kpl Posted October 5, 2015 Posted October 5, 2015 So he liked the moment I posted on tinder but didn't text me back. Men, no wonder why I hate them. Ugh Side note....I always wonder why people post moments on Tinder. When I was on I would un match ppl that did this because I assumed they wanted everyone on their match list to start messaging them and figured they were in the market of trying to meet as women as possible and I lost interest. What is this about? ...sorry for the random questions and hijacking the thread just curious.
joseb Posted October 5, 2015 Posted October 5, 2015 So he liked the moment I posted on tinder but didn't text me back. Men, no wonder why I hate them. Ugh Maybe he had something planned for then and is trying to reschedule (yeah maybe it was a date even). I've invited girls out before that take a day to reply. I don;t read too much into it. Yeah ideally it's nicer if they reply straight away. But their friends are probably telling them to play it cool
Author jam.over.jelly Posted October 5, 2015 Author Posted October 5, 2015 Wouldn't be playing it cool anymore if he got my text 4 hours ago and hasn't replied but instead was on his phone liking my tinder moment. This is just confusing to me. Plus I didn't ask him out in the text yet, I just simply asked how his day was going. But this is pretty clear to me he is not interested. I'm moving on.
joseb Posted October 5, 2015 Posted October 5, 2015 Side note....I always wonder why people post moments on Tinder. When I was on I would un match ppl that did this because I assumed they wanted everyone on their match list to start messaging them and figured they were in the market of trying to meet as women as possible and I lost interest. What is this about? ...sorry for the random questions and hijacking the thread just curious. i think it's just typical gen Y attention seeking behaviour. I don't do it, but it doesn't bother me. Though I have noticed that the ones that do do seem more flaky. So you might have a point.
joseb Posted October 5, 2015 Posted October 5, 2015 Wouldn't be playing it cool anymore if he got my text 4 hours ago and hasn't replied but instead was on his phone liking my tinder moment. This is just confusing to me. Plus I didn't ask him out in the text yet, I just simply asked how his day was going. But this is pretty clear to me he is not interested. I'm moving on. Maybe it's just me, but i HATE getting texts like that. They are just really boring. How do you answer? Fine, how are you? Yawn. If I were you I would have gone straight into speaking about the date you have and said you were going to set up.
Author jam.over.jelly Posted October 5, 2015 Author Posted October 5, 2015 Well, true but usually that's a way to start a texting convo. Then I start throwing in jokes here and there, but he didn't even give me that chance. Haha. Oh well, he's a lost cause now.
menyou Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 Why make this more difficult than it needs to be? Are YOU interested? Then contact the guy. Sheesh
thecrucible Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 Why make this more difficult than it needs to be? Are YOU interested? Then contact the guy. Sheesh She already has but he hasn't got back to her. Gee I hate the texting game. I really identify with the OP.
Author jam.over.jelly Posted October 6, 2015 Author Posted October 6, 2015 I did. U must have not read the update
Author jam.over.jelly Posted October 6, 2015 Author Posted October 6, 2015 She already has but he hasn't got back to her. Gee I hate the texting game. I really identify with the OP. At this point, I believe he won't. Lol
joseb Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 Well, true but usually that's a way to start a texting convo. Then I start throwing in jokes here and there, but he didn't even give me that chance. Haha. Oh well, he's a lost cause now. Well, it was one date, so no biggie, right? And he might contact you. OK, so your text was a bit drab, but at least you texted, he should know you are interested. Leave it for now. If he does reply maybe ask him out if you like. But don't wait or invest in this any more for now. 2
menyou Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 My bad... Skipped page 2 seeing that you did contact him. But I will add that the how's it going blah blah texts are always show boredom so they rarely require an immediate response. It's like talking about the weather. Get a plan and send it his way or call him.
Author jam.over.jelly Posted October 6, 2015 Author Posted October 6, 2015 I'm not too concerned about not having a second date with this particular guy. What makes me think is that why suggest hanging out again if you don't actually mean it? I mean if he didn't wanna see me again, he could have just said thanks for coming out and such.
Jejangles Posted October 6, 2015 Posted October 6, 2015 I'm not too concerned about not having a second date with this particular guy. What makes me think is that why suggest hanging out again if you don't actually mean it? I mean if he didn't wanna see me again, he could have just said thanks for coming out and such. I've had that happen a fair amount. A guy seems to have a good time, suggests a future date while we're on the first date then we never speak again... I'm guessing they had a good time during the date but then later realised they weren't that into me. I usually wasn't that into them either, so I just leave it, but if I were interested, I would do the same as you and reach out once just to be sure they weren't uncertain about my interest. Now you know. Nothing said on the date really matters until words are turned into actions of setting up that second date! 1
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