Is this guy is still interested?

[sas22]

This is my first post on here so I'm sorry if this type of question gets asked all the time. I didn't really know where else to go! On to the longgg story:

 

I met a guy on tinder a little over a month ago (yes i know, tinder). We've been on 4 dates over the last month, pretty much once a week. We didn't kiss or anything until the 3rd date and at the end of 4th date we briefly made out. I'm going at a very slow pace because I'm still pretty inexperienced at 22 yrs old. He texted me the next day saying he wanted to see me again that night and he'd call me after work..well he called me to cancel, saying he was going out with his roommates because he was about to move out. (which he did a couple days later so i don't think he was lying). I went out of town the next day for the weekend and he texted me Friday saying to have a good trip and let him know when i was there safely, making me think he's still interested and cares. We texted a bit on sunday when he asked me what my plans for the week were. I said i'd like to see him sometime and he said he wanted to too and that he'd call me monday (yesterday) after work to do something. Well monday he texted me saying he was exhausted after work so I knew nothing was going to happen.

 

Is he trying to fade away or what? I don't know why he keeps asking me my availability/saying he wants to see me if he doesn't want to actually make plans. I know it's only happened twice but it's twice in a row and i worry about everything. I want to believe he's telling the truth and just hasn't had a good day to hang out, especially since he seems very interested over text (we text almost every day and it's never sexual, making me think that's not all he wants). I told him yesterday to let me know if he wants to do something this week. So I don't know..should I text him or just wait and see if he comes to me? The anxiety is killing me and I don't want to waste my time and energy or get hurt if he is stringing me along.

Edited September 29, 2015 by sas22

[kpl]

Hate to say this, it sounds like he is keeping you as option. Just go back on tinder and meet more ppl and date them. I wouldn't wait for this guy to choose to be with you. I also think it doesn't matter what his texts are saying if he isnt making an effort to see you he is not interested.

[Redhead14]

This is my first post on here so I'm sorry if this type of question gets asked all the time. I didn't really know where else to go! On to the longgg story:

 

I met a guy on tinder a little over a month ago (yes i know, tinder). We've been on 4 dates over the last month, pretty much once a week. We didn't kiss or anything until the 3rd date and at the end of 4th date we briefly made out. I'm going at a very slow pace because I'm still pretty inexperienced at 22 yrs old. He texted me the next day saying he wanted to see me again that night and he'd call me after work..well he called me to cancel, saying he was going out with his roommates because he was about to move out. (which he did a couple days later so i don't think he was lying). I went out of town the next day for the weekend and he texted me Friday saying to have a good trip and let him know when i was there safely, making me think he's still interested and cares. We texted a bit on sunday when he asked me what my plans for the week were. I said i'd like to see him sometime and he said he wanted to too and that he'd call me monday (yesterday) after work to do something. Well later he texted me saying he was exhausted after work so I knew nothing was going to happen.

 

Is he trying to fade away or what? I don't know why he keeps asking me my availability/saying he wants to see me if he doesn't want to actually make plans. I know it's only happened twice but it's twice in a row and i worry about everything. I want to believe he's telling the truth and just hasn't had a good day to hang out, especially since he seems very interested over text (we text almost every day and it's never sexual, making me think that's not all he wants). I told him yesterday to let me know if he wants to do something this week. So I don't know..should I text him or just wait and see if he comes to me? The anxiety is killing me and I don't want to waste my time and energy or get hurt if he is stringing me along.

 

Just sit back and observe. Let him come to you. The ball is in his court, you told him to let you know if he wants to get together. Let him do that. If he asks about availability again and doesn't follow through, move on.

[Zippy2000]

Hes not fading if he is contacting you to give you reason to cancel.

 

His room mates where moving out and the other time he was too exhausted.

 

Disappointing I know, and I feel for you. Did he counter offer and ask for another date?

[Nemetona]

When a man is interested in dating you he does precisely that --- he sets a date for when you can next meet up. He's not vague.

[jam.over.jelly]

Man I hate this when it happens. Seems like he's having someone else that he's more interested in right now, could be an ex, could be someone he's talking to before he even talks to you. Regardless, this never ends well.

[sas22]

He texted me when he got off work today. We talked for a bit and he asked about my weekend plans - he wants us to go to this festival downtown this weekend. So this will be my last straw. If he cancels again I'll say something or just give up. Thanks for the responses guys!