EVERYWHERE. Mine just happens to be thin and light and not course. When the horomones are out of whack more hair than usual grows. BTW growing up I babysat for a lady who seemed to have excessive facial hair. Really pretty lady and at one time she was a Fiesta Bowl Queen. Everyone loved her including her husband and nobody cared. If the woman covers it with makeup so what? when you know her better talk to her about it. 1
Author Sports123 Posted October 6, 2015 Author Posted October 6, 2015 I see you trying to rationalize the problem away. I'm not saying she's a poor catch. I'm saying you don't like an aspect of her that she has next to no control of. She may *always* have a facial hair problem. Hell, once she goes through menopause, it'll probably become worse. Consider this; I'm into big boobs right. I've dated girls with small boobs, yet in the end, it ends up becoming an issue, because despite my best efforts, *big boobs turn me on*. So either I accept my preferences and only date girls with large breasts, or I continue to try and talk myself out of my personal preferences. I'm just saying man, there's a lot of fish in the sea. If this is bothering you now, after 5 weeks, it's going to go on to bug you down the road. So, what should I say the reason is I'm dumping her? She will be shocked because we have so much fun together. She has everything I'm looking for in a girlfriend and potential wife. We have been on day trips together and have really built something special. We are supposed to be going to my cousin's wedding in NYC in two weeks. She is so pretty and nice. It just is always something with people I like. So, if I dump her will I regret it? Will I be superficial and shallow? Or is this a legit reason and most guys would dump her?
Eighty_nine Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 Jesus, no, don't dump her! I haven't read through this whole thread, but are we really in a place culturally where one physical concern is enough for us to break up with people we genuinely like...?! I know we're all getting more and more shallow but come ON. No. Don't break up with her. 2
h0000 Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 I'm very confused by OP. When people suggest you to dump her you keep saying "I'm crazy for her" then people suggest you to keep dating her you say "I'm not sure if it will be a big issue". If you were really crazy about her you would not for a second be turned off by her facial hair. You clearly have problems with this and you are tying so hard to overlook it by focusing on how good she is otherwise. Why? To feel better about yourself ? Or worried you won't be able to find another catch anytime soon (in other words, you are settling)? And ultimately it your choice if you want to settle or not. We don't know how you feel when kissing her! But if I have to put myself in your shoes, I would bring this topic up and hopefully help her find a way to fix this. If she is unwilling to, or it's unfixable, I would leave her. Because I personally don't settle.
kpl Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 So, what should I say the reason is I'm dumping her? She will be shocked because we have so much fun together. She has everything I'm looking for in a girlfriend and potential wife. We have been on day trips together and have really built something special. We are supposed to be going to my cousin's wedding in NYC in two weeks. She is so pretty and nice. It just is always something with people I like. So, if I dump her will I regret it? Will I be superficial and shallow? Or is this a legit reason and most guys would dump her? I find it hard to believe that she seems like a future potential wife if this is what is causing you to walk away. Everyone is right you don't seem that into her. She probably is a catch which is making this hard for you but something about this situation is making you want to walk away from her and it is not her hair.....If she really meant something to you just talk to her and help her fix it, but you say you can't. most women would be embarrassed but if its your love who cares. It might not be that big of deal to someone else, let her go.
kilgore Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 Jesus, no, don't dump her! I haven't read through this whole thread, but are we really in a place culturally where one physical concern is enough for us to break up with people we genuinely like...?! I know we're all getting more and more shallow but come ON. No. Don't break up with her. Totally. ****, she can get waxed if it's such a big deal. Of course this is me as a hairy dude talkjng
Author Sports123 Posted October 6, 2015 Author Posted October 6, 2015 Jesus, no, don't dump her! I haven't read through this whole thread, but are we really in a place culturally where one physical concern is enough for us to break up with people we genuinely like...?! I know we're all getting more and more shallow but come ON. No. Don't break up with her. I understand what you're saying. I really like her, just the roughness is a issue. 1
h0000 Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 So, if I dump her will I regret it? Will I be superficial and shallow? Or is this a legit reason and most guys would dump her? How will we know if you will regret or not? And if Im telling you the reason is not legit and most guys won't dump her, are you gonna be able to feel real happy and real in love with her?
kilgore Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 I understand what you're saying. I really like her, just the roughness is a issue. Dude she doesn't need a guy waffling over her like this. If she is as great as you say, navy she could do better. Not to say you're a jerk. But she could find someone who isn't so ambivalent 4
Author Sports123 Posted October 6, 2015 Author Posted October 6, 2015 I'm very confused by OP. When people suggest you to dump her you keep saying "I'm crazy for her" then people suggest you to keep dating her you say "I'm not sure if it will be a big issue". If you were really crazy about her you would not for a second be turned off by her facial hair. You clearly have problems with this and you are tying so hard to overlook it by focusing on how good she is otherwise. Why? To feel better about yourself ? Or worried you won't be able to find another catch anytime soon (in other words, you are settling)? And ultimately it your choice if you want to settle or not. We don't know how you feel when kissing her! But if I have to put myself in your shoes, I would bring this topic up and hopefully help her find a way to fix this. If she is unwilling to, or it's unfixable, I would leave her. Because I personally don't settle. I don't know what to do and I go back and forth. Everything is great until I feel the roughness. I Don't feel like I'm settlin with her, she's amazing. You would dump her if she couldn't do anything but shave and put make up on? Like just say other stuff didn't work to fix it?
Author Sports123 Posted October 6, 2015 Author Posted October 6, 2015 I find it hard to believe that she seems like a future potential wife if this is what is causing you to walk away. Everyone is right you don't seem that into her. She probably is a catch which is making this hard for you but something about this situation is making you want to walk away from her and it is not her hair.....If she really meant something to you just talk to her and help her fix it, but you say you can't. most women would be embarrassed but if its your love who cares. It might not be that big of deal to someone else, let her go. I am into her, so you think I'm just over reacting?
kpl Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 I don't know what to do and I go back and forth. Everything is great until I feel the roughness. I Don't feel like I'm settlin with her, she's amazing. You would dump her if she couldn't do anything but shave and put make up on? Like just say other stuff didn't work to fix it? OMG! Deal with that when it happens. This chick deserves better. START with talking to her first.........if you seriously can't talk to her then move on
Author Sports123 Posted October 6, 2015 Author Posted October 6, 2015 How will we know if you will regret or not? And if Im telling you the reason is not legit and most guys won't dump her, are you gonna be able to feel real happy and real in love with her? You think I'm over reacting and its not a legit reason? I could see myself falling for her.
Author Sports123 Posted October 6, 2015 Author Posted October 6, 2015 Dude she doesn't need a guy waffling over her like this. If she is as great as you say, navy she could do better. Not to say you're a jerk. But she could find someone who isn't so ambivalent You think if I dump her, I will be shallow? You think there are guys out there that will be ok with it??
h0000 Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 I don't know what to do and I go back and forth. Everything is great until I feel the roughness. I Don't feel like I'm settlin with her, she's amazing. You would dump her if she couldn't do anything but shave and put make up on? Like just say other stuff didn't work to fix it? I have no idea how exactly her facial hair looks like. But if I am this turned off (yeah you sound very turned off) I don't think I would be able to just overlook it no matter how hard I look at other facts. No matter how hard I try not to be shallow, I won't be totally happy. So I won't kid myself. Have you ever seen her without makeup? If no, do so. Maybe it will greatly help you decide. And yes I would totally bring this up in a nice way. Give it my last go. She may not get upset (I would't. I'd be thrilled if someone can fix it!) Maybe it is not that hard to fix after all!
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