Nathan Jo Posted May 19, 2005 Posted May 19, 2005 Hey folks, I need a bit of advice please! My girlfriend of 6 months, who I love, is going out ina couple of night and there will be a guy there whi she has "history" with that she'd rather forget. I get worried when she goes, because I know that he wants to be with my girlfriend very much. (hey, who wouldn't.) He talks of her leaving me for him. She tells me he is harmless, and not a threat. But I still feel threatened. I have no reason to suspect her of cheating, and I do not. I just feel threatened, and I know i'll feel bad when she's away from me and he's near her. Please give me advice!
JanieQP Posted May 19, 2005 Posted May 19, 2005 I'm afraid you have no choice but to trust her ... and to treat her REALLY well so that he has no way in Hades of even coming near competing with you. I know this is hard, but it's really important not to take your fear out on her. It would make you look really weak in comparison to him!
Author Nathan Jo Posted May 19, 2005 Author Posted May 19, 2005 Hey, thanks for the reply. She tells me that I treat her better than she's ever known. And she's known enough to say this. I know that I shouldn't be worried, but I am! The guy in question sounds like a loser, he's clingy and whiny and desperate for her. But that doesn't help much. I still feel threatened. I really need someone to help me to not feel this way. Does anyone have any tips on how not to feel negative emotions like this, such as paranoia and fear? I am scared that she will realise that I feel threatened. If she realises this I feel I will look clingy and whiny also. I need to make sure she doesn't see how I feel about this guy, but I don't know how.
latida Posted May 20, 2005 Posted May 20, 2005 I agree. Trust her. I am the girl in this situation. I am going to a p-tay next week where my ex will be. They hate each other and my bf will not be able to go anyway. He is worried and just unhappy that I am going. It makes me feel like he doesn't trust me. I adore my bf and the ex was a complete jerk. I have no desire to trade down...duh. But for some reason my bf is insecure. It is cute though. I just kinda giggle at him. It is natural. It would be more mature if he was just like "have a good time, etc" but I might worry a bit if he was callus. I guess just try not to insult her love for you. Respect her and her ability not to run around on you just because of whatever the situation is. That is why you love her right, b/c you trust her too?
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