SSM3 Posted October 4, 2015 Posted October 4, 2015 I've been seeing this young lady for 4 or 5 weeks now and I know she likes me but she very rarely compliments me. She never says I'm handsome or things like that. Every 2 - 3 days I normally send a compliment her way. Is it part of the dating game or do some women just prefer not to show too much interest at the start?? It's keeping me guessing though!!
Author SSM3 Posted October 4, 2015 Author Posted October 4, 2015 What would you like her to say to you? Nothing in particular....just curious why some women don't compliment men. Are they protecting themselves??
JasmineJones Posted October 4, 2015 Posted October 4, 2015 Is it the norm to shower somebody you've just been on a few dates with with compliments?
Gaeta Posted October 4, 2015 Posted October 4, 2015 You said it, she is young, probably inexperienced. Is there an age gap here?
Author SSM3 Posted October 4, 2015 Author Posted October 4, 2015 You said it, she is young, probably inexperienced. Is there an age gap here? Huge age gap, 3 years! lol
Ami1uwant Posted October 4, 2015 Posted October 4, 2015 Some just don't give complements......what about her other behavior when with you?
JasmineJones Posted October 4, 2015 Posted October 4, 2015 I would feel a bit of a dork suddenly saying "you look really handsome" even if that is what I was thinking. Or do you mean something a lot more graphic like "you look like you've got a huge peen"?
Author SSM3 Posted October 4, 2015 Author Posted October 4, 2015 Some just don't give complements......what about her other behavior when with you? That's all good I think it might be her nature I think.
JasmineJones Posted October 4, 2015 Posted October 4, 2015 OP, what sort of compliments do you give her?
MissBee Posted October 4, 2015 Posted October 4, 2015 I've been seeing this young lady for 4 or 5 weeks now and I know she likes me but she very rarely compliments me. She never says I'm handsome or things like that. Every 2 - 3 days I normally send a compliment her way. Is it part of the dating game or do some women just prefer not to show too much interest at the start?? It's keeping me guessing though!! This isn't about women. This is about the specific woman you're dating. I can't say why she doesn't. Some people just don't think that way. You can bring it up to her and express that you like compliments though, as this may not be natural to her. As for me: I compliment all the time. This is my general personality though. I compliment men, women, friends, family, strangers. That's my nature. It comes easily for me. If I like something you're doing, wearing, saying, etc...I'll compliment you. My mom even says that it's only when I come home that she gets compliments on the meals she makes, as it's just natural for me to say "Wow, this is delicious!" In dating I definitely compliment esp if I like a man. But not everyone does this naturally. It seems one of your love languages is "words of affirmation." It's great when we can be with people who naturally express love/care in the way we appreciate, but sometimes they don't always do that and simply requesting it or saying how much it means to us is all it takes. 1
RecentChange Posted October 4, 2015 Posted October 4, 2015 I admit, I am bad about complimenting people in general - its something I should work on - maybe she is the same way.. When I am interested in someone - I think it takes me a while to start complimenting.... Unconsciously perhaps it's part of the "game" - as the woman, I don't know - I don't like to "chase" - I only reciprocate once they show a strong interest in me (which usually means some compliments my way). I think generally women do not want to appear more interested than he is. I have to get comfortable, let my wall down a little - I will start complimenting- "you smell wonderful" "I really like the 5 o'clock beard - looks good on you" stuff like that. 1
Author SSM3 Posted October 4, 2015 Author Posted October 4, 2015 OP, what sort of compliments do you give her? Her looks mainly I guess and I use words like 'gorgeous' which she is Thinking about it, she has actually complimented me but this was weeks ago lol..... You women are difficult to read
acrosstheuniverse Posted October 4, 2015 Posted October 4, 2015 Weird question.. just because this woman hasn't complimented you doesn't mean 'women don't compliment men'. Depends on the individual. I'm a woman and I compliment men all the time. My friends compliment their partners.
Woggle Posted October 4, 2015 Posted October 4, 2015 You aren't married to my wife. She always shows her appreciation and I return the favor.
Author SSM3 Posted October 4, 2015 Author Posted October 4, 2015 Weird question.. just because this woman hasn't complimented you doesn't mean 'women don't compliment men'. Depends on the individual. I'm a woman and I compliment men all the time. My friends compliment their partners. Should have wrote 'some women'.
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