guest569 Posted October 1, 2015 Posted October 1, 2015 OP, you did the right thing. She is just messing with you and giving mixed signals, i cant shed any light on that but i think you are lucky to be not hearing from her. She doesn't understand why nothing happened, when she specifically asked for nothing to happen.
bubbaganoosh Posted October 1, 2015 Posted October 1, 2015 If it was me I would tell her that if she told you 4 times no hanky panky then wonders why nothing happened then he signals were that she didn't want to fool around and if she did the 4 times no fooling around wouldn't have come up. I would tell her that to me it's a dangerous game. She says no when she means yes and you go for it, what's to say that if she gets pissed that she wouldn't call the cops and tell them she said 4 times to stop and it fell on deaf ears. Comes down to this, want laid? Then act like you want laid and if not then say what you mean and mean what you say and stick to it. My God it's so high school.
TunaCat Posted October 1, 2015 Posted October 1, 2015 You absolutely did the right thing. This woman sounded like she wanted her ego stroked and when you didn't push her for sex, her ego deflated. If you had pushed her for sex, her ego would have inflated, but then you would have been in a bad situation because she could later claim that she told you "no" so many times, but you didn't listen to her & you forced yourself on her. You respected her by not pushing her for sex. I'm sorry she didn't see it that way. Move on from this crazy lady.
HereNorThere Posted October 1, 2015 Posted October 1, 2015 Congratulations! You have learned an important lesson in life. What a lot of women say they want and what they want are two totally different things. It gets a little better as you get older, but girls in their twenties are notorious for playing these type of mind games. Women in the 30s tend to be a little more straight forward, but that can be off putting for a lot of guys because they tend leave no mystery. Yeah, yeah, I'll get reamed for speaking the truth, but they aren't as straight forward as males. Eventually you pay less attention to words and more attention to actions. Of course no means no, but in this case she was just trying to preserve her ego by not coming off as slutty. You just missed the subtle clues that she secretly wanted you to gradually escalate things. She figured you already knew how to play the game and you disappointed her with your lack of experience. You're supposed to be psychic, duh! 1
Ami1uwant Posted October 1, 2015 Posted October 1, 2015 You did nothing wrong. I would have done the same if I were there. I respect women so I am not going yo play games. If she said that to me I eould have called her out on it right then snd there about the fact she said not do anything.
Versacehottie Posted October 1, 2015 Posted October 1, 2015 She wanted you to be so attracted to and turned on by her as to push for it and "break her down" so she could play like "oh, I never do this, you caught me at a weak moment" blah, blah, blah. Yep this part of Redhead's statement seems like what she was doing. I don't think it's a run from this situation. I'd be more concerned that you were going to do a real date and she switched it into "come over". That sounds like hookup interests rather than dating. OP, you played it right. She either retreating because what she wanted you didn't give her (FWB not dating) OR she is a little miffed and freaked out because she embarrassed herself but she will get over it. Oh, and there's a 3rd possibility that she was on the fence, of which the prime motivator in continuing to see a person that you are on the fence about is ego-stroke. And yeah, in that case you gave you some convoluted test which you failed. Possible drama queen in which case, yeah run. Although you don't need to do any of that right away. Wait a little bit and find out which one she is.
Author confuseddude88 Posted October 1, 2015 Author Posted October 1, 2015 Wait a little bit and find out which one she is. I left her a voice mail a few days ago telling her I would like to see her again and I've gotten no response. I think this thing is over and done with. I had a feeling she was seeing someone else at the same time as me. She's probably already got someone else! 1
Redhead14 Posted October 1, 2015 Posted October 1, 2015 I left her a voice mail a few days ago telling her I would like to see her again and I've gotten no response. I think this thing is over and done with. I had a feeling she was seeing someone else at the same time as me. She's probably already got someone else! Yep, she probably does and they are on an internet dating advice site right now asking why she invited him to her house, told him she didn't want sex and then blew him off for not pushing for it. Or, her husband in online wondering why his wife can't stop cheating on him.
Author confuseddude88 Posted October 1, 2015 Author Posted October 1, 2015 Yep, she probably does and they are on an internet dating advice site right now asking why she invited him to her house, told him she didn't want sex and then blew him off for not pushing for it. Or, her husband in online wondering why his wife can't stop cheating on him. Funny, and probably accurate!
Toodaloo Posted October 1, 2015 Posted October 1, 2015 I left her a voice mail a few days ago telling her I would like to see her again and I've gotten no response. I think this thing is over and done with. I had a feeling she was seeing someone else at the same time as me. She's probably already got someone else! You are probably right about that. Don't worry. She is obviously one of those attention seekers. No fun at all to be with when it gets serious.
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