littlemisshopeless Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 So, long story super short, my ex and I have been in and out of each others lives for about 5 years now. Between not talking at all, to seeing eachother every day, to being one and others booty call... We have been through everything imaginable! Deaths, serious accidents, and life changing highs and lows. However, we never talk about the pink elephant in the room... how we ACTUALLY feel about eachother. We both secretly get upset when the other drifts away, or focuses on someone else, but never do anything about it... basically, we're stuck in the same routine. This coming week, he asked if he could stay with me for a trip a couple of our friends are going on. Of course I said no problem! I don't know how I should be acting on this trip... do I somewhat ignore him, so that I can have a good time? but in turn, I don't want him to ignore me, and do whatever... or who ever... he wants on this little trip! or do I let my feelings take over, and treat it as a trip with him? either way it'll be the wrong thing... HEEELP
d0nnivain Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 At some point you simply ask about the elephant in the room. Even a "no thanks" is better than being in this limbo. Who knows? It might be "thought you'd never ask!"
eye of the storm Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 If he is someone you want in your life. He needs to be someone you can talk to and be honest. If you can't....why do you want him?
mystikmind2005 Posted October 1, 2015 Posted October 1, 2015 Usually one person will be the primary generator of this kind of situation, and because you are on this forum asking about it, that tells me the primary generator will be him. Its a red flag honestly, usually meaning he is not all that into you. sorry,,, but if you think you can enjoy this friendship, then go for it, but don't trust it to develop into something deeper.
craw Posted October 1, 2015 Posted October 1, 2015 (edited) Sounds pretty complicated. Are you saying you all hang out in a group of friends and you two occasionally hook up? Is he not paying for his part of the trip? I dunno it seems a bit weird that you're his "backup" plan. Did he ask last minute? You know I'm wondering what happens if you say no to him. You go have fun and he stays behind. Edited October 1, 2015 by craw
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