kendahke Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 And I despise small talks. I find it annoying. You need to put a bunch of asterisks around that statement and about 8 lines of space before you launch into the rest your profile. They may just be skimming through looking at pictures and not reading. You can tell them once when they text that you hate chit chat and when they send the next text, block them and move on.
kendahke Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 They already have fixed dates with me. I just don't like talking to them before meeting them. don't make dates with more than 2 days between scheduling and the event. I'd be very put off if some guy said that to me. I'd next him.
Author jam.over.jelly Posted September 30, 2015 Author Posted September 30, 2015 I can't think of a reason why these guys would be insecure. They're fit, tall, and physically very attractive (at least from what I see on their instagrams and fbs)! And because I have looked through their social media sites (to prevent being catfished), they seem to have a full life, good circle of friends, very active, very outdoorsy (just my type basically). Honestly if it weren't because of that, I probably wouldn't consider going on dates with them, up to this point their convos are pretty boring. Well, except for the guy that I met at my friend's house, we talked briefly in person and he's nothing like his texts (more reasons for me to give other guys benefit of the doubt).
RoseVille Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 I can't think of a reasons why these guys would be insecure. They're fit, tall, and physically very attractive (at least from what I see on their instagrams and fbs)! And because I have looked through their social media sites (to prevent being catfished), they seem to have a full life, good circle of friends, very active, very outdoorsy (just my type basically). Honestly if it weren't because of that, I probably wouldn't consider going on dates with them, up to this point their convos are pretty boring. Well, except for the guy that I met at my friend's house, we talked briefly in person and he's nothing like his texts (more reasons for me to give other guys benefit of the doubt). Even the most fit, attractive, social, active, successful, etc. person can be insecure with the opposite sex. 1
Author jam.over.jelly Posted September 30, 2015 Author Posted September 30, 2015 Btw, I totally tried the "Hey, got your text, but I'm super busy!! Look forward to seeing you this weekend though!". And i got the "Oh I'm sorry. No problem, just text me back later". I shouldn't feel bad not texting him back later right?
RoseVille Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 Btw, I totally tried the "Hey, got your text, but I'm super busy!! Look forward to seeing you this weekend though!". And i got the "Oh I'm sorry. No problem, just text me back later". I shouldn't feel bad not texting him back later right? Respond with, "I get so busy, it's hard to just chit chat via text - looking forwarding to talking this weekend!"
Ruby Slippers Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 Btw, I totally tried the "Hey, got your text, but I'm super busy!! Look forward to seeing you this weekend though!". And i got the "Oh I'm sorry. No problem, just text me back later". I shouldn't feel bad not texting him back later right? No, you shouldn't feel bad. My advice is to just take your time to reply to these texts. I don't mind a conservative amount of texting before a meet or first date, but I do not like excessive texting before you establish at least an initial connection and intention to keep dating. Some guys on OLD go crazy with the texting right away. It feels like they're trying to lock you down quickly by creating this pretend relationship. I take my sweet little time to answer texts in these cases, as I just don't want to spend my whole day texting with a stranger or someone I barely know. In almost all cases, they seem to get the hint and dial it down. 2
empresario Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 I once was talking to a girl that was not a 'small talker'. She dropped the hint by saying "hey, I'm more of an in-person sort of girl. Let's talk (the date of our date)." I got that hint fairly fast...as I didn't want her to cancel.
Author jam.over.jelly Posted September 30, 2015 Author Posted September 30, 2015 I once was talking to a girl that was not a 'small talker'. She dropped the hint by saying "hey, I'm more of an in-person sort of girl. Let's talk (the date of our date)." I got that hint fairly fast...as I didn't want her to cancel. Definitely will be telling all the guys that now. Thank you!
joystickd Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 Just quit trying to hint and say stop texting me. So simple a kindergarten kid would understand. When will women learn 1
Author jam.over.jelly Posted September 30, 2015 Author Posted September 30, 2015 Just quit trying to hint and say stop texting me. So simple a kindergarten kid would understand. When will women learn That's just rude
Jinx01 Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 The best way I have found to deal with overly texty people is just to not answer. If they ask you why or complain just say. "I'm so sorry! I'm very busy most of the time and don't have a lot of spare time for small talk."
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