Knot in stomach every time exF goes to see Strippers How to Deal ?

[dignifiedgirl]

My story is here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/cheating-flirting-jealousy/544647-fiance-supposed-playing-poker-appears-playing-poke-her-stripper

 

Nutshell:

Still live with ex fiance. Broken up for 5 weeks.

 

He ended up getting into playing poker and then going to a strip club.

 

I was cool with the poker playing. Turns out he "thinks" he is developing a relationship with a stripper/poker player.

He got drunk this weekend and sang that he "found love in a strip club"

I think he is Jon Snow and knows Nothing.

 

 

Anyway, I am going to move far away, so I am putting together a nice reserve to do so. I have beloved pets, so I can't just crash on a sofa until I do so.

 

I work from home (near a large East Coast city, but I would have to get an Uber to get out of the house as I don't have a car)

 

The exF works from home half the time.

 

I had the luxury of setting up a home office last week on opposite sides of the house, but still run into him in the kitchen and living room.

 

I noticed that when he is going to go gambling/to the strip club, he hits the gym in the afternoon to get his pump on.

 

Know I shouldn't care, but it still makes me sick to know where he's going.

I am too busy to go out during work nights, so I am stuck here while he's out.

As much as I dislike him for making me feel unattractive and worthless (I know I am cute and worthwhile of course), I have a level of sympathy and pity for him.

He is a very good looking guy and a sucker for compliments.

 

I just have a feeling that he thinks he is playing the stripper(s) and winning the attention of "mega hot girls" (his words), while they're patting themselves on the back for playing him.

 

Advice on coping and not obsessing ?

[Shock148]

My story is here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/cheating-flirting-jealousy/544647-fiance-supposed-playing-poker-appears-playing-poke-her-stripper

 

Nutshell:

Still live with ex fiance. Broken up for 5 weeks.

 

He ended up getting into playing poker and then going to a strip club.

 

I was cool with the poker playing. Turns out he "thinks" he is developing a relationship with a stripper/poker player.

He got drunk this weekend and sang that he "found love in a strip club"

I think he is Jon Snow and knows Nothing.

 

 

Anyway, I am going to move far away, so I am putting together a nice reserve to do so. I have beloved pets, so I can't just crash on a sofa until I do so.

 

I work from home (near a large East Coast city, but I would have to get an Uber to get out of the house as I don't have a car)

 

The exF works from home half the time.

 

I had the luxury of setting up a home office last week on opposite sides of the house, but still run into him in the kitchen and living room.

 

I noticed that when he is going to go gambling/to the strip club, he hits the gym in the afternoon to get his pump on.

 

Know I shouldn't care, but it still makes me sick to know where he's going.

I am too busy to go out during work nights, so I am stuck here while he's out.

As much as I dislike him for making me feel unattractive and worthless (I know I am cute and worthwhile of course), I have a level of sympathy and pity for him.

He is a very good looking guy and a sucker for compliments.

 

I just have a feeling that he thinks he is playing the stripper(s) and winning the attention of "mega hot girls" (his words), while they're patting themselves on the back for playing him.

 

Advice on coping and not obsessing ?

Get out of the house and take a walk. There really is nothing else you can do if you can't go out and live your life because you are busy so there really is not much to say. It is extremely hard not to think of your ex fiance when you see him basically everyday as you still live in the same house as him. The only way to start coping is to get out as soon as you can. Other than that, there is nothing else you can do. It is his house, the relationship is over, and he wants to do what he wants to do. Let him be, you cannot say anything to him nor should you. Once you pack up your stuff and leave, you will start the healing process. As of right now, you are just delaying it and making yourself feel worse everyday because you are stuck.