Street_Legal Posted October 1, 2015 Posted October 1, 2015 I recently met a 27 year old female "promotional model" at the grocery store. We chatted a bit and she gave me her number. She did warn me she is a busy person, is going through a divorce and has a 6 year old boy to raise. I called her two days later and she was very receptive. We arranged a date for this week. However, she asked to bring her older sister along as her sister had some friends that would be at the place we were meeting (a bar/restaurant). Her sister is someone she looks up to and she said wanted to introduce me to her. So I said fine. The date seemed to go fine. Although, her sister's friends were nowhere in sight. So it was just the three of us at the table. Still, her sister was warm and friendly and very physically attractive I might add. The lady I was interested in (call her Mary), told me she was shy. And I could see that during the date. As I told her, I don't mind that at all as I can be that way when I first meet someone. Mary's sister is more outgoing and during the conversation she suggested we all go to a dance club together in the future. I even told Mary's sister I have a friend that I could introduce her to. Two hours later we ended the date and we said goodbye. I texted Mary shortly after the date saying roughly, "Nice to see you tonight. Have a nice/safe drive home tomorrow." She was staying overnight at her sister's and had to drive quite a distance back to her house the next day. She has not responded to my text and the date was nearly 36 hours ago. So my bottom line questions are: 1. Is she in fact "ghosting" me as in blowing me off and no longer interested? 2a. If that is the case, what and when is my next move to possibly get her to reconsider a second date? 2b. or do I just let it go and move on the next prospect? By moving on I either find someone else or perhaps "absence makes the heart grow fonder" and she might contact me in the future?
PegNosePete Posted October 1, 2015 Posted October 1, 2015 1. Yes 2a. Never 2b. Yes move on. 3. If a girl asks you if she can bring her sister or anyone else along, she's clearly not interested in you in a dating capacity. A date is a one on one interaction. In the future if a girl asks if she can bring someone else along, tell her that you'd hoped to get to know her rather than participating in a group activity, so you'd prefer to reschedule to a more convenient date/time or location.
Author Street_Legal Posted October 1, 2015 Author Posted October 1, 2015 1. Yes 2a. Never 2b. Yes move on. 3. If a girl asks you if she can bring her sister or anyone else along, she's clearly not interested in you in a dating capacity. A date is a one on one interaction. In the future if a girl asks if she can bring someone else along, tell her that you'd hoped to get to know her rather than participating in a group activity, so you'd prefer to reschedule to a more convenient date/time or location. Normally I would agree with this. In this case I think this woman is just very shy and weary from her last relationship. I could be wrong but I don't think so...
d0nnivain Posted October 1, 2015 Posted October 1, 2015 If deciding she's shy & weary from her last relationship makes you feel better, by all means continue to believe that. However, do take her silence to mean that she's too shy & too weary to want a second date & move on.
Author Street_Legal Posted October 2, 2015 Author Posted October 2, 2015 If deciding she's shy & weary from her last relationship makes you feel better, by all means continue to believe that. However, do take her silence to mean that she's too shy & too weary to want a second date & move on. Update to this thread: Based on gut instinct and input from a friend, I called her and she answered my call. We had a nice conversation and we are going out for date No. 2 next week.
Zippy2000 Posted October 2, 2015 Posted October 2, 2015 Whoa! Stop using the word ghosting loosely. Its only been 36 hours. Someone only ghosts only normally after 3-4 dates. After 1 date shes not ghosting but being rude or playing hard to get.
road Posted October 2, 2015 Posted October 2, 2015 She met you at a grocery store working as a model. Evidently she liked you enough to go out with you. Also smart enough to be safe because she did not know you at all and made an excuse to bring her sister for safety. I see nothing wrong with that on her part.
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