Wife left me, still married, no way to contact her?

[Craftydre]

My wife one day decided to break up with me, changed her number, address, email and blocked me in anyway I can reach her and we are still married. We both live in the same city and she also got another boyfriend two weeks after she broke things off. I'm not sure what I can do here. And whether what she did is legal. She also filed a restraining order against me which was granted due to her telling me she was not going to go to court and drop it and told me not to come and she did and lied to me and it was automatically granted for 2 years. I am really confused on whether she is allowed to just break up with me and see other men considering we are still legally married and disappear off the map as if I never existed. And also not sure how to apply for divorce if I don't know where to serve her with papers. Can someone tell me what I can do?

[TaraMaiden2]

Get an appointment with a lawyer.

Many offer the first half-hour for free.

 

Get legal advice.

[TaraMaiden2]

Hang on...

 

Your posting history and previous threads talk about your GF/ex-GF.

Now suddenly, you have a 'wife'...?

 

Care to clarify?

[Craftydre]

Hang on...

 

Your posting history and previous threads talk about your GF/ex-GF.

Now suddenly, you have a 'wife'...?

 

Care to clarify?[/QUOte]

Don't worry about it. It's non of your business

[TaraMaiden2]

Don't worry about it. It's non of your business

 

Well, actually, you posting about it makes it my - and public - business, doesn't it?

 

If you're married, and you've had GFs and you want a divorce, isn't the best way to get the best advice, to be clear about the situation?

[Craftydre]

Well, actually, you posting about it makes it my - and public - business, doesn't it?

 

If you're married, and you've had GFs and you want a divorce, isn't the best way to get the best advice, to be clear about the situation?

 

 

This topic is something else. So this topic is your business. So answer the question to this topic, it's pretty clear cut. Other threads however have nothing to do with this one. So do you have a solution to this topics question, not bringing anything else in it?

[TaraMaiden2]

It depends on a lot of things.

When did this all happen?

I mean, if the marriage was a long time ago, and this happened historically, it's possible you could now file for divorce due to having lived apart for XX years.

 

If she hasn't been on the scene for a long time, getting a divorce may be simpler than you think.

 

If this is recent, then the term adultery springs to mind.

You could still file.

She must be on an electoral register somewhere...

 

This is why it would be helpful to have a clearer picture and more info.

I wasn't just being nosey.

I was actually trying to determine the exact circumstances in order to supply more pertinent information.

 

Jeesh... it's like pulling teeth here.....

[Craftydre]

It depends on a lot of things.

When did this all happen?

I mean, if the marriage was a long time ago, and this happened historically, it's possible you could now file for divorce due to having lived apart for XX years.

 

If she hasn't been on the scene for a long time, getting a divorce may be simpler than you think.

 

If this is recent, then the term adultery springs to mind.

You could still file.

She must be on an electoral register somewhere...

 

This is why it would be helpful to have a clearer picture and more info.

I wasn't just being nosey.

I was actually trying to determine the exact circumstances in order to supply more pertinent information.

 

Jeesh... it's like pulling teeth here.....

 

Okay I apologize. I felt attacked. And my threads are different for personal reasons. To answer your question, yes it's recent. I've did some research, and it seems couples who are seperated but still married are allowed to see other people but I'm not entirely sure about it. She has refused any communI cation with me, and has a lot of power over me because of the restraining order. I feel like I was basically shoved out of the marriage when I wasn't ready to be, and immediately shut out from her life just like that all contacy blocked, yet we are still married. We have NO children together, and we do not live together, yet I still find this odd, and I feel like she isn't allowed to do this

 

Sheordered a restraining order because after she "broke up with me" nd blocked me from all contacy immediately I felt weird and went to hers to talk about it, and she said I harassed her by showing up unannounced when she literarly broke up with me a week before I went over, and a week of me trying to get a hold of her with no luck.

[TaraMaiden2]

Even if you're separated, if she is having a relationship with another guy, it's still adultery, because you're still married.

You really should find someone legal to discuss this with, because I am pretty certain you have rights. She can't have it all her own way. But you need to be informed.

And I know it stings emotionally, but you have to try to put your emotions aside, and deal with this logically.

She's been cold and calculating.

She's pulled a few fast tricks on you.

 

Look at this as a business arrangement gone wrong.

Get good advice, legally, and put a strategy into action.

[TaraMaiden2]

I would also advise you be open with your legal advisor and admit to extra-marital relationships yourself.

Unless you are 100% honest with him/her, it will come as a bit of a blind-sider if you manage to sue your 'wife' for adultery, only for her to counter-sue you for the same thing.

 

The best thing to do is to divorce her for unreasonable behaviour.

And I would venture to suggest that what she has done up to now is far from reasonable.

[road]

This topic is something else. So this topic is your business. So answer the question to this topic, it's pretty clear cut. Other threads however have nothing to do with this one. So do you have a solution to this topics question, not bringing anything else in it?

 

 

Where is the Unlike button?

[Christos]

This topic is something else. So this topic is your business. So answer the question to this topic, it's pretty clear cut. Other threads however have nothing to do with this one. So do you have a solution to this topics question, not bringing anything else in it?

 

First, you are really rude.

 

Second, this is a public forum, not a free counseling service. We are not obligated to answer any of your questions. We don't owe you.

 

We are here to discuss things, and offer friendly advice. We have every right to ask questions, and even criticize you. If you don't like it, pay a professional coach or lawyer and have it your way.

 

You already seem to have a really bad personality...

[William]

Fascinating.

 

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Since at least one person involved in this is a former moderator, well, guidelines, and our other specific published policies should be like breathing. Perhaps that delineates former from current, I don't know.

 

In any event, this is going nowhere, Robert has handled a report on the thread and all the off-topic posters skated by because, well, I respect how Robert handled it. It's your lucky day. Thread closed.