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Embarrassment/self-consciousness about kissing


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This may be odd since no one else seems to have a problem with kissing someone they know is interested in them, but I have zero kissing experience and don't know what to do with myself when presented with the opportunity. There were a few times, in recent months, when I had a "moment" with a guy and could tell he wanted to kiss me, but instead of maintaining eye contact to encourage him I looked down or away until the moment passed, so we could resume our conversation.

 

I'm not afraid of being a bad kisser (although I probably should be), and I have fantasized kissing someone I really liked. But in the few seconds between the eye contact and the kiss, I felt awkward, like it didn't seem like it was something that should be happening to me. I also felt embarrassed and I'm not sure why, since it was always just me and the guy and both of us knew the interest was mutual. I guess I don't know why the embarrassment was there if the fear of rejection wasn't.

 

Anyone have advice on overcoming this?

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This may be odd since no one else seems to have a problem with kissing someone they know is interested in them, but I have zero kissing experience and don't know what to do with myself when presented with the opportunity. There were a few times, in recent months, when I had a "moment" with a guy and could tell he wanted to kiss me, but instead of maintaining eye contact to encourage him I looked down or away until the moment passed, so we could resume our conversation.

 

I'm not afraid of being a bad kisser (although I probably should be), and I have fantasized kissing someone I really liked. But in the few seconds between the eye contact and the kiss, I felt awkward, like it didn't seem like it was something that should be happening to me. I also felt embarrassed and I'm not sure why, since it was always just me and the guy and both of us knew the interest was mutual. I guess I don't know why the embarrassment was there if the fear of rejection wasn't.

 

Anyone have advice on overcoming this?

 

Well unless you've been sucking on garlic all day GO FOR IT....you sure won't find out or get good at it by talking/thinking about it....

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Anyone have advice on overcoming this?

 

You were embarrassed because you felt vulnerable in the moment. It's possible you were afraid of being judged afterward. Overcoming it is an individual journey. But you have to choose to overcome it. Which means taking a leap and kissing the guy. Maybe you could wait for another ideal moment and just go in for the kiss, or you could do something bold, opportunistic really, grab his face, and kiss him out of the blue.

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You're going through something I think most people have to learn to overcome. I actually broke up with my high school BF because I was too scared to kiss him.

 

Not saying this is the best way but I overcame my anxiety with a boy who let me practice one day and then we never spoke about it again until a high school friend brought it up during my wedding shower. :laugh:

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