Radil Posted May 18, 2005 Posted May 18, 2005 Well I started posting here in the Second Chances forum and that didn't work so now I am here. MY girlfriend said she cannot have a boyfriend that cheated which I totally agree. We tried and went to some counseling but I guess she could not get past the fact is all. So now she wants to be friends which I cannot do. I feel horrible for what I did to her but I love her still. I don't want to be around her when does start to see someone else....not saying that is going to happen now. So I guess NC is my only choice. This is going to be so hard for me. I know she loves me still.....is this the right thing ? How can you move on as friends ? It just seems like pain. I think she is unclear and wants to keep me near ?
Merin Posted May 18, 2005 Posted May 18, 2005 Be direct with her. While you were wrong (wroooonnnggggg!) to have cheated on her, you've admitted to your mistake and tried to make things right with her.. but of course it is also her option to decide she isn't going to forgive this and end things. So with that said, let her know that you understand you messed up, you've done what you can to make things right and obviously it isn't going to be enough.. BUT that while she isn't able at this time (if ever) able to forgive you and give you another opportunity that you're unable to give her friendship at this time (if ever) because of how you feel about her romantically. Do I think NC is the right thing for both of you at this time.. probably so. IF nothing else this will give both of you time to think about what you can live with, and what you cannot live with. Good Luck
Author Radil Posted May 18, 2005 Author Posted May 18, 2005 I hate the fact I have to do this but I know she loves me and even says you will most likely never get over me..but she won't let herself try right now. So I am going with the NC for now to give her room. I know she misses me still. She just want say it. We were best friends for years before we got together. She just cannot believe I loved her enough because I did what I did. I am slime...I know I am slime. I am paying for it everyday which sucks. I would give up 10 yrs of my life to take it all back somehow.
Merin Posted May 19, 2005 Posted May 19, 2005 Originally posted by Radil I would give up 10 yrs of my life to take it all back somehow. I believe you.. I hope it all works out for you... and for her.
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