loverage21 Posted October 3, 2015 Posted October 3, 2015 Have you had any other subsequent breakups that were harder? Did you have a closer emotional connection to other guys than your first?
TaraMaiden2 Posted October 3, 2015 Posted October 3, 2015 Have you had any other subsequent breakups that were harder? Yes. Did you have a closer emotional connection to other guys than your first? You betcha.... 1
Author loverage21 Posted October 3, 2015 Author Posted October 3, 2015 Yes. You betcha.... Which one?
TaraMaiden2 Posted October 3, 2015 Posted October 3, 2015 Which one? It doesn't matter. The first one was trivial by comparison. I have had 6, long-term relationships in my life and I'm now over 50. Each break-up had its own trauma, but while the first may have felt the worst AT THE TIME- it was peanuts compared to subsequent experiences. Why? Because the first was the heart's desire to love being in love. Subsequent times - I should have seen it coming.
Ami1uwant Posted October 3, 2015 Posted October 3, 2015 Have you had any other subsequent breakups that were harder? Did you have a closer emotional connection to other guys than your first? The hardest break up is the one you least expect combined eith the seriousness of the relationship. 2
Buddhist Posted October 3, 2015 Posted October 3, 2015 Have you had any other subsequent breakups that were harder? Did you have a closer emotional connection to other guys than your first? No. The first one was dead easy because I was ready to leave the relationship. The hardest one was actually the last one I had. Don't believe all that BS about first love etc. It's stuff they make TV movies out of, nothing more.
EricaH329 Posted October 3, 2015 Posted October 3, 2015 No. The first one was dead easy because I was ready to leave the relationship. The hardest one was actually the last one I had. Don't believe all that BS about first love etc. It's stuff they make TV movies out of, nothing more. I've had a few serious relationships, and the hardest one for me to get over was my first love. He wasn't my first serious relationship, nor my last. I believe what makes breakups so difficult is a combination of things. Where you are emotionally, if you're ready for the relationship to end, and how much you've invested yourself in the other person. 1
smackie9 Posted October 3, 2015 Posted October 3, 2015 After my first love I was excited to find more. 1
sportygirl89 Posted October 3, 2015 Posted October 3, 2015 I had dated a bunch of guys before my last relationship. This was the first guy that I could see my self marrying. He had other factors against us from working out: recently divorced and PTSD. He left me when I was sick. I was crushed after him breaking up with me. I have gone on dates but haven't really dated since. No I haven't felt like this with anyone else. I do hope this changes as I have been single for 3 years.
Author loverage21 Posted October 3, 2015 Author Posted October 3, 2015 I had dated a bunch of guys before my last relationship. This was the first guy that I could see my self marrying. He had other factors against us from working out: recently divorced and PTSD. He left me when I was sick. I was crushed after him breaking up with me. I have gone on dates but haven't really dated since. No I haven't felt like this with anyone else. I do hope this changes as I have been single for 3 years. Were you involved with other guys longer than you were with this guy?
Author loverage21 Posted October 3, 2015 Author Posted October 3, 2015 I've had a few serious relationships, and the hardest one for me to get over was my first love. He wasn't my first serious relationship, nor my last. I believe what makes breakups so difficult is a combination of things. Where you are emotionally, if you're ready for the relationship to end, and how much you've invested yourself in the other person. So what you are saying is a girl can have serious long-term relationships before and find her first love later on? For an example, a girl can be involved with a guy for a few years when she was young, then find out a later relationship can be more emotionally taxing and harder to get over?
EricaH329 Posted October 3, 2015 Posted October 3, 2015 So what you are saying is a girl can have serious long-term relationships before and find her first love later on? For an example, a girl can be involved with a guy for a few years when she was young, then find out a later relationship can be more emotionally taxing and harder to get over? Oh, absolutely!! My last relationship was a little over 2 years, and I 'got over' it quicker than any of my previous relationships. I was ready for it to be over long before it actually ended. While I had love for him, I wasn't in love with him. First relationships (or second, third, etc. for that matter) doesn't necessarily mean it'll be the most difficult to get over. There are just too many factors that go into it.
travelbug1996 Posted October 3, 2015 Posted October 3, 2015 for me it was the easiest. Maybe because I didn't really know and understand love until much later in life.
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