One_Made_of_Silver Posted October 2, 2015 Posted October 2, 2015 (edited) I've met this girl on okcupid. We have a very high match percentage, and the messages we've exchanged seem like we think exactly alike. My first date with her isn't until Sunday. We're just gonna go meet for drinks at a trendy bar I like. In the past, after setting up a date, I didn't text or message the girl much at all until the morning of the date, and the girl flaked. This time, I've been carrying on more texting conversations and getting to know her. My strategy is if I keep in touch somewhat, it'll keep me on her radar in case she gets tempted by other guys on the dating site or loses interest, as well as help solidify the connection. Plus, I really like talking to her. My question is, is this a good strategy? Could this backfire? At what point am I overdoing it? Edited October 2, 2015 by One_Made_of_Silver 1
Redhead14 Posted October 2, 2015 Posted October 2, 2015 I've met this girl on okcupid. We have a very high match percentage, and the messages we've exchanged seem like we think exactly alike. My first date with her isn't until Sunday. We're just gonna go meet for drinks at a trendy bar I like. In the past, after setting up a date, I didn't text or message the girl much at all until the morning of the date, and the girl flaked. This time, I've been carrying on more texting conversations and getting to know her. My strategy is if I keep in touch somewhat, it'll keep me on her radar in case she gets tempted by other guys on the dating site or loses interest, as well as help solidify the connection. Plus, I really like talking to her. My question is, is this a good strategy? Could this backfire? At what point am I overdoing it? Sure, keep in light touch. Not over the top. And, confirm meetups the night before. 1
MzLady Posted October 2, 2015 Posted October 2, 2015 Just keep acting like you did before you set the date. Your past strategy sent mixed signals, which is probably why they flaked... In her mind... We were chatting, everything was cool, even made a date.. But then he stopped texting me after we made the date.. Guess he lost interest. She doesn't know you or what to expect from you and with online dating.. It's even tougher. Word of advice.. If you like someone and are interested.. Don't play games, just be yourself. I hope you have a great date!
jam.over.jelly Posted October 2, 2015 Posted October 2, 2015 It really depends on the dynamics of your texting convos with her. If she seems responsive to your text then by all means keep texting her up til you meet with her, if she doesn't seem too keen on texting (respond more than 5 hours later, her texts are short and not engaging...), then just confirm the date the night or the morning before. I personally find it annoying/the guy trying too hard if they constantly text me before we even meet. But then again, it DEPENDS on the guy and how our convos flow.
Author One_Made_of_Silver Posted October 2, 2015 Author Posted October 2, 2015 It really depends on the dynamics of your texting convos with her. If she seems responsive to your text then by all means keep texting her up til you meet with her, if she doesn't seem too keen on texting (respond more than 5 hours later, her texts are short and not engaging...), then just confirm the date the night or the morning before. I personally find it annoying/the guy trying too hard if they constantly text me before we even meet. But then again, it DEPENDS on the guy and how our convos flow. They're flowing very well, and she responds very quickly to each text.
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