ExpatInItaly Posted October 2, 2015 Posted October 2, 2015 She's your ex. Her relationship isn't your problem. Stay away from her and her boyfriends' social media/dating accounts and focus all that energy and time on yourself and your own healing instead. 1
Shock148 Posted October 2, 2015 Posted October 2, 2015 i'd rather be a creep and be somewhat protective of my ex when I see something is fishy going on than to be an dishonest person who keeps someone on the line while looking for someone better... anyway, it's not healthy for me and i'm moving on Which is exactly what your ex girlfriend did to you. Yeah, just move on and stop being a creep and dont contact her. Trust me, if you contact her in any way stating that her new boyfriend is doing this and that, she will look at you like a creep and be even more distant to you.
mightycpa Posted October 2, 2015 Posted October 2, 2015 (edited) You are having a hard time understanding this? Ok well look whose making the thread and look who isn't. Once it's over, it's over. I am not the in between guy to my ex girlfriend until she gets someone better. That's basically saying we broke up because our relationship won't work, but I will continue to act like an unofficial boyfriend by constantly seeking and getting emotional and sexual support, but in public and friends/families we are just friends. Once I find someone I really want to be with, you are cut out of my life because I want to be with him and his emotional sexual needs. Then you, as a person who are not over your ex, who gladly accepeted this "in between" stage gets hurt again. Unless the OP felt the same as she did (which obviously he didnt) then this is a bad approach. If he did, then yes there's no problem we are in agreement more power to him. But he obviously was not. He would have been like ok well it was fun while it lasted, time to move onto the next one and not make a thread here stating his feelings towards her and creepily stalking her boyfriend and her on social media.OK, that's somewhat better... I'd say it this way. The problem is not her, it's him. This whole "tossed you out like yesterday's trash" is viewing it from his perspective from the the pines... whereas if there was no emotional connection, he'd probably be on board with it, and he could consider himself lucky to have a nice "no-strings" FWB. So I disagree that it is her treating him badly. She simply explained her terms, what she's comfortable with. It's up to him to decide whether or not it is a good or a bad deal. There's some exes I have done that with, and there are others where it just couldn't work for me. It was my job to know the difference, and the difference wasn't with the girls or the offer. It was with me. Edited October 2, 2015 by mightycpa
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