Is it possible that you don't REALIZE how much you love someone until you part?

[Reiben17]

Like it says...

 

Or even don't realize that you're truly only going to love this one person, no matter who you might meet or end up spending your life with?

Edited September 30, 2015 by Reiben17

[todreaminblue]

i think this is pretty sad when it happens......but yes....it does happen to some.....deb

[David87]

Of course it is, it happens all the time, this doesn't mean you should hope your ex might come back.....move on;)

[Meli22]

I've heard of it happen. It happened to me. I was over him at this point though

[Guitaristangel]

I just recently realized that too. Pretty much when she broke it off with me, I was in shock. Didn't know what to say, felt no emotion just pure shock. Then it hit a ton of bricks afterwards realizing that I wasn't a man yet. I felt like a boy the entire time.

 

Honestly, when you've been with someone for a really long time(Mine was about 4 to 5 years give or take), you seem to love them no matter how hard it was. It is completely normal. The overall message is that if they are the ones that broke it off, they must have been not satisfied with the relationship somehow.

 

It is all about self preservation man. Do NC as fast and as soon as you can. If you want to show them you want them back, then you gotta work for it.

 

My Father waited for my mom for 5 years before they got back together. Patience is a virtue but having perseverance is what really makes someone stronger.

 

I'm still waiting for my ex. Doesn't matter how long it takes, if you put in the work for yourself and heal and move on, people will ALWAYS come around.

 

Hang in there man!

[reddragon588]

Or even don't realize that you're truly only going to love this one person, no matter who you might meet or end up spending your life with?

 

You can have true love with multiple people. But for it to be your one love, it will last forever.

[Oregon_Dude]

Doesn't matter how long it takes, if you put in the work for yourself and heal and move on, people will ALWAYS come around.

This isn't true. Please don't give false hope to those waiting for their ex to come around. Most likely, it will NOT happen.

 

Don't put your life on hold. The person you knew is dead and gone. Move on to brand new people who are excited about getting to know you.

[Shock148]

Happens all the time. Unfortunately that is, but it helps you grow once you realize it.

[Samuel_22]

This isn't true. Please don't give false hope to those waiting for their ex to come around. Most likely, it will NOT happen.

 

Don't put your life on hold. The person you knew is dead and gone. Move on to brand new people who are excited about getting to know you.

^^^ This!!! Seriously This one!!! They are dead and gone, unless you believe in shamanistic powers, there is no reason to wait... Move on!

[mightycpa]

Maybe sometimes, but I think it is your mind playing tricks on you. I think if you just make a comparison between what love felt like when you still had each other and what it felt like when the other one is gone, that these two feelings are completely different.

 

Even if someone doesn't love you, but you love them and you're with them, and working on things, in other words, you haven't lost that person, love is hopeful and pleasant and inspiring.

 

Once you've lost somebody, love is desperate, sad and obsessive and it feels bad.

 

These two things are not the same by any stretch of the imagination.

 

It's like the difference between having your fingernail and having it ripped off. It's not that you were all in love with your fingernail. It's just that having it was comfortable, and that's what you are used to. If you grow another one back, it will be pretty much like the old one. And if it never grows back, the pain will go away and you'll get used to that too.

 

When we are just hurting, I don't think we are as much in love as we believe we are. It's just another lie told by a lonely and grieving heart.

[Meli22]

I also think too.. If it actually takes losing someone for you to realise how much you love them then how strong is that love? Because when I love someone I don't lose sight of that, and I'd never risk losing them or even want to.

[Reiben17]

Well,

 

We were 15 back then,

When it all started out,

Me and my ex,

We went through hell with our families,

Just to stay together,

But eventually he broke it off,

Just left me hanging without a word,

And left.

 

I didn't wait around,

Moved on.

 

But then a few months back,

I began to dream of him excessively,

And he started to stay on my mind way more than i liked.

So I just decided to make it stop,

and shove it aside by just saying hi...

I was okay with both him pushing me away or being polite and awkward.

Ready for just about anything.

 

But what i didn't expect was him telling me that he couldn't ever stop thinking about me.

As badly as we had broken up,

This was a shock.

 

Anyway,

A month from then when we finally decided that we can't keep this up (actually i did, made him go with it) i feel like he only said the things he did after this long because be was lonely,

He probably missed the way that we used to be and how it felt,

And not that my absence made him fall head over heels again for me.

But thinking this way could be just my defenses flaring up,

Because i know better than to go back to something that was so unbearably toxic for me.

 

His absence definitely made ME realize how much it wasn't meant to be.

 

Absence definitely makes you see the picture clearer,

And even if you can realize or not what someone meant to you,

You can definitely see all the things you were blinded to, when being in a toxic relationship like i was,

its almost like I've swapped my eyes for my best friends' now that i am over him,

 

Once the way that I thought he glowed in a crowd,

I can now see he's just another guy.

[Eighty_nine]

every ex who has ended a relationship with me (or behaved so badly that i had to end it)- has come back around, treating me better, being friendly, apologizing, trying to get me to sleep with them, trying to start a relationship, or one/all. I was always over them though by that time.