st8toftheheart Posted May 19, 2005 Posted May 19, 2005 Does anyone even know what love is? If so how do you teach it? I can honestly say that after several failed relationships and 1 failed marriage I truly do not know what love is. Is it friendship and erotism? Is it being able to tolerate a person idiosincrocies? Is a hard question to answer. If you figure it out, please let me know.
latida Posted May 20, 2005 Posted May 20, 2005 Yeah, I don't know how you can teach someone to love if you yourself don't know. Once you learn then you can teach... to one who wants to learn. Love to me? Means so much. I can't express it. Love like there is no tomorrow. Love in spite of everything and everyone. If you can do this, you may actually go *poof* into the air Do some soul searching. Some spiritual realization. There are so many schools of thought that one will pique your interest and help to to find out what love means to you.
L_and_P21 Posted May 20, 2005 Posted May 20, 2005 as the great song reads "what is love? lady dont hurt me, dont hurt me no more" to answer that i would have to say it all depends on the person. to me its caring enough for someone that you would do anything for them. and you would still do anything regardless of what they have done. for example, there is a girl that i just dislike with a passion. but if i was in a store that was being robbed and she was held as a hostage, i would do anything to save her and have the robber take me instead. i would put myself infront of her to stop a bullet. push her out of the way of a speeding car, as tempting as it is to not. i dislike her she did to me but i love her as a person. the movie "pay it forward" is a good exaple of love. love for mankind. or you can do the opposite thing. what defines hate? list that and then find the opposite and that would be love.
superfabulous Posted May 21, 2005 Posted May 21, 2005 be cool. i would say actions speaks miles.... actions and words in sync are best. If you want love the way you give love, you best keep on moving until you find your match. We cant change others - and why waste your time & energy on those who dont want to or cannot comprehend the way you envision your life and love- its all about meeting the RIGHT one - you will meet many WRONG ones and if you hope on the wrong ones, you may pass up the RIGHT one... so basically thats how i see things
latida Posted May 23, 2005 Posted May 23, 2005 Originally posted by superfabulous We cant change others - and why waste your time & energy on those who dont want to or cannot comprehend the way you envision your life and love- I think it may depend on what exactly the poster is wanting. To try and get someone to love them the way they want to be loved? Or to love and teach others how to love? To show love unconditionally? To explain love to a child? Not all of these pursuits are a waste of time and energy. Some one could easily devote their life to. It is not a waste to show someone how to love. I agree though that it is a waste to think that one can make a person do whatever you think is best (unless you know the way of a Jedi...?) It's the old "lead a horse to water" truism. You can show/teach, all day long. Doesn't mean they are buying/learning.
Swamp Posted June 1, 2005 Posted June 1, 2005 Love is experience. Too many people think since someone loves them, however, that they aren't obligated to show their own restraint. You have to carry your own weight. Not for somebody else, but for yourself.
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 1, 2005 Posted June 1, 2005 The first thing is to find out if the person is truly a commitment-phobe, or is only one in the context of your relationship. One person's commitment-phobe can turn out to be another person's monogamous partner for life.
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