tenderrose Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 My boyfriend (he doesnt want to admit our relationship nor want to admit it openly in public) is cheating with another married women currently whom I get to see everyday. He also has been in regular touch(sex) with other married women as well as I have seen messages in his cellphone that are very romantic and sensual. The most disturbing thing for me is he used me as a way to attract this girl who joined the gym we hit everyday together. He showed how much I love him and how it wont work between us due to different religion etc. The girl is also unhappy with her husband and not very good looking. My boyfriend (whom I am in love with) is attractive and he knows how to pursue a girl and make her fall for him. So he is actually made her fall for him by spending a lot of time texting and calling her. He did the same trick on me. He told me about another girl who he was in affair with and how they broke up but the girl still in love with him. I confronted him twice about it but he denies because that girl is married. He also denies it because he doesnt want me to expose the secret affiar with her too since she is married. The most wierdest thing is when i was deeply disturbed by this, all of a sudden the girl's husband contacted me through facebook and said he liked me. Then I spoke to him about how his wife and I meet everyday at gym etc.All of a sudden he wanted to meet me so I went to meet him. He started to say he likes me etc and want me to be his. Till that time I didn't say even a word about his wife to him. But since he was hitting on me I poured everything out and said I am not into him. The most astonishing and surprising part is he doesn't care about his wife's cheating business and he wants to have a personal life with me. he says his wife deoesnt like him so he wants another relationship. he even says he will marry me. I was shocked and told him I dont like him that way. I am so surprised on the fact that he doesnt worry about his wife anymore but they pose to outside world as very lovable couples. The girl knows how I am close with my friend and she definitely knows our affair but still she wants to have an affair with my boyfriend. They both secretly even discuss about me and I know it for sure. Although I know he is a womanizer and loves to have extramarital affairs with other married women my heart still beats for him. I love him so much but he doesn't want commitement. Everyone in our gym knows about us but I am unable to move on because he still wants me for sex but not for love. I know I have to dump him as he dumped me but I am not able to do it. I dont know how to come out of this ****. I understand that the girls need is sex since her husband recently left abroad the day we met and he proposed me. And my boyfriend is also a divorcee and has been sleeping with any women for years. So I understand that these people are only using each others body. I am a person who wants love and care. I want to come out of him slowly but I am not able to do that. Lot other guys hit on me but i am not able to move on and date other guys. Please tell me how can I do it fast and without feeling miserable missing him.
Stage5Clinger Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 Cut him out of your life 100%. Period. It's a matter of self-respect. You probably already feel like a doormat and that's currently his fault. If you stay in this situation willingly it's then your own fault.
Redhead14 Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 My boyfriend (he doesnt want to admit our relationship nor want to admit it openly in public) is cheating with another married women currently whom I get to see everyday. He also has been in regular touch(sex) with other married women as well as I have seen messages in his cellphone that are very romantic and sensual. The most disturbing thing for me is he used me as a way to attract this girl who joined the gym we hit everyday together. He showed how much I love him and how it wont work between us due to different religion etc. The girl is also unhappy with her husband and not very good looking. My boyfriend (whom I am in love with) is attractive and he knows how to pursue a girl and make her fall for him. So he is actually made her fall for him by spending a lot of time texting and calling her. He did the same trick on me. He told me about another girl who he was in affair with and how they broke up but the girl still in love with him. I confronted him twice about it but he denies because that girl is married. He also denies it because he doesnt want me to expose the secret affiar with her too since she is married. The most wierdest thing is when i was deeply disturbed by this, all of a sudden the girl's husband contacted me through facebook and said he liked me. Then I spoke to him about how his wife and I meet everyday at gym etc.All of a sudden he wanted to meet me so I went to meet him. He started to say he likes me etc and want me to be his. Till that time I didn't say even a word about his wife to him. But since he was hitting on me I poured everything out and said I am not into him. The most astonishing and surprising part is he doesn't care about his wife's cheating business and he wants to have a personal life with me. he says his wife deoesnt like him so he wants another relationship. he even says he will marry me. I was shocked and told him I dont like him that way. I am so surprised on the fact that he doesnt worry about his wife anymore but they pose to outside world as very lovable couples. The girl knows how I am close with my friend and she definitely knows our affair but still she wants to have an affair with my boyfriend. They both secretly even discuss about me and I know it for sure. Although I know he is a womanizer and loves to have extramarital affairs with other married women my heart still beats for him. I love him so much but he doesn't want commitement. Everyone in our gym knows about us but I am unable to move on because he still wants me for sex but not for love. I know I have to dump him as he dumped me but I am not able to do it. I dont know how to come out of this ****. I understand that the girls need is sex since her husband recently left abroad the day we met and he proposed me. And my boyfriend is also a divorcee and has been sleeping with any women for years. So I understand that these people are only using each others body. I am a person who wants love and care. I want to come out of him slowly but I am not able to do that. Lot other guys hit on me but i am not able to move on and date other guys. Please tell me how can I do it fast and without feeling miserable missing him. Visualize him talking to the other women about you, him being with them and spending the time and attention he should have been giving you to them. And, that he has been using you and them. That should make you hate him. Don't be a doormat. Stand up for yourself. If you had a daughter and she came to you with all this, what would you do? You'd tell her to get a grip and move on.
TunaCat Posted October 1, 2015 Posted October 1, 2015 Come on OP, stop being a doormat! Leave the relationship because you deserve so much better than this guy. Respect yourself by walking away from this guy.
Dopher87 Posted October 1, 2015 Posted October 1, 2015 You deserve so much better! Don't stay another minute, With him. Youre self worth and dignity is so much more important I can relate being a doormat It's just not worth it in the long run
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