Whey Posted October 4, 2015 Posted October 4, 2015 (edited) okay, so what happened was that we had our fights, up and down times... We often argue about things that was stupid and we threaten each other many times. I has sent her home 2 times when she was at me, something i regret and i was stupid. Cause I feel when we are at my house, its just boring. Not much to do so I was bored. I should never sent her home! but when we where at her house it was so much more to do, was so fun and i really liked to stay there. I could move there but I had school.. Summer holiday got, she had told med that she was going to work almost all summer, so I did make other plans for my self. She got mad because I could just ask here and she would take some time off work so she could join me. We had also a trip upcoming to Greece with a lot of friends of her. I didn't know them that much but i was really uncertain if I would go or not. Suddenly in the summer holiday she called me and told that she is going to break up and I shouldn't join to Greece cause its all of her friends and not mine. I had no idea that this was coming, had never seen it coming either. So I got really sad. I went to her because I wanted an explanation what happened and if she would broke up I wanted to see it face to face. But when i got to her city, we met, talked and slept together. She started to be happy again, cause we hadn't seen each other in the holiday since 2 and half week. So she reconsidered the trip to Greece with me. We later talked and she was happy that i came, but when the trip got closer she told me that i could join her if i wanted to. I was very uncertain to what i really want. Cause I had a lot of minds going on at that time. So i told her i need to think now, so days went. I asked her one week before the trip that if she would like me to come, but she was going with her mother to her cabin. Days went and 2 days before the trip we had our fight, or arguments. I didn't like that at all, i got sad and hurt. but we found out i was going to come, but she told me that i needed to take the bus home to her self and she wouldn't meet me in the city, and suddenly she says she can meet me in the city. She was saying so much strange things cause she was hurt and mad. So i didn't come to here that friday, 2 days before the trip. Next day, Saturday i spoke to here and said i want to come now, i dont want to fight or argue any more. I want to be happy and enjoy everything. Time went and I found out I'm going to take this flight, i had bad time so i was stressed. I told her that the bus I'm going to take to the airport is going in 10min and i was just going on my way now. I told her if i dont make it i can't come, and then i said right after that I'm making it, my father drives me to the airport and then se starts getting mad cause i was saying all these stuff. She told me that i shouldn't have said it, that i have should waited to say it. She was so mad and rude at that time that i was so hurt. I didn't know what to do know if i should just cancel the flight to her or just go. I didn't go something i really regret today so we spoked on the phone that Saturday night and we had a good conversation. very very good conversation!! She told me we can't do anything before her got home from the trip. So she went without me, she was sleeping with her girlfriend, they where friends. When she was on the trip things happened. she kisses another guy down there, we were not together, she was partying a lot down there and i was sitting home here and crying we didn't speak much when she was down there, cause she most of the time ignored me. but she called me one day that she had been on the hospital and she said sorry that she didn't had answer me a lot. I was regretting so much, cause none of these thing would happened if I was there! I sent a snap that i had take a haircut and asked what she think about it, and se said it was nice! The friend that she was sleeping with they had a good conversation about our relationship and whats happen. Time went and the day she got home, i stood on the airport, nice dressed and with roses trying to win her back. She was coming, she didn't accept the roses when i was in her car with her mother. But when her girlfriend, her friend that she was sleeping with down there go pass she says " you know what you want " so it seems like she dont want to do it, but that was the best of her self to do it. I feel like her friend had manipulated her. We did go to a restaurant with her mother, i dont like that her mother is a part of this but i didn't care that much cause all i wanted was my ex back. we did speak and the best for her was that it was over, she told me she needed to focus on school and soon military. cause when we had our argue and she was on school it affected her day, when we were together. She also told me that she still loves me and care for me but its was over. She also said that it will take a long time for her to get over me, like a half year. That was something she said for a while back. I said i wanted to stay friend but she told me that we didn't have any mutual friends. After conversation i left, so that day i had to go to a hotel, check in and went home next day. I did write a long text to her that i respect here decision but i told her just think twice. We had long distance relationship so we saw each other only in weekends and holidays. When we were together we didn't argue, when one of us had to go home we started to argue. I didn't like it and so she did. We were together for about 1 year and 6 months. One week later, the next weekend me and a friend was going to a trip to the same city. I traveled Friday and he did come Saturday. Her city isn't a really big city so it was a big chance to hit on her in the city. She work in there. I didn't had much to do cause i was alone, i went to the centrum cause the hotel was in the city. Walked around, and suddenly she is coming walking towards me, i turn around and walk and get to a corner. Cause she didn't know i was in the city. Then i waited a little bit and i walk another way, and the other way i walk she is in a store and she is now talking on her phone and starring at me while I'm walking pass her. The city isn't big, so have walked her job a couple times. Later that friday, it was her birthday i hadn't say happy birthday to her either. I had bought some alcohol. I was at the hotel, in the room. I filmed on snap story to my friends like "this is good" and she had seen it, i was a bit drunk, contacted her. She ignored me, and she had her friends on visit that night because of her birthday. The next day everthing got ****, that Saturday. that are 3 weeks since now, actual today. Her mother had contacted my mother and father. they where worried about me that i was alone, i was drunk and i kept contacted her that friday night. I was so mad, why does she always need to have her mother involved. Its alway her mother she goes to when something has happened. The next day i told that I'm sorry, i respect your decision and i just want to take a coffee with you as friend, no date. Thats when she blocked me on Facebook, IG and Snap, her mother told her to do it she said it to me. They did come to my hotel room, her mother was mad at me and didn't like that i was in the city. I told my friend will come later and I'm just waiting for him know. We had our discussion at that time and she told me that i follow her, that i stalk her when I'm in the city. I was thinking like, wtf?? the city isn't that big and its a really big chance to meet her. Its not my fault that I'm near her job or something like that. She also told that if i continue to follow her etc i would be reported to the police cause it needed to stop. she told me that i can't come back one week later and check in a hotel etc. so we did discuss a little bitt more and they left. I know just waited for my friend to arrive, and we was going out that night. So its 3 weeks since all of this last happened. I really like that place where she lives, really nice city with a lot of party places to go out so i will go back there some time later. I had never actually thought she was that kind of person that could do that to me, after so long and she was so happy with me. a lot of memories together. Its sad that it happened so suddenly Today I'm trying to move on, its really hard but its getting a little bit better for everyday that goes, still miss her very much and i would like to get back to her but its seems like it won't happen. I have not given up the hope but I'm still going to do the no contact and continue with that to a certain time has gone. but back to that she had blocked me on social media. I have a another account on Facebook that I'm friend with her on. I have seen that she had deleted a pictures of us where we kissed. But she still have 4 other pictures of me, two of me and the one where i kiss her on the chin and the other where i hold my arms around her and kiss her on the head. On instagram i had deleted all of my comments on her pictures, i regret that today but done is done but she still have some of hers that are to me. She has deleted some comments, but still have many others. I dont know why, all of this is mind****ing me atm. Cause I'm thinking, after this and she has threaten to report me to the police, why the hell does she still have pictures of me and us to + the Instagram comments?? we are both young, I'm 20 and she is 18. I know I'm young and there is plenty of fish out there, i know that but like, i really loved her and i regret really today that i didn't join that trip to Greece. So this is the story, what do you think about all this? NC since all this for around 56 days Edited October 4, 2015 by Whey
drseuss Posted October 5, 2015 Posted October 5, 2015 Try and type in paragrahps instead of one big block of writing , its a mission to read it. There is a lot of petty arguing and nonsense that just isnt worth it , all this over a simple holiday .... she is only 18 and is clearly not ready for a rs and isnt that into you if she can kiss another person on a hioliday , let her go and have fun shes immature and you can do better , shes alomst a child and needs to see a bit more of the world and be with other guys
GrandRail Posted October 7, 2015 Posted October 7, 2015 To be honest, there seems to be a lot of bickering and back and forth fights over unimportant things which end up turning into huge issues as a result. You both get too emotional and worked up over events, fail to effectively communicate your worries and options to fix these worries with each other, and end up making many bad choices as a result. At best, you two are simply not right to be in a relationship with each other at this point in time because you both need to grow. At worse, you two just aren't right for each other period. Either way, this isn't worth pursuing. You're both too turbulent when together to stick this out without ending up in more drama.
Author Whey Posted October 12, 2015 Author Posted October 12, 2015 I understand. Been no contact for over 2 months now.
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