broken guy Posted May 19, 2005 Posted May 19, 2005 My ex has just sent me a text message asking me about news from home about my parents divorce. Last time I saw her I told her about it and related that to how it affected my relationship with her and asked her to consider taking me back as I didnt want it to interfer anymore. I also told her that I would keep her informed about the divorce but I have not contacted her since, she mentioned that but said she thought shed ask anyway. This is despite the fact that she is seeing a new guy and appears to be totally in love with him, well, she broke up with me via email for him after lying to me! She also has got back my DVD that I lent to her a long time ago so she could watch her with her, at the time, friend...Do I reply?
Stone Posted May 19, 2005 Posted May 19, 2005 Nope.. leave the past alone, now you have the last laugh, let her arse wonder
suegail Posted May 19, 2005 Posted May 19, 2005 I tend to agree with the others. Things may not be all that rosy with the new guy and she might be testing you a bit. I've always felt if you are in a relationship with someone and they lie to you and you know they've lied to you, it's best to get out, stay out, and don't look back.
Candy Cane Posted May 19, 2005 Posted May 19, 2005 Uhhh...YEAH you should respond. I thought you wanted this girl back. Just...when you respond...be real cool. Keep the message short, be polite, but don't mention anything about you and her or anything like that. Be brief and light.
broken_guy Posted May 19, 2005 Posted May 19, 2005 I do want her back but she made it clear that she would never come back to me even if things went wrong with her new guy. Maybe I could leave it a few days? I dont think games will work with her, if I dont reply, she will maybe think: "Well, who cares. If he wont reply then thats his problem. My life is great now" etc. If I do, then it will be the 1st contact from me for 10 days. Last time Is ent her a message, she left it for days and that pissed me off. When I called her to tell her about the divorce, she didnt answer and didnt call back. Not sure, something says tell her then another says dont..
Candy Cane Posted May 19, 2005 Posted May 19, 2005 Well, not responding is a game. But...it's up to you. I don't think there's any right answer to the situation. I do think, however, that if you do not respond, she will eventually move on from you. Her contacting you is one way she is holding on. If you love her, I don't think you should discourage that. Good luck!!
outdated Posted May 19, 2005 Posted May 19, 2005 Originally posted by Candy Cane Well, not responding is a game. But...it's up to you. I don't think there's any right answer to the situation. I do think, however, that if you do not respond, she will eventually move on from you. Her contacting you is one way she is holding on. If you love her, I don't think you should discourage that. Good luck!! I agree. If you love this person, you have to respond one way or another. Maybe wait a day or so, just to make her sweat a little bit . But if you don't respond, she'll think, okay this sh*t is over. For good. Of course this thread is a few days old, so you probably already did one of two things- replied or blew her off. Let us know which one it is!
Author broken guy Posted May 20, 2005 Author Posted May 20, 2005 She finally changed her email password! Good and bad that is. I will reply in a minute oor 2. its been 24 hoours since the text.
Candy Cane Posted May 20, 2005 Posted May 20, 2005 She shouldn't have to change her email password. You should be trustworthy enough to not break into her mail. Perhaps some of your actions have contributed to her leaving?
magda Posted May 20, 2005 Posted May 20, 2005 Originally posted by broken guy She finally changed her email password! Good and bad that is. Ew.
Author broken guy Posted May 20, 2005 Author Posted May 20, 2005 I only did it to see how far her lies and deceit had gone. Which ended up being VERY much!! Also, she checked though my email for months when she thought I was having an affair. I told her to stop as I didnt want to change my password as I felt like that mean we could no longer trust each other. She broke that trust in a BIG way. Still love her though...Im in trouble!
XNemesisX Posted May 20, 2005 Posted May 20, 2005 If you still love her and want her back then you should respond. Just keep it short, sweet, and to the point. Don't elaborate too much...just be simple and nonchalant in your reply.
Author broken guy Posted May 21, 2005 Author Posted May 21, 2005 Well, I gave her the news over 30 hours ago and it was pretty serious. Nothing. Lets see if there is a next time. I honestly think she is in contact with her old housemate who has a habit of lying about me and she has told my ex that I have been saying nasty stuff about her, which I havent. Im so upset over all of this. She was an honest person and loved me dearly, yet, within a short space of time, I am nothing. I have been treated worse than something you whould scrape off your shoe..I cant see myself recovering. I just keep kicking myself for not acting when I saw and heard the signs, why didnt I just smarten up? I am a fool.
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