LoveLady Posted October 4, 2015 Posted October 4, 2015 Sorry I didn't realize my other post was all over the place & repeating itself - I don't know how it got like that. Anyway... I have been dating a guy for 3 months. He's 32 and has been a breathe of fresh air from the Peter Pan's (the guys who continue to act like frat boys even though they're in their mid 30s) I have recently dated. So this guy has been doing everything right, treats me so sweet, wants to hang out all the time, takes me to even lunches that cost about $100 even though I'm low maintenance and when I offer to pay (and mean it) he won't let me. When I would stay the weekend with him and go to leave on Sunday he would still want me to stay, even offering to buy me new clothes for work the next day. And when I stayed we didn't even have sex so it wasn't for that. He carries my bags/purse for me in public even though i never ask and tell him its ok (bc people are staring at him haha) but he's just the best guy. I like him a lot. So a few weeks ago he started having work problems to the point where he said he's afraid he might lose his job. He's one of 2 manager's and their was a communication issue that ended up blowing up pretty big (that's all the detail he would tell me) so he basically went into hiding with little communication for 2 weeks. When I would text him he would text back within 30 seconds just saying he's in a bad mood bc of work. So I let him alone for a week. After that week I asked him if he wanted a permanent break from me but he didn't answer. He said he's not ignoring my question..but didn't answer it. He's pretty honest with me so I just figured he was thinking about the answer. The answer then came and said it has nothing to do with me that when he gets stressed he hides in his room and shuts out the outside world until the problem is solved. My guy friends/coworkers said that sounds about right so I didn't panic lol He planned a trip home 3,000 miles away (we are both far from our friends and fam) to get away some & de-stress. So a week after I ask the question he says "Honestly, I'm not sure what I want. You're a sweetheart and have been nothing but good to me. I'm just so miserable right now and I don't want to drag you down with me. And no def not looking to meet anyone else. I'm just going to go home to get away from everything for awhile." I then say "I mean...usually if you don't know, its a no. You were all about me in the beginning and maybe you just realized you don't like me enough to keep going and if so, its fine. That's the point of dating. U have seemed closed off lately and I'm not sure if it is bc of work or bc you don't like me (I laughed) but it's all good." He said " You're and Amazing girl. I am closed off. This is just how I am. My last gf said I'm like a robot with no feelings. I don't understand myself." I said "Well..I didn't feel like you were a robot in the beginning so there is hope for you." He then said "I think I have to make changes & make myself happy before I can even be happy with someone else" I was thinking that that was the end. "Yea, I agree. Well I hope you have a nice time at home and I'll miss u & the fun times we had...but yea, I want & deserve someone who is emotionally ready. But I went through what you did last year with work and it will get better for you!!" He says "I had a lot of fun with you too. And thank you. I think time away with my friends and fam will help me a lot." I say "Well I hope you find your happy!!' And that was that. Do I give up hope? I do not plan on contacting him again. I thought it was over but a guy friend said it sounds like he just needs a little bit of space and he will be back and that he thought the guy may have thought that is what he was communicating. What do you think?m who is emotionally ready. But I went through what you did last year with work and it will get better for you!!" He says "I had a lot of dun with you too. And thank you. I think time away with my friends and fam will help me a lot." I say "Well I hope you find your happy!!' And that was that. Do I give up hope? I do not plan on contacting him again. I thought it was over but a guy friend said it sounds like he just needs a little bit of space and he will be back and that he thought the guy may have thought that is what he was communicating. What do you think?
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