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Finally did it..completely dumped the Sociopath and let him know I new he was one.

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He did it again the promises and then weird behavior of disappointment and not living up to his promises. I texted him he was a complete sociopath and I knew his game. I said they are predictable, bland, boring, and unintelligent. Him. I believe it worked, I have not heard a bleep! Yay!

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Why poke a rat? What is the benefit in that?

 

If this person is truly a sociopath, stay away from him. Cease all contact and don’t poke at him any more. Sociopaths are dangerous.

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Why poke a rat? What is the benefit in that?

 

If this person is truly a sociopath, stay away from him. Cease all contact and don’t poke at him any more. Sociopaths are dangerous.

 

Exactly. It is bad form to bash someone when breaking it off. You don't really know who or what you are dealing with. He may be "unstable" and begin stalking or lash out in some way.

 

It is always best to simply tell them you no longer wish to see them. They might still stalk you, you never really know. But an angry, hurt stalker is worse.

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OMG, on September 22nd I said I am giving this ONE week !! (sorry I could not resist!!)

 

Glad you saw the light Celeste!! Now stay AWAY because he will try to contact you again and you need to ignore him.

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I agree with the other posters. If he is a real psychopath - stay away and do not have any contact. If you can change your phone number and block him from all social media - you'd be doing yourself a big favor.

 

Psychopaths don't care if you think they are a psychopath. But read up first - none of us should really call someone a psychopath but if he has the traits - it doesn't matter. Stay no contact. Save yourself a lot of trouble.

 

Well done....... I just hope for you that really is it and he doesn't bother you again. We will see. Good luck.

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He did it again the promises and then weird behavior of disappointment and not living up to his promises. I texted him he was a complete sociopath and I knew his game. I said they are predictable, bland, boring, and unintelligent. Him. I believe it worked, I have not heard a bleep! Yay!

 

Good for you Celeste...and thank the Lord! :)

 

 

But seriously girl, if you don't mind my asking, what makes this time any different from all the other times he's acted like a sociopathic douchebag and you've said and done the same exact thing? He then emails you (or YOU get weak and email him -- by accident) and the whole thing starts up again.

 

 

We have all been to this rodeo with you before. So has HE!

 

 

I would like to have faith that you actually mean it this time.... so again, what makes THIS time different?

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Thanks for your concern guys! :) No, I laid it out so there was NO MORE. If I thought he was a dangerous one I would not have. He is the charmer, wants to get laid, but then do sadistic type sex... I won because he is gone. He will not come back, (does not matter I will not reply) I called him out, he can no longer try to play games. Funny, I told him I was Misty Eyed, no wait actually laughing! Ha ha. I feel good!

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I agree with the other posters. If he is a real psychopath - stay away and do not have any contact. If you can change your phone number and block him from all social media - you'd be doing yourself a big favor.

 

Psychopaths don't care if you think they are a psychopath. But read up first - none of us should really call someone a psychopath but if he has the traits - it doesn't matter. Stay no contact. Save yourself a lot of trouble.

 

Well done....... I just hope for you that really is it and he doesn't bother you again. We will see. Good luck.

 

I looked up the characteristics: He had EVERY one, if he is not than poor fellow is a dopplengar of one!

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I hope for you this man was just a player and not a psychopath. The most charming man I ever met was a psychopath. Most psychopaths are more charming than your average man..... they don't advertise who they really are.

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Thanks for your concern guys! :) No, I laid it out so there was NO MORE. If I thought he was a dangerous one I would not have. He is the charmer, wants to get laid, but then do sadistic type sex... I won because he is gone. He will not come back, (does not matter I will not reply) I called him out, he can no longer try to play games. Funny, I told him I was Misty Eyed, no wait actually laughing! Ha ha. I feel good!

 

Again, that's fab hun, but it's the SAME EXACT thing you said and did last time... a little over a week ago.... and then got back together with him a few days later.

 

 

In any event, I am happy you finally ended it, and I hope when he emails you again (which he will)...you can stay strong and stay away FOR GOOD!

 

 

Good luck going forward! And fingers crossed that your decision sticks this time!! :bunny:

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I hope for you this man was just a player and not a psychopath. The most charming man I ever met was a psychopath. Most psychopaths are more charming than your average man..... they don't advertise who they really are.

 

 

 

He is both. He is really sadistic with the type of sex he likes. He needs complete control and likes to inflict pain. Stuff like that. I think he hates women. Oh his charm is the top of the charts.

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He is both. He is really sadistic with the type of sex he likes. He needs complete control and likes to inflict pain. Stuff like that. I think he hates women. Oh his charm is the top of the charts.

 

I don't know if you have read up about psychopaths but I think you would really benefit but I did mention this before. I really wish you luck...

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He is both. He is really sadistic with the type of sex he likes. He needs complete control and likes to inflict pain. Stuff like that. I think he hates women. Oh his charm is the top of the charts.

 

So between your last thread and this one you had sex with him for the 1st time?

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So between your last thread and this one you had sex with him for the 1st time?

 

 

 

No he started speaking of what he expects...and demands. A person sending him videos of them doing all sorts of weird thing. And they were demands. I was flirting talking of some new heels I got fresh out of the box he could lick. He said, "For that, I will take that heel and shove it in your ass," !!!!!

 

 

I was curious at first. I feel a hatred now. No worries me going back. :)

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He is both. He is really sadistic with the type of sex he likes. He needs complete control and likes to inflict pain. Stuff like that. I think he hates women. Oh his charm is the top of the charts.

 

 

You are convinced that he is a sociopath and I think he hates women and He needs complete control and likes to inflict pain -- and yet, you don't feel like he could be of any threat to you for calling him out or bashing him?

 

This is matter of safety. If you even remotely suspect that a man has a propensity to be abusive or is a sociopath/psychopath, you back away calmly and respectfully and stick to no contact.

 

Oh his charm is the top of the charts -- this is how psychopaths operate. They get you hooked on charm and then the real them emerges.

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You are convinced that he is a sociopath and I think he hates women and He needs complete control and likes to inflict pain -- and yet, you don't feel like he could be of any threat to you for calling him out or bashing him?

 

This is matter of safety. If you even remotely suspect that a man has a propensity to be abusive or is a sociopath/psychopath, you back away calmly and respectfully and stick to no contact.

 

Oh his charm is the top of the charts -- this is how psychopaths operate. They get you hooked on charm and then the real them emerges.

 

I do not think so. We live an hour apart. He owns a large business and has children etc. I would hope not. I think he just moves on to the next girl. Plus he has that on and off again girlfriend he says they sport f** when they make up and break up. Nice words for a gal you claim to have loved. Barf. ha ha

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He is both. He is really sadistic with the type of sex he likes. He needs complete control and likes to inflict pain. Stuff like that. I think he hates women. Oh his charm is the top of the charts.

Ewww. I don't care if he sh*ts $50 bills. The FIRST time perv boy started his pain parade on me in bed, he would have been booted right out on his loser ass so fast I would have had to FedEx his shadow to him the next day. What a douche canoe.

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I do not think so. We live an hour apart. He owns a large business and has children etc. I would hope not. I think he just moves on to the next girl. Plus he has that on and off again girlfriend he says they sport f** when they make up and break up. Nice words for a gal you claim to have loved. Barf. ha ha

 

 

What's the common denominator among serial killers?

 

Oh he was so nice

He was such a good dad

He was a nice neighbor

He was a nice boss

He seems so normal

 

 

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Geez I hope he is not Gaeta. I believe the good thing is, I think he found new supply, I was too difficult, and he wanted me to dump him...something. He emailed me he had a free night, and really wanted to talk to me on phone, a nice call, good stuff, etc. Well again, no call....poofs. I texted...nothing. So I just dumped and boy did I dump.

 

 

Thankfully, it is over. I was not nice and he has no game to come back to. the fool is gone.

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Geez I hope he is not Gaeta. I believe the good thing is, I think he found new supply, I was too difficult, and he wanted me to dump him...something. He emailed me he had a free night, and really wanted to talk to me on phone, a nice call, good stuff, etc. Well again, no call....poofs. I texted...nothing. So I just dumped and boy did I dump.

 

 

Thankfully, it is over. I was not nice and he has no game to come back to. the fool is gone.

 

I am trying to convince you to never talk to him again and to ignore any future communication he will have with you. You think he won't contact you again but he will.

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I do not think so. We live an hour apart. He owns a large business and has children etc. I would hope not. I think he just moves on to the next girl. Plus he has that on and off again girlfriend he says they sport f** when they make up and break up. Nice words for a gal you claim to have loved. Barf. ha ha

 

We live an hour apart? He owns a large business?

 

Reading your posts - I think you are not in touch with reality. I was with a psychopath that owned a large business and had children - and that lived in another country - but did that stop him flying to my place and ringing my doorbell for days on end?

 

It didn't stop him from offering people large sums of money to arrange a meeting where he could show up?

 

It didn't stop him from many, many more things. Psychopaths are very sick people and you are putting yourself in danger by having ANY contact with him.

 

It has taken me over two years to get my life back on track.. I've had to cut friends out of my life - move to another country and start my life all over because he would not leave me alone. He kept telling me how much he loved me - he kept wanting to marry me - but he was a cheating lying psychopath that is a danger to everybody that comes into contact with him.

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I briefly dated a psychopath about 2 years ago. Ugh!

 

Then last year I was out on the beach and got a text message from him out of nowhere as if nothing had happened "hi how are you lah lah lah" :sick:

 

After realizing who it was, I answered back something in the lines of: stop contacting me you psychopath, or I'll get a restraining order against you.

 

Never heard from him again. Yay.

 

Good thing about being around one once is that it's quite easy to identify it next time. Main signs: love bombing, extreme charm, and in his case, lack of direction in life (usually) disguised as having something "big" coming on business-wise just around the corner. Yeah sure.

 

Funny thing is no one believed me he was a psychopath when I posted it on loveshack, everyone was like "how can you be diagnosing him, how can you know"? and defended the guy. LOL. We do know when someone is a psychopath after you understand their modus operandi.

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Thanks guys we are really done. my focus and interest is completely dead!!!

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