katiegrl Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 (edited) How do I know I did the right thing? All my friends are busy and I know that she would have come over if we were together and I felt lonely, or needed to talk. You need to compare how felt being WITH her versus how you feel WITHOUT her. You feel shytty now cuz it's over, which is normal. That will pass. But how did you feel while you were dating her? Did you feel happy, and at peace? Did she enhance your life? Support you emotionally? According to what I read, you felt pretty horrible while dating her. In fact, she made your life a living hell. Which is why you ended it! But comparing those two things will help you determine if you did the right thing. Edited October 11, 2015 by katiegrl 1
Author PureAppleJuice Posted October 11, 2015 Author Posted October 11, 2015 You need to compare how felt being WITH her versus how you feel WITHOUT her. You feel shytty now cuz it's over, which is normal. That will pass. But how did you feel while you were dating her? Did you feel happy, and at peace? Did she enhance your life? Support you emotionally? According to what I read, you felt pretty horrible while dating her. But comparing those two things will help you determine if you did the right thing. No, no and no. The only thing I feel now is sadness - I miss her. But no, I couldn't have carried on like that. Even last night - she offered to come over. I said I was tired - not in a rude way, just like "Oh, I'm a bit tired to be honest, what about tomorrow?" She refused. Told me she was busy every single day next week (which I don't believe) and then blew up at me, accusing me of not putting any effort in, etc etc. I just kept telling her "It's not my fault I'm tired, I can't help it". I guess even that's pretty irrational.
katiegrl Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 No, no and no. The only thing I feel now is sadness - I miss her. But no, I couldn't have carried on like that. Even last night - she offered to come over. I said I was tired - not in a rude way, just like "Oh, I'm a bit tired to be honest, what about tomorrow?" She refused. Told me she was busy every single day next week (which I don't believe) and then blew up at me, accusing me of not putting any effort in, etc etc. I just kept telling her "It's not my fault I'm tired, I can't help it". I guess even that's pretty irrational. She offered to come over? I thought you broke up with her? With your schedule, you don't need to justify why you're tired, sheesh! I'm exhausted just hearing how selfish, needy and demanding she is! I can't imagine actually being with someone like that. She will drain the life out of you, IMO you did the right thing by ending it. Yes you will feel sad and lonely at times. All normal feelings after a break up. All that will end though, and then you will feel emotionally free to meet a woman who DOES make you happy, who enhances your life and supports you and your studies. Go ahead and block her if she won't let you alone. You need to be done with her crap. Good luck moving forward .... 1
TaraMaiden2 Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 No, no and no. The only thing I feel now is sadness - I miss her. But no, I couldn't have carried on like that. Even last night - she offered to come over. I said I was tired - not in a rude way, just like "Oh, I'm a bit tired to be honest, what about tomorrow?" She refused. Told me she was busy every single day next week (which I don't believe) and then blew up at me, accusing me of not putting any effort in, etc etc. I just kept telling her "It's not my fault I'm tired, I can't help it". I guess even that's pretty irrational. But now, you've blocked/deleted her, right...? I certainly hope so, because otherwise she will just carry on poking at you and driving you to senseless exhaustion. Please, I know it's hard for you to think straight right now, but DO block every possible way she has of connecting with you. The sooner you do it, the quicker you can move yourself on..... 2
Author PureAppleJuice Posted October 11, 2015 Author Posted October 11, 2015 She offered to come over? I thought you broke up with her? With your schedule, you don't need to justify why you're tired, sheesh! I'm exhausted just hearing how selfish, needy and demanding she is! I can't imagine actually being with someone like that. She will drain the life out of you, IMO you did the right thing by ending it. Yes you will feel sad and lonely at times. All normal feelings after a break up. All that will end though, and then you will feel emotionally free to meet a woman who DOES make you happy, who enhances your life and supports you and your studies. Go ahead and block her if she won't let you alone. You need to be done with her crap. Good luck moving forward .... She offered to come over - I don't know why. Thank you for your kind words. I do feel like p00 right now but I know it was for the best. I'm considering using a counsellor at school, maybe that will help.
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