blissfool Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 hello all there is a situation on hand in which i don't know how to handle therefore this post. hope ya'll can advise ! any help is appreciated! - i met this guy in church (christian) camp, and my group and his group were placed in the same big group so we got to know each other from there. that was the first time we met and because he said a joke and i laughed, that's how he said he noticed me. he noticed me also because during the game he was injured and i went to ask if he was okay therefore we became acquaintances. - afterwards, as our church separates the boys and the girls into different sections, and i didn't see him till recently where we were celebrating our church's anniversary. i was playing in the sand at the beach when he came over and i showed him a picture of me with my legs buried in sand. he thought it wasn't that impressive so i volunteered with my friends to cover him in sand, in which we had a great time. since his phone did not have a password, we took many pictures and we exchanged numbers so that i could get the photos. we started talking that night and 2 days later he said that he was attracted to me but not sure if he truly really liked me and after lots of haggling, he decided to wait for me as i'm still in school and our age gap is 3 years. - then, we were talking and talking and since our chat frequency and number of messages decreased, i told him that i didn't want to continue anymore on bc i felt he was kidding the whole time and he asked me to be his girlfriend for a month. i said he forgot to add a space between girl and friend but he said he was serious. i don't know how to reply him because firstly, if he asked me to be for a month, what's the difference between me and a trial product? secondly, doesn't he seem to rushed? it's either he doesn't want to lose me or he's being plain possesive? thirdly, if i do enter a relationship with him, then, what would my peers and church friends sauy? fourth, how do i act when i see him in church? is he going to hold my hand in public? any advise is appreciated. please help thank you! any questions also can ask below.
PegNosePete Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 he said that he was attracted to me but not sure if he truly really liked me and after lots of haggling This is a really weird thing to say and smacks of manipulation. Not sure if he truly likes you? WTF is that meant to mean? He wants you to prove yourself to him or something, like he is God's gift and when he says jump you have to ask how high? firstly, if he asked me to be for a month, what's the difference between me and a trial product? Nothing. That is another very strange thing for him to say. thirdly, if i do enter a relationship with him, then, what would my peers and church friends sauy? Not sure how anyone can answer that for you! We don't know them. fourth, how do i act when i see him in church? is he going to hold my hand in public? Again, we can't answer that for you. We don't know him, and we can't see the future. But from his weird behaviour so far, I'd guess that he would not want to be seen together with you in public. any advise is appreciated. My advice is that he is acting very strange and that if you want a boyfriend or a boy to date, you should find someone who is a bit more normal.
Author blissfool Posted September 30, 2015 Author Posted September 30, 2015 hmm what would you do if you were me ? thanks for replying though !
PegNosePete Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 I would tell him no thanks, you aren't interested in being his girlfriend. For a month, or otherwise.
Toodaloo Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 I would tell him no thanks, you aren't interested in being his girlfriend. For a month, or otherwise. Then have a nice time with everyone and go back to concentrating on school etc... This guy is weird.
d0nnivain Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 You don't have a relationship crisis because you don't yet have a relationship. I don't know the tenants of your Church. Accordingly it's impossible to give you advice, especially about what other members of the Church will say. I suggest you ask the pastor or an elder. They will also be able to give you clearer guidance on the hand-holding As for his request that you become his GF for a month, that is odd & borders on insulting. If you are interested in a romance or courtship with him, you need to ask him why he's approaching this as already having an expiration date.
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