Cupid's Puppet Posted October 1, 2015 Posted October 1, 2015 Back in July I got a new account and a new phone number. The other day my mom told me my godmother had been texting to my old phone number for a while. On my old phone, I would usually get an error message if a phone number was no longer in service. But it seems like these smart phones don't have that feature. So I got to thinking, "What if my ex texted my phone and asked to reconnect?" Since no one gets notified that the old number is no longer in service, they probably all think I simply ignore them. I would rather my ex not think I would ignore him. At least if he got notified that the phone number was no longer in service, he would try reaching out to me another way. I know I should let go. I've dated a few men since he dumped me. But I do wonder about him a lot, and with the number change, I do wonder if he tried to reach out. And if he tried to reach out, what were his thoughts when he received no response. I would like to get rid of these nagging thoughts. I don't know why I think he would call to get back together. I guess I am in lala land.
Dawn212 Posted October 1, 2015 Posted October 1, 2015 You are in denial, don't go back to that place, these months of healing will be all for nothing, if your ex wanted to contact you im sure he could do so through various social media. It's gone.. stay strong
mammasita Posted October 1, 2015 Posted October 1, 2015 Hun, He dumped you. In all reality if he wanted to contact you and reconnect - he would find a way. You not responding to his texts would be the least effective barrier in the history of trying to block someone if it was truly important.
dyna85 Posted October 1, 2015 Posted October 1, 2015 Here's my thought on this. I had a similar situation way back when I went through a harsh breakup in college. It was a little over a year later that I was working somewhere and I ended up not being able to find my cell phone -- and I am someone who never loses anything. Like, I always back track and find everything I lose because I'm very careful with my things, so I was rather befuddled that my phone somehow disappeared. It was the weirdest thing. I looked up and down at my workplace and in my car, which is where I'd sworn I had placed it in one of the storage areas. Anyway, I remember briefly contemplating the thought that 'what if my ex tried to contact me' on that number, since I switched phones and got a new number as a result of never finding that phone. However, I didn't dwell on it. After a little while, I remember concluding that everything happens for a reason and I honestly believe there is a reason the phone was lost and that if he tried to ever contact me, it wouldn't happen, because it wasn't meant to be. So that is my thought with your phone situation too. Your thought regarding 'well what if he contacts me...' is not unusual. However, this is what it is for a reason. And I agree w/mammasita too..that if he wanted to reconnect, he would find a way. To demonstrate the point that no barrier is too big if someone really wants to connect, let me share a story -- it pertains to my desire to reconnect to a friend after a period of separation: I have a close friend who I separated from a few years ago. After about 2-3 yrs of being apart, I had this intense desire to reconnect with him. I contemplated it for a while before going forth with my intention to reach out, because I wanted to be sure this is what I wanted. Eventually, I made the decision to contact him, but couldn't recall his number and searching online was of no help. I ended up calling his parents house - left message - no response. Then I tried facebook through a friend's acct - sent him a msg - no response. (It ended up going to his 'other' folder so he hadn't seen it). Then I ended up emailing him. Here I am, anxious as hell, waiting for some sort of response, and about a week passes. So he does end up eventually finding the email in the other folder and contacted me and we've been going strong as friends for the past 2-3 yrs. tldr: What will be will be. Everything happens for a reason, so this phone thing is on par with the grand plan of the universe. And another thing, no barrier is too great if someone truly desires to reconnect with you. Let it go and let life flow. Whatever happens, happens....no need to fret.
na49 Posted October 2, 2015 Posted October 2, 2015 Hun, He dumped you. In all reality if he wanted to contact you and reconnect - he would find a way. You not responding to his texts would be the least effective barrier in the history of trying to block someone if it was truly important. Pretty much this.
Author Cupid's Puppet Posted October 2, 2015 Author Posted October 2, 2015 But if he thinks I'm ignoring him, then why would we he try to reach out another way? Aw hell, it doesn't matter. I know that when we were in contact I made it clear to him I wanted to reconcile. He told me twice and a few other times with little uncertainty that he was through with the relationship. So even if he had a change in heart, there was no way I could have predicted it. For all intents and purposes, he told me we were done and that is the only way I could have taken it. In the end, he shamed me among his family and friends. Though he is still a great guy, I could never face them again. It is best to just move on. I just hate that people can so easily fall out of my life like they never meant anything and that we never knew each other. Just like that. Breakup has been over a year. Last contact was 8 months ago. I don't know how a simple conversation from my mom landed me back in the coping forum. lol. Just a few weeks ago I was coping over some fwb. Now I'm sad over the ex again. I'm tired of coping.
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