Nocontact101 Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 Hey Guys, I just wanted to start off by saying thanks to everyone that posts here. I've been reading daily and it helps that people are so supportive of each other... But.... I can't carry out NC anymore! I broke up with my bf a week ago today ( not long I know) and I'm finding it extremely difficult. Everything is like a trigger that brings back all these memories, from making a cup of tea (his favourite drink) to waking up in the morning ( he used to sing a song to wake me up lol). We were together for nearly 3 years and so many things happened that it is hard to pinpoint where things went wrong... The thing is I know we are not good for each other and we need space. I don't want him to move on Can anyone give me advice on how to deal with this feeling???? Every part of my soul hurts...
louxor Posted September 29, 2015 Posted September 29, 2015 Hey Guys, I just wanted to start off by saying thanks to everyone that posts here. I've been reading daily and it helps that people are so supportive of each other... But.... I can't carry out NC anymore! I broke up with my bf a week ago today ( not long I know) and I'm finding it extremely difficult. Everything is like a trigger that brings back all these memories, from making a cup of tea (his favourite drink) to waking up in the morning ( he used to sing a song to wake me up lol). We were together for nearly 3 years and so many things happened that it is hard to pinpoint where things went wrong... The thing is I know we are not good for each other and we need space. I don't want him to move on Can anyone give me advice on how to deal with this feeling???? Every part of my soul hurts... If something reminds you of him, get rid of it! It's simple. If you can't make a cup of tea without getting upset, then don't make a cup of tea until these feelings are gone. If you can't wake up without being upset, then change how you wake up. Force yourself to get out of bed right away then go for a walk, run, whatever. It hurts because you are stuck with the habits that involved him. Break them ASAP. Secondly, you know deep down you are not good for each other - You said it yourself. Yes it hurts, yes its's not the ideal situation, but with more time this will become easier to understand. It's only been a week, after 3 years with him. Of course it's going to suck, he's been a part of your life for so long. Give yourself more time to heal, it's going to take more than a week, but every day will get that much easier. Finally about the breaking the NC - What do you hope to achieve in doing this? You are struggling right now, talking to him will not help. May I ask why you broke up though?
d0nnivain Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 Come up with something else to do when you feel like contacting him. Call your BFF. Post here. Go for a walk. Do anything other than call him. You can do this.
Simon Phoenix Posted September 30, 2015 Posted September 30, 2015 (edited) Wait, so you broke up with him and you don't want him to move on? That's pretty damn selfish of you if that's indeed the case. Edited September 30, 2015 by Simon Phoenix 2
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