emerald86 Posted October 2, 2015 Posted October 2, 2015 (edited) I've been liking this guy for a while and we've gone on two dates so far. Both went very well, and he wants to see me again. If everything continues to go well, I know that we will kiss at some point, but just the thought of it is making me so nervous I can barely breathe! I go into full panic mode just thinking about it. I don't understand my excessive fear of kissing him, because it's not even my first time kissing someone. In my first relationship, I was scared but I guess that's more understandable because it was my first time and I was inexperienced. In every relationship after that, I was okay--a few butterflies in my stomach, but for the most part, I was pretty relaxed. This guy is absolutely amazing in every possible way, and I think that could be part of the reason I'm so terrified. There are so many questions that are going through my head right now--What if he doesn't like the way I kiss? What if he breaks up with me because of it? What if I mess up and completely embarrass myself? What if my face tenses up and that ruins it? Is there even a right way to kiss? I am losing my mind over this. I know I should just relax, but for some reason I can't bring myself to. It sounds crazy, I know. How can I stop overthinking and just go with the flow? Edited October 2, 2015 by emerald86
Buddhist Posted October 2, 2015 Posted October 2, 2015 What if your anxiety gets the better of you and you don't actually go on a date with the love of your life because you were nervous about being kissed? Actually i know how you feel as I have similar feelings for the guy I'm currently seeing. Let alone even think about the first time nekkid...... I do actually have panic disorder so this is a real thing, I get it. I'm getting through it by telling myself that he'll catch me off guard and then I won't have time to panic about it, all I'll have to do is act awkward afterwards. I'm rehearsing that ahead of time so I think I'll be prepared.... But actually in my head when he kisses me I just get so hormonal I practically mount him on the spot. Yeah......don't know how this is going to play out really. Mental Note To Self - If he's the love of your life he won't be bothered about how you kiss, nor will he be issuing olympic score cards after the event.
David87 Posted October 2, 2015 Posted October 2, 2015 Just go with the flow, let him lead this dance and make sure its a simple kiss at first, no tongue
smackie9 Posted October 2, 2015 Posted October 2, 2015 OK so you are nervous, which means you are not quite ready for physical intimacy. Kissing is something that is done in the moment, not planned ahead. You should feel it, not just do it because you have a time limit. When you put yourself under pressure, and being all nervous crazy, makes for an awful kiss. You want the first time done right. I think you should spend more quiet one on one time, chatting, holding hands, leaning into him... you get comfortable being close, then the moment will happen, excited but relaxed. Perfection!
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