SpiritDancer Posted October 3, 2015 Posted October 3, 2015 Hello, I'm writing this because I need opinions of people that aren't my family/friends. Basically I was in a relationship for around 8 years, from the age of 14 to around 22. It ended because my life got busier and he'd moved away a few years and it was getting harder and harder to keep it going and we split. That was a while ago and I haven't been in a relationship since ( i was focusing on my studies) Once I graduated last year I decided to dip my toe back into the dating scene and I dated a few guys. The last one I dated was in July it didn't last long. Now I've been at a new job for over a year and I guess you can say I've been flirting with my boss, nothing serious just something to pass the time of day, it's pretty boring job. He's been flirting right back so it hasn't been on sided. I'm not interested in my boss, it's harmless flirting because he's not really my type. Now there's this guy from a previous job who has been asking me out for 10 months. I ignore him, he goes away for a few months but comes back and is pretty persistent. Now, this guy is about 50% my type the problem I have with him is he's 20 and he's a typical 20 year old and I'm 6 years older than him. I assumed he only wanted sex and I called him out on it and he said 'Who said anything about only wanting sex? Just meet me and that'll be the start' I still think he just wants sex, the last time I spoke to him sex was all he wanted, I'm not the type to just sleep with anyone. Now, that's all well and good. I'm contemplating the 20 year old but not seriously because... He's 20. I've never been with someone younger than me. They've always been one or two years older or the same age. My main problem and the thing that's confusing me is the guy from July, I still can't stop thinking about him. I really liked him and he was exactly my type. He ended it because he wasn't over his ex girlfriend, they'd split up about 8 weeks before we started dating. I honestly can't stop thinking about this guy. It was short and I'm not usually the type to develop feelings, I'm usually quite a closed off person but there was something about this guy that broke through my walls quickly and I didn't really realize it until it was over and I couldn't stop thinking about him. Now I'm thinking do I go with the 20 year old to get over this other guy? Or do I just wait till I'm completely over the other guy and then move on? My family and friends aren't help. Friends say 'date the 20 year old' My family say 'date the 20 year old' and my mother says 'date the 20 year old, he could you be your destiny he hasn't given up' I think she was rids of me and is happy to hand me off to anyone.
Frank2thepoint Posted October 4, 2015 Posted October 4, 2015 Guy from July doesn't want to be with you because he is still isn't over his ex. Leave him be to heal and work out whatever he needs to work out. He has a right to that. 20 year old probably wants sex. You know this. He's young and he wants to have some fun. Not sure what you are looking for right now, but if you are just looking to date, then just have fun with the 20 year old. You don't have to have sex with him, or you could if he entertained you enough with his personality. Your call. Or you could just find someone else completely. Again your call. You have control over life and decisions. Exercise it.
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