AmySoreia Posted October 4, 2015 Posted October 4, 2015 So I've been with this guy for about 7 months, I'm a 19 yr old female he's 21, throughout that time we've been on and off, not speaking for about a week due to petty arguments which was resolved afterwards. But during those break ups which were initiated by me, I made it clear I didn't want to be with him at that time, specifically telling him I was too busy and had more important things to focus on. He even said he was too busy as well, but them got rude and angry He just kept saying to forget about it and let's start over. The last time we broke up he just said " lol ok " and that was the last conversation until now, it's like he doesn't take what I say seriously, I always feel bad when he contacts me so I told him I'd think about it but he always tells me not to think about. I just give up and say ok because I feel like he's hurting. He then got a bit upset when I didn't say yes right away. I missed him a lot during the breakup (about a month) but I DID NOT make contact with him. I Now he's waiting on me to answer yes or no, I feel like there's no point in saying no because he will just text again in a week or two saying forget about last time. Btw I have told him that I don't want to be with him in person but he kept trying to say don't think so far ahead. I want to tell him that I still Want to be with him but I really don't know... it's ridiculous because I know I need to leave and ignore him but I can't bring myself to do it because I still want to be with him/I feel guilty he's just texted me asking to meet up this weekend to get something to eat and talk , I told him I want to but I don't think it's a good idea, he said he thought the same thing at first but now he thinks it is a good idea and that it would be a "fresh start" and get to know each other better. I told him I don't like how he is and the "on and offs" are ridiculous and all he could say was that " I (me) wouldn't end it, not this time" I feel so stuck between my heart and mind.
d0nnivain Posted October 4, 2015 Posted October 4, 2015 The break up make up cycle is one of the hallmarks of a dysfunctional relationship. Although when you break up over petty things & not talk for a week that is an indication of poor communications skills. A break up should be a last resort not your go-to position when your feelings get hurt. If you are serious about staying apart, say so. Put your foot down & stick to your guns. Then use technology to block him. You won't know if he contacts you so you can't crumble & give in.
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